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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.

I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.

ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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I'm 15 years old, and im currently with someone that is 31, And I can honestly say I have VERY strong feeling for him. I know that sounds SO bad, if someone ever told me that I would be speechless. I also im aware that it is illegal. But I am very mature for my age, and im not satisfied being with guys my age. Their just way to immature. I just would like some feedback on what you guys think? (Please no rude comments) Thanks!

Usually, I'm all for love and age is just a number, but you have to draw the line somewhere. I don't think this relationship is right. I'm not at all trying to be rude, but he's old enough to be your father.

How would you feel if your dad was dating one of your friends?

-Laura. (16-f)

i really like these bracelets, they're like made out of rope and people can make them our of string or something i really really like them and i want one, does anyone know where i can find them? or a website that teaches me how to make them? thankss

Oh, I think my friend's brother just gave me one of those =]

They look really easy to make, and you can get the supplies at most craft stores [like Michael's, Wal Mart, etc.] You can also look for a book at your local bookstore which would be the best for learning for to make them.

-Laura. (16-f)

im going back to school in a couple of days and im gonig to be wearing the same clothes i wore last year. im really worried cuhz people care about that kind of stuff. and i can only afford a couple of jeans and a few shirts. i also only get about 200 dollars a month, but that's not just for clothes, it's for everything, my parents don't give me additional money. i really wish we could wear uniforms so i wouldnt have to worry about this. ive been trying to get a job so please don't tell me i should do that, my towns population is a million and jobs are scarce. ive been spending about 5-10 dollars on shirts, and 10-20 on pants. is there anywhere that could be cheaper? also if you're in the same situation, please tell me how you deal with this. haha, im dirt poor :/

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542839

From there:
Forever 21, Steve & Barry's, and Old Navy would be my suggestions. You can also try Target.

-Laura. (16-f)

i've been having many dreams of being pregnant, does anyone know what that could mean?

There are countless websites out there to help us figure out what all of our crazy dreams mean =]

-Laura. (16-f)

So, when I was younger, I wasn't really attractive. I had glasses and what not. When I was in 5th - 7th grade I never went a week with out a boyfriend.It is sad. I lived at apartments. I got asked to have sex a lott. But i never did. I am going into freshmen year now and I am still a virgin. I have to say I am good looking now. I get comments from guys more than like 20 times a day on how hot I am. I get asked to have sex at a minimum of 3 times a day. I am still a virgin but don't want to be. But I don't really want to have a like 1 night stand with a friend.

I was dating somebody last year, but it was a secretive relationship. He wanted to have sex and I said no. I really regret it. Cause all the people that I like are experienced and I'm not. So I don't want to be having sex or getting fingered or anything with my friends when I'm still a virgin.

But I really want to have sex and stuff with them, but it is embarrassing.

I really need advice!!

Pleaseeee help me!!

If you're NOT ready to have sex, then DON'T. It's such a simple thing to figure out. Just because people are interested in you sexually, doesn't mean you have to go and give up your virginity like it's nothing.

Don't just think about having sex, think of all the things that come with it. Are you ready to raise a baby? How about contract an STD? There's so much more involved with it than just "doing it".

Really think about what you're doing, and hopefully, you'll make the right choice.

-Laura. (16-f)

I am a very tall girl so i like to avoid wearing heels. I am also very into fashion and i find it hard to keep up without wearing heels.What are suggestions of any fashionable outfits i can waer with fashoinable flats?
pictures would be nice...or detailed descriptions
Thank you very much
p.s all suggestions are welcome:-)

Flats usually look best with skinny jeans or knee length skirts. I personally think something like these would be really cute:

Jeans:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=btms%5Fjeans&product%5Fid=2050600518&Page=1

Top:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=fashion%5Fsweaters&product%5Fid=2051726688&Page=1

Skirt:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=btms%5Fskirts&product%5Fid=2052219726&Page=1

Top:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=outwr%5Fblazers&product%5Fid=2051484426&Page=1

I hope this helps =]

-Laura. (16-f)

So i was talking to this guy when he totally just ditched me and started talking to someone else..i couldnt believe it..i fell for his game and now i regret ever talking to him..how do i get over this guy? I feel like there was no closure with him..he just ditched me one day

I'd forget about him. Why waste time thinking about him when all he did was hurt you?

