You probably don't want to get into their business, to start off, none of these girls are depressed, they are just sad, I'm not sure why Taryn thinks she is depressed, but Mandy is just sad because like lots of girls, the ones she likes, don't feel the same, this is just temporary sadness, meaning its not permanent. Mandy may think shes depressed, like really think she is, but Taryn is who you call an attention seeker, a popular girl acting as if shes depressed, Mandy sounds like one too, sorry to sound rude, but its true, so basically, you need to tell these girls to just get over it, they were rude enough to throw you in the middle, tell Mandy that shes not depressed, and shes just sad, and you will continue to help her through it, as for Sam, maybe Mandy just needs to stop talking to her, because Sam sounds like somebody whose dying to be popular, so she comforts the popular, so shes treating Mandy like dirt, Taryn needs to get over herself at supposedly being depressed, and tell her to get over it and you don't want to hear her say it, you can still be friends with her, but she needs to staighten herself out, if shes popular, what more attention does she need?



-TheTeenGirl

Basically all you can do is tell someone how you feel, from my experiance, keeping feelings sealed in tight is just worse. You can cry, to let everything out, I'm sorry, I don't have much experiance with cancer deaths, but I can tell you that it is alright, I know death can be a sad thing, but they never really leave you, they watch you as you live your life, and I'm sure that she would like to see you living life happy instead of crying a lot, and you should just keep talking about how stressed you are to people until you have nothing else to say, and don't cry alone too much, 2 times is ok, but more is just really not good, you should cry to someone. Coping with death is a hard thing, but I hope you get through it.



-TheTeenGirl

Well, lots of girls have different opinions on what they like from a guy, and lots like it when you say that they are beautiful, but I honestly think this should be said to a girlfriend, if I were friends with a guy, and he told me I was beautiful and things like that, the first thought in my mind would be, "cheap, and cheesy." Which is considered bad to me, I don't like a guy who kisses up to me by calling me sweet names, its obvious that they just want you to be something more to them, and they sound weird and feminine, I just want a guy to talk to me about things and to be himself, but I think talking is better, instead of obvious meaningless names that I wouldn't like.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, I'm not sure if you do have feelings for him, but you did feel sure that you had only thought of him as a friend before, so maybe you aren't in denial, and it probably hurt you because, when he found out you didn't want him in that way, he just got another girl, which means that he wants to get away from you, and doesn't handle rejection well, but, a guy friend getting a girlfriend means sharing more of their time with their girlfriend, and to tell you the truth, if you find out that you want him, its not too late, I can tell you that, he is just seeing this girl, because he thinks that if he dates somebody else, he will get over you, but it never works, its a common mistake in sad break ups, but can also happen in hooking up, but, only you know if you like him, if you think about him kissing you, or holding you in his arms a lot, and you feel good, you probably like him, but, if you feel nothing, and you're glad that you are just friends, then you may not, but only you know this.




-TheTeenGirl

This cousin relationship has to suck, you're both focusing on who has better comebacks, and you are suppose to be cousins, not a fighting battle. You should say to her, "Listen, I don't want any arguements started when I talk to you about this, but I don't think we are very good friends lately, I feel like you get tired of me after a short while, and I don't want to be that to you, I want to be your friend, and when we argue, I'm really hurt, can you relate to my feelings?" And if she gets snobby and rude, you might as well not hang out with her anymore, because thats a very good thing to start with, and when she gets snobby or rude, shes basically saying she doesn't want or care for any of this to work, now, I know shes your cousin and you can't get away from her, but you can stop spending time with her, but if she agrees, then you both can figure out how to prevent arguements together, and my suggestion would be, when she starts to get rude, ask her whats up, and if shes upset and why, but I hope she relates, she could be feeling the same.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, I can see this as a problem, the next time she asks, just say, "nope, its time for you to do it." And if she begs and keeps saying so, then just say, "If you think I'm going to get it for you, then looks like you're leaving empty handed, I don't want to do these things for you anymore." You definetly don't have to do it, but if I made people get me things, I'd at least squeeze in the word 'please'. But, I use to be a people pleaser, and you will grow out of it by practicing by not pleasing people too much, if you don't want to do it, then don't.



