I've got eczema on my hands, so sometimes they'll get so dry they crack and bleed! Here's what I do at night:

First, you need a 1% hydrocortisone cream. You can get them without a prescription at drugstores. It contains a steroid that causes your skin to retain moisture.

Then, you need a pair of thin cotton gloves. Drugstores sell those as well.

You put a thin layer of the cream on the areas that are dry, then put on the gloves overnight. It really helps the cream to sink in.

Personally, I'd have to say don't go anywhere. You're dooming your relationship from the start if you give away the goods right away!

If you just met him, of course you'll be uncomfortable climbing around on him. Wait till you know him better. If he's not willing to wait for you, then he's not worth giving it up for :)

Risking the one! Yay!

You shouldn't take any of them. It's an incredibly dangerous drug, especially for someone of your size.

Even the first time you take it, you can die, because there are often impurities and extras in it. For years after, you can experience flashbacks as the residue leaches out of your spinal fluid. Not a good thing.

Also, it's illegal, and we really can't give out illegal advice. You wouldn't want us to get in trouble, would you?

There are a few types of engineers that would all work together on designing roller coasters. It's way too big a job for just one person to do!

Mechanical: for all the moving parts.

Civil: for the stuff that isn't supposed to move (the actual structure and supports)

Electrical: For the electrical systems involved.

They may also use an architect to help make it pretty.

I think that divorce is fairly prevalent for many reasons. However, I really don't support divorce unless it's a case of abuse or repeated adultery. I'm one of those hopeless romantics who thinks that marriage isn't something to be rushed into, and that it should be forever. Divorce with no better cause than "we don't particularly care for each other" cheapens marriage, in my opinion.

- People tend to get married without having spent enough time together. Before anyone gets married, they should deal with big fights, morning breath and getting bored with each other. It's overcoming these things that makes marriage successful, not avoiding them!

- Getting married too young. If you get married at 18, chances are by 25 you'll have grown up and apart. People change a lot in their early years, and it's difficult to make sure those changes happen in step with your partner's. Now, I don't mean to be judgmental by saying this. I was engaged at 19, but I'm still not married at 22, because I wanted to wait until I was older.

- Marriage means a lifetime commitment. Sometimes that scares people. They rush into it because it's all oh so romantic, and then they look in the mirror 5, 10, 20 years later and realize it's going to be an eternity of flossing next to the other person. Not so romantic.

- Getting bored can be an issue. People fall into ruts all the time. It's hard work to keep a relationship from getting into a rut. Think about spending all your time with the same person for 40 years. It's easy to get bored! That's why you need someone who can keep you on your toes :)

- Even as recently as 20-30 years ago, it was still expected for women to get married. They didn't have the same opportunities that women today have. Women today can be anything and support themselves, because we're approximately equal earners and can go into whatever field we want. Women were to be wives first, workers MAYBE second. That's all changed, and women don't feel a need to validate themselves by getting married or staying married.

So, you seem to understand that it's not right to put those kinds of restrictions on your husband. He's married, not dead! It's not at all ridiculous and immature, though. Your marriage is new, you're young, and he's got these mystery women hanging around. You just need to get rid of the mystery.

You do need to get to know these female friends, but not over the phone or just by bumping into them.

Tell your husband that he has these friends, and if they're important to him that you want to get to know them. Try having one of them and their husband/boyfriend if they have one over for dinner or drinks. Just a low-key thing to help you get to know the girl and see her dynamics with your husband. Then you'll know that she has no bad intentions towards him and that she's not a threat. You'll feel a million times better.

Unfortunately, unless it's targeting a particular individual (i.e. a website set up to pick on someone) or exploiting a minor, there's really nothing that can be done.

If it's either of the above, call your local police and they'll be able to refer you to the correct authorities to deal with it.

The internet is all about collaboration, free speech and the sharing of information. Just because one group may be offended by something another group is saying, it doesn't mean that everyone will be. Your best bet is to block it on your browser, assuming it isn't criminal.

The lap band is a procedure that puts a small ring, almost like an inner tube around the stomach. This separates off the stomach into two compartments. It is adjustable by means of injecting or removing fluid from the ring through a tap near the skin. It's also reversible.

Gastric bypass surgery is when you make the stomach into two compartments and attach the small intestine to the small compartment. It's much riskier, and irreversible.

In engineering, one generally doesn't double major. I'm in electrical engineering, and it's a 40 hour week as is.

A lot of schools will offer a major in engineering with a minor in social sciences or business, but not a double major.

What you're going to need to do is step up and be really mature and understanding.

This sounds like a serious case of unchecked mental illness. Your mother could have a serious problem like depression, bipolar disorder or schizophrenia.

On one of her good days, you need to suggest to her that she go for counselling. Don't be accusing, don't be on the offense. No using the word crazy, no cursing, no shouting. Just tell her that you think that she's been struggling a bit in dealing with things, and that you want her to get help. Tell her you'll be there the whole time as long as she promises to try.

If you feel you need to, have another family member around, or a strong male family friend who can protect you if she gets violent. If she is a danger to you or to herself, call the police and have her taken to the hospital where she can be supervised and forced into treatment.

