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boyfriend anxiety
15/f
My bf and i have been going out for a month, and i feel like we're already falling apart! I'm in a diff. part of the country for 3 weeks and recently i've noticed that he's rarely online and when he is he like doesn't pay attention to me and we basically never talk anymore. He deleted me from his facebook interests but he still has me listed as in a relationship. Whenever we go on dates he seems all happy to be around me and stuff- I know there's probably nothing to worry about, but I just can't stop thinking about this! I'm always like "oh god what if he's not interested anymore" and like "what if he won't date me when I get back?" and stupid crap like that.
HOW CAN I STOP OBSESSING OVER THIS AND GET MY MIND TO JUST BE HAPPY WITH HIM AND STOP WORRYING?
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Talk to him about your concerns. He's the only one who can tell you how he feels or what is going on inside of his head.
If you can't talk to each other about what you are thinking and feeling, what's the point in being together anyway?
ygs-29/f
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CHILL, for one thing.
Take a deep breath, relax your mind.
Guys tend to be less open about relationships and whatnot than girls. It's just a guy thing.
If he seems happy to be around you, then that's always a good thing.
If you worry about it THAT much, talk to him about it. Either over the phone, or in person [when you get the chance].
Don't accuse him of anything, and ask him to be honest. Let him know how you feel, and ask him the same. But just let it be; if you obsess, and get overly clingy/attached, some guys will just book. Take your time with him. Especially because it's only the first month.
Jess
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Having doubts is soooo normal :] Trust me, and even though it seems like he's becoming less intrested in you, you're probably reading too much into the situation. Think about how much he'll miss you when you are gone and that you will stay up all night thinking about his warm embrace or cute smile. Forget about him not losing intrest in you because I doubt that he is, and when you get back, just think of how he'll be waiting for you, arms wide open. You are probably falling in love with this guy, and worrying about all of this just proves that you care about him because you want him to care about you as much as you do him. Just keep in touch with him and let yourself relax, because he's prbably feeling what you are.
Hope I helped and happy holidays :]
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