-TheTeenGirl

Thank you, good question and good quote, "age doesn't matter crap" Yes it definetly does, a 24 year old guy/girl are just big perverts, no love ever occurs between people with that kind of age differance, I feel sorry for little girls that hooks up with a guy thats considered, "mature" because hes older, sad thing.



-TheTeenGirl

Definetly normal, as long as she doesn't have it, young girls and guys get curious about sex, and most teenagers don't feel comfortable asking their parents, but make sure that she isn't going to actually do it.


-TheTeenGirl

What you should really do is, the next time you see this guy, go up to him, and ask him if you guys can talk, and if he says yes, then tell him that you're sorry, and you just didn't want to kiss, say, "I am flattered that you'd want to kiss me, but I really don't feel the same, and I shouldn't have ran away like that, and I apologize." If he says no, try to say you're sorry, like, "I just wanted to say that I was sorry." If he walks away, let him walk, hes just angry and sad. I can understand that you wouldn't want to kiss someone, and I think what you did by not kissing him was better than actually kissing him, because then you're just leading them on, so, I think you just owe him an apology, but other than that, you should be ok, and feel better about letting him know.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, I think it is perfectly fine to have trouble trusting again, especially guys. But, usually after being lied to, and cheated on, stomped all over after giving them all you have, is hard to ever give again, I definetly think you trust your boyfriend of 3 years, and you should stay with him, cheating happens, but he picked you, and probably showed sympathy for doing it and was very sorry. But, basically my advice about this trust issue would be, to keep taking plenty of time to trust someone, until you eventually start forgetting the past, plus, always remember, this is a different person, and he probably feels that it is unfair that you don't give him a chance, but that was ok for you to do, you just need to keep testing people, which is ok, but I think it is very safe to start howing that you trust your boyfriend, 3 years is definetly enough, so you are very safe on this one I'm sure.



-TheTeenGirl

Wow wow wow...you need to get out of this relationship, you do not want this guy, trust me, please break up with him even if you feel strong love towards him, I understand that you may love him a lot, but if you got married to a guy like that, you will realize you made a big mistake, and you won't be able to take him out of your life because you'll have kids I'm sure, most likely you will, guys who threaten you if you don't do what they say, it will probably become threatening your life, I am telling you now, I can't tell you what to do, but please do not let this go on, don't ever let a guy control you, only you know whats best for you, not him. I hope you get rid of this guy, and if he starts threatening you about something, go to your parents fast. Thanks for asking, good luck.


-TheTeenGirl

Yes, definetly! Thanks!


-TheTeenGirl

I have a website for you to see, thank you for describing the color in your question, because on Gurl.com, it has certain types of discharge, and I think this might be the one you have, just take a look at the symptoms, and if thats it, at the bottom, it says how you can help it, if you have this one, it sounds serious. But heres the [link:http://www.gurl.com/findout/dwi/pages/0,,640994,00.html]
I hope this helps, and if you want to see the other certain types, just click " back to the discharge menu." For now, try some pantiliners until then.


-TheTeenGirl

Those are questions that are pretty good to ask, because nobody knows, and everyone wants to know. But, God basically lets us chose what we want to do, and its almost like picking consequences, either you get lucky and lets it slide, or you're caught. Now, porn is taught wrong to lots of kids, which, its wrong in a nasty negative way, but lots of guys always look at porn, girls do it too, and its nothing abnormal, its just not a good thing to get carried away like being addicted to it. I use to be addicted to some icon sites, and the only way I got away from it, was finding a new website that I liked, a good website, the bad thing about icon sites is that people always put me don, and it just made me feel bad, so now I am at advicenators, giving advice, and getting back nice comments. But, you should try either just staying off of the computer, or somehow figure out how to ban those sites where your computer won't let you. Just figure out a way.


