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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

16 years old/female
I've been asked by a lot of guys when I'm going to have sex and whether or not I can have it now. Like..soon. I always say no, and that I'm willing to wait a long time until somebody actually WORTH my time and who's there for me...will share that moment with me, you know? I want it to not be rushed. And I certainly don't want any diseases or unexpected pregnancies (this is keeping me away from having sex now) and I feel like when I tell them I don't want to have sex until marriage, I'm embarrassing myself. But, actually..I do believe I'm a step higher than they are. Should I feel embarrassed? I mean..It's so wrong to have sex in high school, in my opinion..=/ help?



" Fact: One million teens in the USA will become pregnant over the next twelve months. Ninety-five percent of those pregnancies are unintended. About one third will end in abortion; one third will end in spontaneous miscarriage; and one third will continue their pregnancy to term and keep their baby.
More than half of them are 17 years old or younger when they have their first pregnancy.

Approximately 40 percent of young women become pregnant before they reach 20 years old.
The United States of America has double the adolescent pregnancy and birth rates of any other industrialized country.

The poorer the young woman, the more likely she will become a mother.

Less than one-third of teens who have babies before the age of 18 finish high school.

Almost half of all teen mothers end up on welfare."

From link: http://www.coolnurse.com/teen_pregnancy_rates.htm

Knowing those facts, why should you feel embarrassed? You are making an intelligent decision.
Smart girl. Pat yourself on the back. I'm serious.

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One Summer on the OC said: Better than the 2.5 billion people under the poverty level.
I really like statistics like these, and I'm always saying things like this :/
DOes anybody know any websites that give statistics like this. Preferably aout Recycling.
Such as in the US, 1 million plastic bags are used PER MINUTE! I think its crazy and I really like statistics like these.

Try this:

http://www.libraryspot.com/statistics.htm

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13/f
I have 2 "bffs". They are sorta mean to me, but not all the time. I tried to talk to them before but they call me the mean one, which they have no right to do cuz I am sooooooo nice to them. I don't really wanna be friends with them anymore. I have some really close friends who are guys and i want to be really good friends with them. They are so much nicer to me.How do i get rid of my old bffs without being mean? And how do I become bffs with guys without looking like an idiot?? THANKS
R☺chee

Well, as for the guys, hang out with them more.
As for the others, why worry about how mean you sound if they are mean to you?
Besides, they already seem to think you are mean, so just live up to that by telling them the friendship just isn't working anymore.

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How do you stop someone, who, without realizing it, is slowly stealing your heart?

You can't. You make something of it. If that's not possible, you have to just get over it.
I know that sucks, but that is just how it is.

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ah so i've gone out with this kid for about 2 months, and i feel as though im a bad girlfriend because we rarely hang out because he never has a ride, i ask him occasionally to hang out and he seems to be doing something else or can't hang out, and people are like 'you guys never hang out' but its hard when you go to two different schools, i like him so much though, but on weekends i tend to feel obligated to hang out with him or i feel bad and get this impression that im a bad girlfriend. i've also noticed how much he likes me because everyone tells me what a 'player' he can be, but hes not that way to me at all, and usually his relationships dont last 2 months, its more like 2 weeks if that. i really dont want to lose him or let him down. but i feel terrible all the time about it. i can't even enjoy myself. plus he said he wanted to get me a christmas/bday gift cause there both coming up, should i get him one back? i have no idea what to get him! thanks everyonee! (:

I guess I don't see how it is you feel you are a bad girlfriend. You can only do what you can do. He doesn't have a ride to come hang out with you, or he is doing other things when he could be hanging out with you.
And since he tends to be doing other things, why should you feel obligated to hang out with him every weekend? I mean, come on, he needs to meet you halfway, here.
Return the favor on the gifts, but don't go all expensive.

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a few weeks ago, a nurse told me that if you get your period after you've had sex that it doesn't mean you aren't pregnant. she said it might just be spotting. can i get any confirmations on this? i did get my period, but i usually get really really bad cramps and this month i still have them, but not as bad as usual. and i had sex with this guy a few weeks ago, so...any ideas????

