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cousin vs. cousin
My cousin's name is Nicole-she's on the left of the picture on my site. Don't get me wrong, I love her and I even wish I was like her at times. But everytime I'm around her, I feel like she's better than me and that I can't even compare to her. We always get annoyed of eachother after about one hour. I don't know what I'm doing wrong to annoy her. Everytime we get in an argument, I'm the one that always gets hurt. I think it's mainly because I'm younger and she always has better comebacks. What should I do when this happens? What can I do to prevent the arguments.
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This cousin relationship has to suck, you're both focusing on who has better comebacks, and you are suppose to be cousins, not a fighting battle. You should say to her, "Listen, I don't want any arguements started when I talk to you about this, but I don't think we are very good friends lately, I feel like you get tired of me after a short while, and I don't want to be that to you, I want to be your friend, and when we argue, I'm really hurt, can you relate to my feelings?" And if she gets snobby and rude, you might as well not hang out with her anymore, because thats a very good thing to start with, and when she gets snobby or rude, shes basically saying she doesn't want or care for any of this to work, now, I know shes your cousin and you can't get away from her, but you can stop spending time with her, but if she agrees, then you both can figure out how to prevent arguements together, and my suggestion would be, when she starts to get rude, ask her whats up, and if shes upset and why, but I hope she relates, she could be feeling the same.
-TheTeenGirl
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Maybe she just likes to argue with you.Some people are like that.Some people are just better with the comebacks too.That doesn't make her better than you by any means.If she starts to argue just do your best to ignore her and don't get into it with her.Hard not to do sometimes I know just do your best.
You probably feel she's better than you because she's older. She isn't though, just older.:}
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try not to annoy each other and if u feel yall r about to have an arquement walk away or yall should seperate yall selves
~leah
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Its probably because you two hang out too much. Try taking a break from hanging out one day. If she says something to you like a rude coment then just dont say anything back. Good Luck.
~Brina~
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Invite Nicole around, go to hers or go out to dinner where it's only you and her. Then talk to her she may not see a problem but you do. Tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels about the situation then together see if you can come up with a solution. If you spend alot of time with each other maybe you should cut back on the amount of time you spend with each other. Remember your family so you'll always have a connection and you will always get a bit irritated with eachother i'm sure at times it's her that annoys you! But talk to her and see if the situation can be resolved if you leave it it may get worse.
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