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help. =/.
okay. so i've been going out with this guy for almost a year now. and i love him. but sometimes he annoys me to no end. and i think that we would be better with other people. now dont get me wrong i do want to be with him. but am i wrong for thinking this? and another question is that.
a couple of days ago. i started talking to an old friend that i used to like, well i started to feel like i might like him again, but i hung out w/ him today and decide that i dont. but is it wrong to think that too.....or what..
any advice is much appreciated.
thanks.
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Your first answer is no its not wrong to think that. You should think it through if you really do want to break it off with him. In answer to your second question, no it is not wrong to like a guy at first and then suddenely not like him around friends.
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At around 25 y/o, the human brain enters the "executive stage," where it's better able to make logical decisions. Insurance companies have known this for a long time, but only because of statistics of car accidents, not because of medical science. That is why (in the US) you can't rent a car until you're 25, the point when you're less likely to make stupid driving decisions. I only mention this fact to preface my answer which separates "young people" from "older people."
If you're in your teenage years, your brain is all effed-up from your body's physical and chemical changes, influencing your day-to-day behaviors.
So... I WOULD say that it would be good practice to communicate to your boyfriend what you want out of your relationship with him, and find out what he wants, and the two of you can work on it together to make the relationship last. That's what most "older" people eventually want from a long-term monogamous relationship. BUT, the two of you are probably not intellectually, physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. stable enough to accomplish this. And maybe that's a good thing, because like the other advicenator said, you should be trying out other people to see what you like out there. But who knows. Maybe if you try your hand at making a relationship last (and it takes 2 for that to happen), now, you'll have a better time when you're older. I don't know.
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It's totally normal to fell like that. Sometimes when your with someone for a long time you start to get bored. That's when you have to question how you really feel. You don't want to spend anymore time in a relationship that you aren't completely committed to. In the end, it won't be afir to you or the guy you are with.
And about hanging out with the person you used to like, i think it's ok as long as you are open about it. I was with my boyfriend for about a year and half and we always agreed that we wouldn't care who the other one hung out with as long as we were honest about it.
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I don't know how old you are, but I'm going to assume you are of the teenage age group, if not far out of it?
I can't tell you who to choose, or what have you, but I can give you something to keep in mind:
Now, don't get me wrong- there is nothing wrong with having long, serious relationships when you are younger, but how will you know for sure what kind of guy it is you will want to spend the rest of your life with if you don't experience different relationships during your younger years?
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