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telling him
my boyfriend of 2years and i had sex recently and i found out i'm pregnant. we didn't plan on this, and it was a horrible accident, i don't know how to tell him, because i'm worried that he will just leave me, i'm considering abortion, but i need to tell him first, and i want to tell him before i start to show.
1. how do i tell him?
2. about how far along in the pregnancy will i show?
thanks.
16/f
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okay 1. think about abortion carefully.what if in the long run you regret it? maybe you should tell him and see what he thinks. consider adoption. its a much better option. =]
good luck...
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I wont tell you to have an abortion, but i will say think about it carefully and honestly. Can you raise a baby at your age? Where would you live? Does he have, or could he get a job? What kind of life would a baby have?
Just tell him straight out "I'm pregnant and i dont know what to do about it!"
You will start to show at 5 months. If you dont get an abortion before 12 weeks its generally too late!!
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If you are planning to abort, you should do it right away. Don't wait any further into the pregnancy, especially long enough into it to start showing. (Every girl differs, but most usually start showing around 5 or 6 months). Every second that fetus is inside of you is a second that fetus is growing into a baby. If you honestly want to abort, tell your boyfriend NOW and do it. Besides, after the first trimester, any ethical doctor would never perform an abortion on you.
You and your boyfriend were mature enough to have sex and make a baby, and now you have to be mature enough to own up to what you did, and take responsibility for it. Just flat out tell him. "*Boyfriend*, I missed my period, and I just found out i'm pregnant." Wait for his response and see how he reacts. Ask him how he feels about abortions, talk about it, and then come up with a plan of action. Your first trip should most certainly be to a planned parenthood to discuss options, even if you already know what path you want to choose.
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sit him down and say "this is important, we need to talk"
that will get his attention.
then say "you know last week (or whenever you 2 had sex) when we had sex. well i took a pregnancy test and it was positive. im pregnant."
and wait for his reaction.
then talk about what you think you should do.
if he's going to leave you then he's not meant to be your boyfriend, that'll show his true colors.
i think you start showing after 3 months
good luck!!!
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There is no easy way to tell him, so best way to do it is to just come out and say it. Be alone together somewhere and just blurt it out.
"I'm pregnant."
There. Done. Like ripping off a band aid.
Tell him the very next time you see him. The longer you wait is the more he may be hurt by you not saying something sooner.
You've been together for 2 years, so I don't know why he would just bolt on you.
Before you even consider what you are going to do, you need to tell him and ask what he feels is the right thing to do. It's his baby, too.
I know a girl who had an abortion without discussing it with the father and he was absolutely crushed.
He has the right to take equal part in making the best decision.
Everyone is different, but we tend to show between 4-6 months (16-24 weeks).
If you have any pregnancy questions, feel free to ask me. I'm pregnant, too.
Here is a great website that gives great information about each of the 40 weeks of pregnancy if you need it.
I was glad to have found it when I was pregnant the first time:
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