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not sure how far to go with new guy
heyy so i have a question that needs to be answered by saturday because thats when the date is!!! This cute guy asked me outt and we've been texting. I only met him once at a dance (but don't worry i know him through friends) so i really only talked to him in person for a little bit and i know he wants to hook up with me this weekend. I mean he seems really into me but we only met once and pretty briefly! I'm just nervous because i've really only hooked up with a guy once, i mean i've kissed guys but never really in a date like situation except one time, where its just us together, one on one all night.
I know he wants to hook up and i do too its just that first of all I'm really self conscious about my body. I'm short but not really thin so I'm worried if we're laying down and i get on top of him I'll just be really uncomfortable same with if he tries to feel me up just because I'm not comfortable with my body. Also I'm worried about being a bad kisser! i mean the last guy i hoked up with didn't have any complaints! But I'm just worried since I only met this kid once and we're gonna hang out and he won't like em or will think i'm a bad kisser.
I know this is stupid and I guess it's just nerves but doesn't anyone ever feel like this or have any advice!? Thanks so muchhhh
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I agree with parts of what Ninjaneer and lucydarling are saying - that you certainly own your own body and don't have to do anything you don't want to do, etc. etc. - but they are being just a little sex-negative here. I think you should feel free to kiss this guy if you like him and even make out a bit. Why not? Just wait until you know him a little better before you have sex (with protection!) - It will take a few dates to know for sure he's not a jerk who'll tell all his friends and try to make you look like a slut. So have fun, kiss, touch each other a little, and save the rest for a second, third or fourth date. And be confident! Nothing's sexier than knowing what you want and going for it.
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You don't HAVE to do anything you don't want to do. If you want things to work out and go smoothly then DON'T rush things, If you do...Well then you only gave him another reason to think that you are easy to get with. Do not feel like you have to do anything with a guy, It is your body. At least give yourself that much self respect to do things when YOU feel you are ready and comfortable. I personally don't believe in hook ups, one night stands etc. This is where girls/guys sometimes dig themselves a deep hole. They go out and do something dumb and regret it later on down the line. Save yourself for someone you have been with and know really well. Trust me, You won't regret it that way
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Personally, I'd have to say don't go anywhere. You're dooming your relationship from the start if you give away the goods right away!
If you just met him, of course you'll be uncomfortable climbing around on him. Wait till you know him better. If he's not willing to wait for you, then he's not worth giving it up for :)
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