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AIDS
17 f
I think my boyfriend might have AIDS ....I know it sounds bad but I can't be too sure. Ever since my last boyfriend I've just been so cautious about every new relationship . But about my boyfriend I've tried asking him and everytime I ask him he says he's 99.9 positive he doesn't have aids. Is there any way I could find wether he does or doesn't? I just want to be safe I don't want to catch any transmitted diseases from anyone but he refuses to get checked I don't know what to do I really love him but I don't want to do anything with him without knowing.
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I wouldn't do anything if he hasn't been checked, but other than that you cant make him get checked. I can understand why he wouldn't want to know because he can live life right now without worrying about catching colds which would turn into much more if he has AIDS. I bet you he doesn't, but you can never be 100% sure without a test. I would encourage him, but not pressure him to just dont have sex with him. Tell him that its his choice and you understand why he wouldn't want to know, but for ur sake you cant have sex with hm unless he is tested. Its fair and if he loves you enough he'll get tested and if not then i would consider moving on or giving him time to figure things out. Either way, I hope things work out. =)
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Any partner you ever have who refuses to get an STD check you should refuse to sleep with, and possibly date at all.
There is NO excuse, NONE at all, for any responsible adult to refuse an STD test. Any excuse he may offer: Total bullshit.
There are STDs that have no symptoms and STDs you can catch despite condoms. If you have sex then you CANNOT KNOW IF YOU ARE CLEAN UNLESS YOU ARE TESTED.
You are wise not to trust him. Unless he is a virgin, he can't possible claim to be clean of all desieases unless he has been tested.
Tell him you wont sleep with him until he gets tested and stick to it. If he refuses, if he guilts you and insults you and tries to bully you into having sex without having a test done, DUMP HIM.
You are right to refuse to take risks with your health. If he can't respect that, let him go find some other girl to infect.
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Well if he doesn't get tested, then he doesn't know. If he isn't 100% sure about it, he isn't sure enough. He needs to be tested to be sure.
You can't just test him without him knowing- he has to go to a health professional.
You may really love him, but if he refuses the test that will make you feel at ease, then that shows how much he really loves, cares about, and respects you and your wishes.
If you want to be safe, then don't have sexual contact of any sort with him until he can get a confirmed lab result. Why put yourself at risk?
Of course you know to always use condoms.
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Don't do anything until you are sure. It's not fair to you that he is not willing to get tested. Try telling him that you will also get tested with him, so he doesn't feel as awkward about it.
Good luck and stand your ground.
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