What is called a short, scant period is possible after conception. In other words, a short, light period.

Here are a couple of links on symptoms:
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy_symptoms.htm

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm

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17 f

I think my boyfriend might have AIDS ....I know it sounds bad but I can't be too sure. Ever since my last boyfriend I've just been so cautious about every new relationship . But about my boyfriend I've tried asking him and everytime I ask him he says he's 99.9 positive he doesn't have aids. Is there any way I could find wether he does or doesn't? I just want to be safe I don't want to catch any transmitted diseases from anyone but he refuses to get checked I don't know what to do I really love him but I don't want to do anything with him without knowing.

Well if he doesn't get tested, then he doesn't know. If he isn't 100% sure about it, he isn't sure enough. He needs to be tested to be sure.
You can't just test him without him knowing- he has to go to a health professional.
You may really love him, but if he refuses the test that will make you feel at ease, then that shows how much he really loves, cares about, and respects you and your wishes.
If you want to be safe, then don't have sexual contact of any sort with him until he can get a confirmed lab result. Why put yourself at risk?
Of course you know to always use condoms.

ygs-29/f

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Okay so I want to get a tattoo. My dad thinks its okay but my mom doesn't want me to get one.
Anyway I have the design but I don't know where I want it.

[IMG]http://i12.tinypic.com/85kcopd.jpg[/IMG]

That's the image code thing. I was thinking I should get it like around my neck or something. I am madly in love with the design and I won't regret it. I don't want it visible to my mom because she doesn't like tattoos at all.

If you don't want it visible to your mom, don't put it on your neck. She will see that as plainly as if you tattoo it to your forehead.
Get it on your lower back.

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ygsgirl,
Well as I told you 'bout the IM thing and you said use a phone book but I am kinda afraid to call if someone other than answers(his parents) what is his family doesn't want him talking to certain people or what if he has a girlfriend and she's there or his family might think he has 2 girlfriends like I said I have'nt talked to him A day in my life so should I be scared?

You shouldn't worry over the one who answers the phone. Just because you are a girl and you are calling doesn't mean anything will be read into it.
The best way to start talking to someone is to just do it.

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so one of my good friends was like OMG I WANT SOMETHING FROM AMERICAN EAGLE and she was like im getting you that scarf that you really wanted so i kind of made my mom go to the mall for her to buy her mittens and gloves from american eagle, which my mom didnt really want to but i was like "mom shes getting me a expensive scarf that i really wanted" next day all i find in my locker is a card...it just said "merry christmas" my mom has been asking, can i see the scarf? is it nice? and i've been having to say i didnt get it yet because it didnt come in the mail yet, cause if my mom found out she didnt get me anything she'd flip, what should i do about this?

Well, you need to tell your mom. Seriously, it can't be forever "not coming in the mail" and she will figure it out sooner or later. Best to just tell her rather than have her catch you in that lie.

You have learned an important lesson- don't get someone something expensive just because they say they're getting you something expensive. They should appreciate getting something you put thought and effort into, not the price tag hanging on it.

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well ive liked this guy aly for like 2 years but hes my really good friend and i didnt have the guts to tell him. Hes sweet and funny and treats me really good, and i feel likke our fiendship is really important, but i want more than that with a guy.Well recently this guy, nik, has been texting me and iming me and myspacing me and last night he texted me and when he had to go he said "well i gtg, pce babe

I can't tell you who to date.
I will tell you that you need to consider what can happen to your friendship if you date that guy then end up breaking up. Will the friendship be able to stand to such a hard blow?
Also, their experiences verses yours have nothing to do with it.

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okay, i'm not sure what's wrong with my skin.. because it's itchy, and it starts out as looking like goose bumps. and starts itching.. then gets worse.. now i have something that looks like a scab that itches.. but it's not really a scab.. i showed it to my mom, and she was basically scrapping it with her finger, and says that it has water in it.. and that it had "bubbles" and water was coming out.. it's starting to spread.. and i don't know what is it. my family has a dry skin problem.. and i just don't know.. help? what is it? what's wrong? and how can i cure it?

and my family doesn't have enough money to go to the doctors.. so help?