Spend time with friends to get your mind off of him. Go shopping, read a book, listen to music, clean your room. Just forget about him. He's obviously just a jerk anyways =/

-Laura. (16-f)

PLEASE NOTE: i JUST googled "best hair products" and i didn't quite find what i was looking for.

i have naturally REASONABLY straight hair, very thick (i'm indian), and it gets greasy fast.

usually, i blowdry and straighten, and sometimes i just let it airdry.

i wanted to know... what are your favorite hair products? please take into consideration my hair type!

feel free to contribute to any of the following categories:
- smooth & / or silky
- straight
- shine
- soft
- maintains fly-aways
- smells good

for either shampoo, conditioner, hairspray, creams... etc.

i'm NOT looking for volume! my hair is already very thick and when i wear it curly it extends like 2 feet away from my head.

NOTHING ABOVE $20 PLEASE!

thank youu

First of all straightening and blowdrying your hair a lot causes major damage. Therefore, I'd reccommend using a repairing product. I don't know of any myself, as I'm not into the blowdry and straighten everyday thing, but I'm sure if you go to your local drugstore and into the shampoo/conditioner isle, they'll have a few to choose from.

Some products I personally like, are Garnier Frutis. I especially like the hairspray and conditioner. Dove also makes amazing shampoo. I think the one I use [and like a lot] is Cool Moisture. It makes your hair really soft and shiny. =]

-Laura. (16-f)

Hi,
I wanted to ask is there any way to decrease the length of my period, so shorten it? Are there any natural ways? nothing like pills or birth control but other stuff? And does excercise make it last longer or shorter?
Thanks a lot everyone and for all your help in advance.
M.
xxx

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545173

From there:
There is no natural way to make your period come sooner or later, or last longer or not as long.

The only way exercise will affect your period, is if you completely change your physical activity level. For example, if you start working out every single day instead of once a week.

-Laura. (16-f)

15/f

a guy asked me out and we are making plans to hang out this weekend. were going to watch a movie together at a mall. this is the first time im ever going on a date with a guy and i really need some pointers and tips on what to say, do, act etc. please help! im really nervous!!

and i also asked my bff to come with me (shes bringing her boyfriend) because my parents wont let me go out unless i bring a friend with.

HELP IM FREAKING OUT HERE!!

The best thing you can do, is be yourself. Don't try to act a certain way, or talk a certain way JUST to get this guy to like you. You want him to like you for YOU, not somebody you're pretending to be.

Other than that, don't be nervous! It's really not a huge deal, and the fact that your best friend is coming with makes it even more of a comfortable situation. And always remember, this boy is probably JUST as nervous as you are =]

-Laura. (16-f)

Okay, so I cheer. I believe it's a sport. What is your take. I do not see why people believe it's not. Like honestly, we throw people in the hair, flip around, etc. And we recieve no credit. I would like to know what people think, and why they think it. Please support your anwser: I will rate based on how well you support yourself.

I think it IS a sport, because:
- you are on a team.
- you compete.
- it takes a lot of effort.

When you think about it, it's just like all of the other sports out there [and maybe even tougher than some]. I believe the reason some don't consider it a sport, as terrible as this sounds, is because it's mainly a female sport.

-Laura. (16-f)

Ok, I want 2 know what's the signs of herpies, and HIV

Please tell me

We are not doctors here, and if you think you may have either of those diseases, please get checked out by your doctor.

Until then:

-Laura. (16-f)

okay so i have a boyfriend. me and his best friend(eric) are really close and he likes me and i like him. my boyfriend is out of town. so me and eric are hanging out one night and we have an inside joke that at 11 each night we will have sexy time.last night we kinda had it. we were in his bed and we would take turns taking off clothes. he was in his boxers and i stole his shirt so i had everything but my bra on.he undid my bra. is this cheating?

