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how do i trust??
Ok I have problems trusting people..especially guyys! everytime I put my trust out there fully someone always smashes it... twice I had been cheated on, I have been lied to and ditched and I can't take it... but yea I want to know how do I trust guys more? I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years....at the very beginning of our relationship he cheated on me but we moved on... I can't seem to fully trust him, I tell him I do and I believe I should but I can't help question him after he has gone out... he is really annoyed of it ! and me to, I dont mean to question but my head is filled with them... how do I learn how to trust him ?? (PS pleasse dont go saying how i should break up with him because hecheated, or because i dont trust him, IDO trust him...i just cant show it)
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Ok, honey, well, like whoa. Cheating is something serious and like you shouldn't break up with him, but man. Learn to show your trust, because that's what a relationship is all about! Trust and honesty is like the ain keys in everything. So, just like see how he's acting and everything, if he acts strange around you then you may quetsion him, if he's not, then like forget it. Just like go with what your heart says.
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It will always be in the back of your mind. There isn't much you can do about that.If you truley trust him just keep your doubts to yourself.Thats about all you can do.If you say anything it just upsets him so don't even mention it.
You just have to try your best to forget about it. It is not an easy thing to do, I know this for a fact.But your relationship can actually get even stronger if you can just get past it.
Give him the benefit of the doubt and trust unless he gives you a real reason not to.Okay.It happened a long time ago and if he didn't love you he would have been gone by now, right?!
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ok, just to start out with, i have been cheated on too, i am a guy and i just want to say that i know how you feel, but you dont need to be with someone that makes you feel like you need to question him often(not telling you to break up) but if it was me, i would just sit him down and tell him how you feel, mabey its just me but i appreciate girls but if a girl sat me down and told me that she loved me and that she gets hurt when shes been cheated on because it makes her feel less meeningful, because thats how i feel wen i get cheeted on, i would listen, but i dont know about your boyfriend i kno my advice did sound kind of confusing, but i reely hope it helps, you sound like a nice sweet girl and i hope you dont get hurt again
good luck
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Well, I think it is perfectly fine to have trouble trusting again, especially guys. But, usually after being lied to, and cheated on, stomped all over after giving them all you have, is hard to ever give again, I definetly think you trust your boyfriend of 3 years, and you should stay with him, cheating happens, but he picked you, and probably showed sympathy for doing it and was very sorry. But, basically my advice about this trust issue would be, to keep taking plenty of time to trust someone, until you eventually start forgetting the past, plus, always remember, this is a different person, and he probably feels that it is unfair that you don't give him a chance, but that was ok for you to do, you just need to keep testing people, which is ok, but I think it is very safe to start howing that you trust your boyfriend, 3 years is definetly enough, so you are very safe on this one I'm sure.
-TheTeenGirl
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It is OK not to trust him completely. Besides, I don't think you can "make" yourself trust him completely or change your feelings. Instead, try changing the way you react to it. Basically the questions to him after he goes out are because you feel insecure. Try and limit the interrogation. Ask him how his night was rather than where has he been. He probably wont tell you enoguh to make all the doubts go away, but if it is casual then at least he wouldn't get annoyed at you. More importantly, try and find the reassurance you need from him some other way. Waht is more important? That you know every step he took while he was out so you know he didn't cheat on you? Or that he loves you? If it is the latter, ask him or encourage him to do things that show that he loves you. work on ways to find the answer to the insecurity without the questions and suddenly it no longer matters so much.
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Whenever he goes out, find a way to distract yourself. Read, play PC games, talk on the phone with a friend, do something you enjoy. When he gets back, ask him if he had a nice time and then say nothing more about it.
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Dont lie to yourself...no you dont trust him but its something that yall can both work on, You have reasons to not trust and thats ok! Your going to make your hunny mad if you tell him that you dont trust him, thats a big part of a relationship, just talk to him about it and tell him that your still hurt over him cheating and how can you trust him, then belive whatever he says bc its kept you together for a long time and if you want to keep this relationship than keep it, remember to always FORGIVE AND FORGET!
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