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Okay so basically my mom is Crazy.
Ever since i was in fifth grade (I'm now 19) Shes just been ridiculous. Every time shes having a horrible day she'll come home and lock everyone out of the house. Its gotten to the point where my older brother will kick down the door.
There was one time when she was mad at me, she came up to me, hit me with shoes and then smeared peanut butter all over and and called the police.
I honestly don't know what to do anymore, i'm at my wits end. She constantly puts me down and says hurtful things all the time. I feel like the reason im so shy is because of how shes acted my whole life.
How do i approach her and let her know how im feeling, with out it turning into a crazy bitch fest? Im sick and tired of everytime i try talking to her in a reasonable tone and having her attack me.
I just dont know what to do someone help me
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What you're going to need to do is step up and be really mature and understanding.
This sounds like a serious case of unchecked mental illness. Your mother could have a serious problem like depression, bipolar disorder or schizophrenia.
On one of her good days, you need to suggest to her that she go for counselling. Don't be accusing, don't be on the offense. No using the word crazy, no cursing, no shouting. Just tell her that you think that she's been struggling a bit in dealing with things, and that you want her to get help. Tell her you'll be there the whole time as long as she promises to try.
If you feel you need to, have another family member around, or a strong male family friend who can protect you if she gets violent. If she is a danger to you or to herself, call the police and have her taken to the hospital where she can be supervised and forced into treatment.
If she refuses to try and get help, then you need to leave the house. It is not a healthy environment, and you shouldn't have to deal with someone who has no intentions of changing like that.
This all sounds very harsh, but I went through the same thing from your mom's end a few years ago. I would react horribly to small things. Fortunately, because my fiance did have me taken to the hospital, they were able to diagnose and treat me, and now things are a lot better!
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yep a letter will work. also emails are ok if she gets them. maybe even a text message or voicemail. make sure though that when she reads it, she's in a somewhat safe area. i've heard about people who read something bad and then feel horrible and then do something bad. (example- like trash the house and throw everything. or take a knife and cut themselves etc.)
and yes, tell her you love her and all you want is for her to become a better person
good luck!
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Hay what's up.
I think before you leave to school or something you should write here a note, leave it somewhere you know she'll look. This will give her the time to think and hopefully its quiet so she can be able to have that calm moment.
The reason why I think this might work is because when you write to people it is a different feel and they don't got the chance to yell at you cuz all there is to do is to read the letter and lesson to what you wrote
So also just let her no in the letter you love her but you want her to change or stop taking things out on you, I think she will understand.
Hope things work out.......Bye
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