If she refuses to try and get help, then you need to leave the house. It is not a healthy environment, and you shouldn't have to deal with someone who has no intentions of changing like that.

This all sounds very harsh, but I went through the same thing from your mom's end a few years ago. I would react horribly to small things. Fortunately, because my fiance did have me taken to the hospital, they were able to diagnose and treat me, and now things are a lot better!

Generally you can get free condoms at Planned Parenthood clinics or at school counsellors. You can't get birth control pills for free, but I know my university offers them for $10 a month and so does the family planning clinic nearby.

If you can't handle a pregnancy right now, you should be using both the pill and condoms. If you can't afford it, you can't afford to have sex, unfortunately.

Tell him he can still play, but if he gets too rough remind him gently that they are, in fact, attached to your body. It's a common guy problem; they don't realize how much abuse breasts can and can't take.

If it makes you happy, keep doing it! It's a zero risk activity... except for a few minor bruises, that is ;)

The pill is not fail-safe. Heck, that's why I'm in existence! If you're sick, or you take antibiotics, or take it at the wrong time, there's a risk. Even when it all goes down perfectly, there's still a tiny risk.

I always advocate the use of several forms of birth control if you're not prepared to deal with a pregnancy. Condom, birth control pill/shot/patch and spermicidal lube.

If your boyfriend has a problem with this, too bad for him. It's your body, your choice.

Don't worry about it. Guys are curved all sorts of ways... up, down, left, right...

In fact, it can actually be a plus. When they're curved, it can stimulate different parts of the girl.

If you are with a girl who doesn't know about this, just let her know it's totally normal, just the way you were born.

The orgasm does not cause the egg to descend. The egg descends at about the same time in your cycle (around the middle, day 14). You release one or two eggs per month.

You can most certainly get pregnant if you don't climax! You should always use protection. If you're worried about getting pregnant, double up: use the pill and a condom, and get a spermicidal lubricant.

Nothing of the sort, unfortunately, or things would be much better all around the world!

The only way to prevent getting AIDS is by making sure that you and your partner get tested before any sexual contact, every time you have a new partner. If they're not worth the time to go to the clinic and get tested, they're not worth having sex with!

You may be bisexual. Right now, you'd be called "bi-curious" because you know you like men, but you don't know if you like women.

You can't get pregnant from having sex with women, but you can get STDs, so be sure to get tested just the same.

No, it absolutely is not true.

You can get an STD so long as there's fluid-to-fluid contact.

She may have been lucky because he was at a time when his sores were down and he was less contagious, but she is in serious danger if she continues having unprotected sex!

Herpes is forever, and it should NOT be taken lightly. Tell your friend that she's wrong and she needs to a) get tested and b) be more careful!

This person isn't a man, or even a boy. He's a dickhead (pardon the language!). Forget this jerk and find someone with basic common courtesy, not to mention someone who treats a lady with more respect!

You should never have apologized for not having oral sex with him. That's your choice, not his. You don't want it, he doesn't get it. End of story.

For the future: any guy that "cusses out" any girl is trash. Plain and simple.

First things first: Just because he has had sex with other women does NOT mean that it won't be awkward and clumsy! It's always awkward the first few times, no matter how many other people you've had sex with. Just think of driving... if you switch cars, things will be weird with the new one for a while, right?

If you do choose to have sex with him, here's my rundown of things every woman should do before having sex:

1) STDs

Both of you need to go get tested if either of you has had oral, anal or vaginal sex with anyone else. Do this BEFORE having sex.

2) Protection

What kinds of protection are you going to use? (I always suggest two or more: the pill/shot and condoms, preferably with a spermicidal or HPV killing lubricant). Are both of you on board with this?

3) The "what if" game

You've probably got all sorts of questions bouncing around in your head. What if I get pregnant? What if we get caught? What if... Put those doubts to use, and ask him anything that you're not sure on. If you have severely differing viewpoints, you may want to hold off for a while.

So. As for the rest... if you're not sure about having sex with him, hold off for a while. Hey, you said you'd give him your virginity, but that doesn't mean right now, does it? Wait as long as it takes for you to feel comfortable. Tell him that's what you're doing, and that until you tell him yes, he's getting nowhere. If you're not comfortable in the end or if he's immature about it, then don't have sex with him.

As for not loving him, I'd say that is essential. It's messy, it's awkward, it's a little painful. You need to be with someone you love and trust completely in order to fully enjoy sex. That's yet another reason why waiting is good.

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In my last 8 years with Advicenators, I've gone from honours student to failing out of university (and getting back on top again!), from single to married, from tenant to homeowner.

Until lately, I have been struggling with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and OCD, which had basically ruined my life and taken just about everything from me. I'm thankful every day for every experience I've had because of this ordeal, because it's helped to make me who I am today. Things like that really make you appreciate what you do have. Now that I'm back in work and school and starting to become myself again, I couldn't be happier. I credit Advicenators with saving my life back when I was a teenager, which is a big part of why I'm still here.

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