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PLEASE HELP ME IM ONLY 14!
i'm 14 years old female. i had sex with my boyfriend 4 days after my period we did it with a condom then i gave him a hand job and about a hour later we did it a little without a condom and he didn't cum in my though. is there still a chance i can get pregnant from when he cumed before the 2nd time?
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Xenolan is NOT being scary but actually very realisitc. When people are actually TRYING to make a baby they have a 25% chance each month to actually "time it just right" to get pregnant.
Ovulation is usually the time women get pregnant because the egg is in the perfect conditions. Sperm are able to live longer in the female's body at this time because of the slight temperature change within her and because of the add mucus to help them swim to the egg.
Ovulation usually happens around day 14 to 15 for most women. Most is not "all" though and we should keep that in mind.
Example: I, personally, ovulate on day 20 of my cycle. That's a good 5 days difference. When you couple that with the fact that sperm have been found STILL ALIVE as long as two weeks after ejaculation into the female's body--PREGNANCY RISK!
It is also true that condoms are NOT 100% effective on preventing pregnancy. A most realistic percentage is actually about 88% with TYPICAL usage.
Your boyfriend is constantly making healthy sperm that can travel up into your uterus and fertilize your ONE egg. A full ejaculation contains as many as 100 million sperm at a time, and sperm within pre-ejaculate can be as many as a few million. If a guy ejaculates a second time shortly after the first the count has dropped but not as many as you would like to hope. I would gather to say it would probably be around half of the average amount he produces, especially given his young age.
You're risking your health and the rest of your life. Is this something you REALLY want to risk? 14 is really young to become a mother.
Think about it.
There ARE better things to do with your boyfriend that will help to bond you two and strengthen the relationship you two have.
You can prove your love and feel good in so many ways. It's a shame that teens don't realize that now. You don't need to throw sex around to have a good time to show someone you care. My suggestion for the time being is simply this:
Make memories of your youth.
When you're older you'll have something to say. Your grandchildren will all sit around, wanting you to tell them about the time you and grandpa went out and did this and that. They'll come to you advice on how to make their own relationships work and you'll be able to say, "It isn't about having sex. It isn't about saying you're going to marry them. It's about life, love, and making lasting memories together."
I feel sad that a lot of the teenagers now won't have a "how we met" story other than, "We met at a party and starting making out and had sex." I feel sad that teenagers will have to say, "I was engaged to 3 guys before he asked me and we got married." I feel sad that they won't have anything to say about what they did together other than, "Well, we we could see each other, we had sex. Sometimes with a condom, sometimes without. We had a few pregnancy scares." I feel sad that they will have to tell their own children things like, "No, your mother/father wasn't my first sexually. I lost my virginity when I was 13 to this one guy/girl. I had been with 13 people prior to your mother/father."
Go roller-blading.
See concerts.
Go to the park and watch old people in love.
Lay on the ground and look at the clouds.
Go on movie dates.
Share a milkshake.
Read books together.
Go have a few double-dates with your best friend.
Volunteer together.
Talk to strangers together and see if you can help brighten their day.
Help each other grow.
Don't worry about sex.
The time will come when that will really be important.
The time is not now.
Be 14.
Be 15.
Be 16.
Be 17.
Be 18.
Be 19.
Be 20.
Be 21.
Enjoy your youth while you can, and look back to laugh and smile at the good, wholesome memories.
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listen chill out you will be fine. this time but next time you should prob find a way to get on birthcontrol and always use a condom when your going to have sex without birthcontrol i would guess that the thrill of haveing sex without a condom is great but in the end is worth geting pregnant over do you want to go to school hang with frieds when you want and party and sleep in and not have to get a job.
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always. use. a. condom.
even though the below advicenators are right, it may not be 100% effective, but you have a higher chance of NOT getting pregnant if you practce safe sex, like birth control too. but you are very young, and you have your whole life ahead of you.. sex is a very mature thing and youre still young yet.
i know youre probably freaking out, but you have a high chance of pregancy, because even if he didnt cum in you, he most likely produced pre cum and that can get you prgnant also. not wearing a condom is VERY risky.
so yes, there is a chance you could be pregnant. do go out and take a test.. and for your own sake, try to refrain from any sexual activities with your boyfriend. sweetie, youre YOUNG; live it up WITHOUT a pregnancy bringing you down.
good luck, i hope youre not pregnant.. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
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Xenolan is being a little overly scary, but he/she is basically right. Yes, you can get pregnant from what you describe. Buy a test, use it. Assuming you're not pregnant, the next order of business is to SLOW THE F*CK DOWN and think before you have sex the next time. There is NO good reason for you to be having sex without a condom right now. And if you've decided to be sexually active, you should talk with your mom about going on the pill. A pregnancy before you're done with high school - really, I'd say before you're done with at least your first three years of college - is going to slow down your career and life like you wouldn't believe. Be careful, darlin'.
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Yes, there is a chance. Any time you have unprotected sex, there's an average 25% chance of conception. You should get a test and figure out for sure.
I strongly recommend you avoid sex for the next few years, even protected sex. Condoms aren't 100% effective, every time. You are also under the legal age of consent (16 in most states), which means that if anyone found out about it, your boyfriend could be charged with statutory rape even if you were willing.
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Sorry to tell you,yes!
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