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am I so wrong?
16 years old/female
I've been asked by a lot of guys when I'm going to have sex and whether or not I can have it now. Like..soon. I always say no, and that I'm willing to wait a long time until somebody actually WORTH my time and who's there for me...will share that moment with me, you know? I want it to not be rushed. And I certainly don't want any diseases or unexpected pregnancies (this is keeping me away from having sex now) and I feel like when I tell them I don't want to have sex until marriage, I'm embarrassing myself. But, actually..I do believe I'm a step higher than they are. Should I feel embarrassed? I mean..It's so wrong to have sex in high school, in my opinion..=/ help?
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you shouldn't feel embarassed at all. different people have different beliefs on when it is okay to have sex, and when you should. if you want to wait until after school that is your own preference and you shouldn't be embarassed at all. there will be guys that also want to wait and want their first time to be special, you just have to find them. and, if you wait, then you KNOW your first time will be great and there will be no regrets. however, you may find that you change your mind. i used to want to wait until after high school, but i fell in love with a guy and gave him my virginity. although we are no longer together we are still good friends and i have no regrets. so it's ok to change your mind later on, and that doesn't make you a tease for saying you wouldn't and then deciding you will.
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You are better then them. NEVER lower yourself to please anyone else. You should not at all feel embarrased with your commitment to wait for marriage, you should be PROUD. If you want to wait and don't feel like your ready then dont. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders so I know you will be fine. If thats how you feel then that is great. Always remember: True love is worth the wait.
Good Luck :)
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No, its not wrong to wait to have sex. I dont see why anyone would make fun of you for saying you want to be loved, you want to be healthy, you dont want to be used and that you love yourself above all. Because so many girls i know have regretted having sex because they end up hating themselves and that is so wrong. If people to make of you,then they just want you for that one little thing.
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I forsure agree with you on the it's so wrong to have sex in high school. Because for girls from 16-18 we go through so many hormonal emotions and I heard of a book where most guys during that stage usually are in a relationship for pleasure...etc I feel the same way about diseases and unexpected pregnancies and I am in your situation...feeling embarrassed..but why are they asking you anyway? I mean I can understand if your boyfriend or your best friend asks you, but it sounds like there random guys. I dont' mean to make that assumption, but just looking at the first sentence kind of gave me an insight. But I would tell them that I will do it whenever I feel I am ready. That way your not giving out too much information, about waiting for marriage. But if your not embarrassed tell them the truth and they should respect that.
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you should not feel embarrased at all. if a guy is rushing you, then he's not worth your time. you really should be proud of yourself for standing up for your beliefs and holding true to what YOU want.
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" Fact: One million teens in the USA will become pregnant over the next twelve months. Ninety-five percent of those pregnancies are unintended. About one third will end in abortion; one third will end in spontaneous miscarriage; and one third will continue their pregnancy to term and keep their baby.
More than half of them are 17 years old or younger when they have their first pregnancy.
Approximately 40 percent of young women become pregnant before they reach 20 years old.
The United States of America has double the adolescent pregnancy and birth rates of any other industrialized country.
The poorer the young woman, the more likely she will become a mother.
Less than one-third of teens who have babies before the age of 18 finish high school.
Almost half of all teen mothers end up on welfare."
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Knowing those facts, why should you feel embarrassed? You are making an intelligent decision.
Smart girl. Pat yourself on the back. I'm serious.
ygs-29/f
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