I can't tell you what it is, let alone how to cure it. I can, however toss some possible ideas your way.
Here is what a poison ivy rash looks like:

http://www.cattail.nu/ivy/ivy_rash.html

I'm not saying that is what you have, but poison ivy/oak can cause a rash similar to what you describe if you come into contact with the oils on the leaves.

Here is a link on symptoms:

http://www.emedicinehealth.com/allergy_poison_ivy_oak_and_sumac/page3_em.htm#Allergy%20Symptoms

And at-home treatment:

http://www.emedicinehealth.com/allergy_poison_ivy_oak_and_sumac/page7_em.htm#Self-Care%20at%20Home

Poison ivy may not even be in season where you live. Even if it isn't, the treatments for it can't hurt to try.

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15/f

My bf and i have been going out for a month, and i feel like we're already falling apart! I'm in a diff. part of the country for 3 weeks and recently i've noticed that he's rarely online and when he is he like doesn't pay attention to me and we basically never talk anymore. He deleted me from his facebook interests but he still has me listed as in a relationship. Whenever we go on dates he seems all happy to be around me and stuff- I know there's probably nothing to worry about, but I just can't stop thinking about this! I'm always like "oh god what if he's not interested anymore" and like "what if he won't date me when I get back?" and stupid crap like that.

HOW CAN I STOP OBSESSING OVER THIS AND GET MY MIND TO JUST BE HAPPY WITH HIM AND STOP WORRYING?

Talk to him about your concerns. He's the only one who can tell you how he feels or what is going on inside of his head.
If you can't talk to each other about what you are thinking and feeling, what's the point in being together anyway?

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okay. so i've been going out with this guy for almost a year now. and i love him. but sometimes he annoys me to no end. and i think that we would be better with other people. now dont get me wrong i do want to be with him. but am i wrong for thinking this? and another question is that.
a couple of days ago. i started talking to an old friend that i used to like, well i started to feel like i might like him again, but i hung out w/ him today and decide that i dont. but is it wrong to think that too.....or what..
any advice is much appreciated.
thanks.

I don't know how old you are, but I'm going to assume you are of the teenage age group, if not far out of it?
I can't tell you who to choose, or what have you, but I can give you something to keep in mind:

Now, don't get me wrong- there is nothing wrong with having long, serious relationships when you are younger, but how will you know for sure what kind of guy it is you will want to spend the rest of your life with if you don't experience different relationships during your younger years?

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I have acne medicine and in the package it says that it's due 120 days after the day you recieve it. but I haven't even opened it yet until a month after i bougth it now because I still had some in my old one left.

Would it still be expired 120 from a month ago or 120 from today?

120 days after the day you got it.

ygs-29/f

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What would be the date of 120 days from today?

(That's when my cream expires.)

Ok, get out a calendar.
Start counting the days until you reach 120 from today and you will have the date...

ygs-29/f

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ok to cut the chase and get straight to it, i hate my dad, i allways have and just when i think hees changed he hasnt and that wont ever change with the way he is, Ssooo does any one know a good way to calm myself down after he has peed me off so badly because breathin excersises just aint workin any more.


it all started a few days ago when my dad bought a newish laptop and installed all this stuff on it, we had a couple of arguments then because i KNOW what im doing i installed like 4 different wireless internets before, but today just got to me so badly, he came in said were installing some anti virus thing because my brother (who has downs sindrome a mental disablity) has been downloading stuff that can give me spy ware and viruses, all i said was "yeh but..." and instantly my dad starts his roar on humanity about how hees TELLING me its going on there, he doesnt spend ANy time at all on this computer i know where to and what to do (sorry to toot my own horn but compared to what this fat idiot knows its legendary) i have never ever tried to fight back with him but tonight just blew it i screamed at the asshole, and 2 days before xmas... this isnt what its about this hasnt ever happend to my family, but if you can see my point as well as his (if there are any)... yeh thats abotu it, sorry for the badly written last sentance, ime gonna go blow the hell outa sumin

I don't know. I do know some things aren't worth arguing over.
Listen, it's his computer. If he wants anti-virus, then help him put it on without saying things that makes him feel stupid.
I mean, let's be honest here. You say you hate him and he is a "fat idiot" etc., etc., and I'm sure he realizes you feel that way.
The fact of the matter is, HE is the parent, and yah, HE'S telling YOU, not the other way around.