-TheTeenGirl

I'd stop at 19 years old, you have to be careful with people who are over 18, because they can get in trouble for statutory rape, and they may seem immature, but you can always wait until your 18, but that doesn't mean you're free to go off with 30 year old men, men like that are only big perverts, theres no 'love', its just sick.



-TheTeenGirl

Well, 14 is still a very young age, its not considered wrong, its just not old enough, right now, you should probably try thinking about sex in the next 2 years, I know you say that you want to, but please don't, you're still so young, and when you're young, you just have no idea what decision you are really making when you have sex, and whats 'wrong' about it is, its still very young, and you should be at a phase where you just think about it a lot, but not wanting it enough to actually do it, I can't tell you whether you can have sex or not, but I know, in some ways, you'll regret starting at 14.



-TheTeenGirl

Hey, thank you. So you talked to him? Thats very brave of you, and it probably will take a very long time before he can get over her, so what you can do is either just wait and still talk to him, and try asking him if he thinks he will ever date again, which sounds like rushing him, but you should probably still just talk to him until he stops talking about her. But, the problem with that is, like you said, its going to be a long time until he gets over her, and you'll be talking to him, but you'll also probably be living the pain of him not feeling the same way, so, you're going to have to wait, or keep trying to get over him. Getting over someone is just hard, but getting over someone you have crushed on for years is even harder, and feels impossible. But I am here to say that it is, and which ever choice you decide to make, I will always try to help you through it. Now, in my honest opinion, I feel like you need to do both, you should try to lower the love you have secretly given to him so it won't be as painful for you to wait, and a really good way to do this is keeping occupied with yourself by helping yourself. Maybe all of this worrying and stress about this guy is tensing your whole body, and you need something for yourself, like a hot bath, exercise, maybe you need some new clothes, I am suggesting in the meantime, that you focus on yourself, and not this guy, give yourself a break, and just relax and try not to think about what you'll say to him, just let what happens happen, right now, you need to keep focus on yourself, and yourself only. Thank you for asking, and don't worry, I hardley get any questions in my inbox, so, your not bothering me at all. Thank you.


-TheTeenGirl

You need to talk until you get answers. Keep asking, say, "I want to know the truth, if you have lost interest in me, its ok, I would rather know now, than be convinced that you havn't, and for me to keep feeling upset around you, you have changed, something has happened with you, because we both know that you never acted this way with me, and if I don't get some honest answers, then I'll have to end this myself." Tell him you are serious, and you want some answers, show him you won't be lied to or ignored.


-TheTeenGirl

Don't worry, lots of embarrassing questions have been on this site, but we have to know. If you shave there that could definetly be it. Washing it wouldn't really help, but you might want to try using a cream, or something, but if it is because you shave, don't scratch it, you just have a small case of razor burn, and if you itch, you will get really irritated skin on it, and it will turn red and have bumps on it. It also has to do with your vaginal discharge, I have a girl book, called "Deal with it", and I read about this stuff, and it has discharge solutions. I found a website for you that will help you, now, this is going to be silly to type, but when you click the link, scroll down and it will have 3 pictures of panties with discharge in them, click the one that looks similiar to yours, and it will tell you about it, at the end, it tells you how to help it.


[Link: http://www.gurl.com/findout/dwi/pages/0,,640990,00.html#menu]

-TheTeenGirl

This may not be the problem, but static can be caused by not using one of those laundry fresheners that you throw in the drier, because if you don't put it in there, it will cause static on your clothes, and certain types of shampoo can help. I just searched up a website for you, theres a light conditioner called Biolage, I'm sure you've heard of it, just go to: http://www.rafsinc.com/store/item1003.htm, its a pretty low price, just read the description below it.


-TheTeenGirl

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