The answer that said it isn't cheating if he doesn't find out is pathetic.

Regardless of if you decide to tell him or not, it IS cheating and you shouldn't be doing it.

-Laura. (16-f)

i'm writing a love letter to my boyfriend who lives far away. i need help, what do i say?i want it to be really long and i want to like include some famous love quotes

any ideas?
or samples?
hell, if someone wants to write the letter for me go write a head.

You can include memories of the 2 of you.

You can use quotes from love songs:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691

-Laura. (16-f)

Hey,
I'm working at the moment in a part-time job and find it really hard to have any kind of interaction with workmates . Partly because I am pretty shy and unconfident, I feel like a just have a really boring life and have nothing to talk about. And partly because I worry that I will look like I'm not working hard or will distract people.

I really need to sort this out a bit because I'm thinking of taking a year off study and working full-time,in a bar or something, and moving out of home (where I live with parents.)

Sorry if this is long. Thanks.

Making friends really isn't all that difficult =]

First off, be confident. Smile, and be comfortable. Don't be nervous just because you're talking to a new person. You are a new person to them too, and they might even be a little nervous, too.

Just start a conversation with them. You can start with a compliment. Like, if they're wearing a band shirt, you can ask if that band is their favorite and then you can go on to talk about the kinds of music you like.

Find things you have in common. Ask about the person's friends, family, interests, etc.

-Laura. (16-f)

How do you change the backround of a picture?

You use Photo shop, or if you're really good at it, you can try using Paint.

-Laura. (16-f)

im not really fat but not exavtly thin either.
lets just say im curvy and have a bit of a flabby stomach.
by the end of the holidays i want to have a perfect body. i'm already on a diet.
what kinda simple excersises can i do though?
just some streching excersises please because there isnt any place for me to run and no jym nearby.
i just want my butt to be more round and my waist should be less flabby.
and i also want my legs to appear long and thin.
im quite short though :S
so yeah i just want nice legs haha
thanks xxx

You can do crunches/sit ups, leg lifts, push ups. Have you considered trying Tae-Bo or Yoga or Pilates? You can buy a program on DVD and do it right at home.

-Laura. (16-f)

i am making my boyfriend a picture online
its going to be a photograph with a bunch of sayings photoshopped onto it

the only thing is, i dont have a picture

i need a romantic picture that i can put words on
and it has to be like big so i can fit alot on it
does anyone know any?

I, too, like the idea of using a picture of your boyfriend and you.

If you don't have one, however, try going to photobucket.com and typing "love" or "romantic" into the search bar.

-Laura. (16-f)

I am best friends with a guy (we'll call him Bob) and recently he got a girlfriend and I find myself being outrageously jealous at times.

Well nowadays I tend to get angry very easily at Bob. For instance, if I text him and he doesn't text me back, I get mad and send him an even angrier text. If I'm having a problem, and go to him for comfort and advice, a lot of times he will brush me off and say that he can't possibly fix anything.

Before he got his girlfriend, I felt like he was always there for me and we talked pretty much non stop. Now, if I'm not the one texting him, I'll be lucky to hear from him once a week.

Do I have a right to be angry? How can I tell him that I'm feeling very hurt without sounding nasty?

I think you're right to be angry, but you shouldn't be texting him saying mean things. That could be a reason he's not talking to you as much.

The only thing you can do, is tell him what you told us. That he's your best friend, but lately you feel like he's sort of dumping you for his girlfriend or whatever. Just tell him that he's the one you go to for advice, and now that he's not there, you have nobody to go to.

Just be honest and open with him, and hopefully he'll understand and make an effort to make things better.

-Laura. (16-f)

i'm sixteen years old and i just found out that one of my best friends had sex. we are really close and i was surprised to hear it, especially because i thought she would tell me something like that. i don't know if i should bring it up to her because i don't want her to get angry that i found out or be embarrassed or anything. should i say anything about it or forget it?

Sex is a very personal issue that not all people are comfortable talking about. If she wants to talk to you about it, she will. Until then, I wouldn't bring it up.

-Laura. (16-f)

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