There is no sense fighting with him about it. There is no sense fighting over much of anything with him. All you are doing is getting angry, blowing up, and making your own life miserable with hate and anger.

Try to think positively instead of so negatively. Negativity only makes you miserable, but if you look on the bright side of life, then the rotten stuff doesn't seem so bad.

It could always be worse.

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I want to make a gingerbread house for Chistmas, with graham crackers. I've tried to look online, but it wasn't helping much. It kept coming up either with the cardboard, or for like little kids.
Anyway, can I just use the recipe I found with the cardboard, then just replace the cardboard with graham crackers? Or, if you guys have any better recipes, that would work too. Or, if I did use the cardboard, can I just put graham cookies over it, then I don't have to cook anything in the oven? Any ideas? Thank youu!!

When we made them in school, we used melted sugar for glue. So just to add to what YG gave you, here is another glue idea:

"# Glue: Melt a fair amount of sugar in a large heavy pan over low heat. Mom used a cast iron pan. We started with about 2 cups of sugar and ended up adding about another cup. Keep stirring and waiting. You want the sugar to get to the point where it is almost a clear brown. Be careful though, the "glue" burns BADLY if dripped on skin.
# Mom would simply "dip" the edge of the piece that she wanted to glue into the sugar and then press it with the other piece. When it cools, it is VERY hard and holds very well. It does cool quickly though, so work fast."

From link:
http://www.recipezaar.com/195584

And the melted sugar DOES make a sturdy, hard glue.

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The girl that I am with has been very peculiar as of late. I really do like her and I have treated her very well so far. Where we run into problems is that when I open up and admit feelings, she tends to blow it off. She sort of lumps me in with the awful guys she has known. Recently she was surprised with how I pay attention to what she says. I commented that "I care about what she says more than how she looks" which is a true statement. But she goes "pffft, as if". Now, what bothers me is that i do care about her. It's like I'm being punished for having any feelings. Also, it really bothers me that I get lumped in with other guys. I've tried being less sexual in hopes it would help but it doesn't seem to. My gut instinct is that she only wants a physical relationship but is scared to face that fact. She and I have had both a strong sexual side but also a strong friendly conversational side from the start. Any suggestions on how to act? I don't want to get angry when she accuses me of just liking her body and stuff. It really isn't the case. Any help or thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Well, if she is going to compare you to other guys and punish you for their mistakes, then there is really nothing you can do to change that.
I mean, she is going to have to realize on her own that you and the other guys are different people.

To be honest, if she can't respect you enough to accept you at face value, then she isn't worth anymore of your time and effort.
Really, why should you have to change how you act? If she can't accept you for who you already are then she can't accept you at all.

SHE is the one with issues, not you. So don't be blaming yourself and thinking you are doing wrong, because you aren't.
SHE needs to realize she is lucky to have a guy who actually cares about who she is and not what she is instead of acting as though you are the one who is lucky to have her.

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There is this guy I like and I have'nt talked to him a day in my life I really want to know if ther's a way to get his Istant Message(IM)and start talking I already typed in his name at google but it turns out he has the same first and last name as someone famous so the only results I got were this football player and obviously the guy I like isn't in pro football. If anyone knows a way please let me know.
-I really miss him and like him a lot so i need to talk to him over winter break(Yes my school is on break and the two friends IM I do have know him but not anyone who might kow his IM)I don't know anything that'll help on the computer!

This may sound silly, but why not look up his phone number in the phone book and ask him for it?
He is going to want to know who you are and why you are sending him messages anyhow, so you might as well straight out ask him for it.

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