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Gotta get over it
So i was talking to this guy when he totally just ditched me and started talking to someone else..i couldnt believe it..i fell for his game and now i regret ever talking to him..how do i get over this guy? I feel like there was no closure with him..he just ditched me one day
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I'd forget about him. Why waste time thinking about him when all he did was hurt you?
Spend time with friends to get your mind off of him. Go shopping, read a book, listen to music, clean your room. Just forget about him. He's obviously just a jerk anyways =/
-Laura. (16-f)
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Aw, I totally understand the need for closure! I'm really sorry about the situation, by the way. Just remember, you definitely deserve the best, and before I say anything, keep that in mind!
Is he just flirting with another girl or something? If this is the case, get competitiveif you're still into this guy. However, if he's just stopped talking to you completely, I'm not sure if he's worth the trouble. If you really still want to be friends and forget the regret, just try to keep in touch with him for a little. See how it goes from there.
However, if you just want to get off your chest how rude it was, just tell him! Or ask him over the phone or the computer or something if you're nervous, why he stopped talking to you. It's good and all to drop hints about it, but being straight forward in this situation would be one of the best things to do. This will get you your closure. If you just hint, you may leave things out and have a lot left over on your mind.
To get over him, try talking to your friends more, or talk to a different guy. While it's not always the best method, it's pretty effective! Just get your closure with this guy and get him off your mind, and try to distract yourself with something new (whether it be a guy or activity--keep your mind free!).
I really hope you get the closure you need and you can stop worrying about this and stuff. It's really unfair what he did, and honestly if he seems like he's not all that concerned, you deserve so much better!
XOXO
KAT.
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A guy did this to me too, just a few days ago. He didn't tell me that he had a girlfriend..but I found out anyway. Then he just stopped talking. But honestly, if he treats you like this, then the relationship would've had problems along the way. Maybe even cheating. Sounds like he's not ready to commit to anything. It will take some time, but you'll find someone new that will actually treat you right.
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No need for regrets, it's a good learning experience. =)
That happens to every girl I think, and no matter how many times it happens or how much us girls know it's not our fault, it never seems to hurt any less.
I understand how you feel, and I know better than anyone how much closure feels important but, trust me when I say, he's just not worth it.
He's obviously a loser who doesn't know what he is missing out on and you deserve better then that.
I don't even know you but I can already tell your a great girl that doesn't need someone who's going to pass up the chance to be with her. Because every girl is.
I would suggest keeping your self busy.
It's never easy feeling rejected or feeling like things are left undone/unsaid.
What are some things you love to do? Do them! =)
Work out, dance, spend time with your family/friends, read a book/magazine, draw pictures listen to music, do ANYTHING other then allow yourself to think of this guy. And try to catch your self when you do.
When you realize your thinking about him and what happened between you two or what could have happen, immediately think of something else, like what your going to wear tomorrow or a cute outfit at the mall you've been dying to get and how you can get it...
It takes time at first for people to train their minds to not think of somebody, but honestly once you get into the habit, you'd be amazed at how little he'll cross your mind. People are only a part of our lives if you let them by thinking about them, and he'll only exist in your life if you let him. It's hard but trust me, it's so worth it! =)
And I would honestly suggest not talking to him about anything and not really talking to him at all actually only because of my experience I've found that it can make it worse sometimes, and even if he says he sorry he probably won't mean it if he already found another girl he obviously isn't very interested in making things right with you. Why waste your time on someone who isn't willing to spend their time on you?
Good luck!! =)
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You definitely need to talk to him. Ask him, casually, why he didn't at least say goodbye. Make sure he understands that it hurt and if he doesn't regret it, then he doesn't deserve you! :) goodluck!
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