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boyfriend losing interest.
Over the past few weeks my boyfriend has seemed [for lack of better words] wilted. He isn't happy, around me that is. He just came over so we could study for a test, and he was TOTALLY uniterested in me.. like over and over I asked him if I was that uninteresting, and if I was that unatractive and he said no to both, but that didn't change his mood.. I'm getting mixed singals here. Yes I have talked to him about this but what else can I do?
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Maybe he's having a problem at home or something or just in a funk. Leave it alone for a couple of days and ask him about it again then.
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honey this is sweet apples talking you can find better infact for what it seems like to me is um if he dont like you anymore wellexcuse me for gebing foward maybe he dosent gurls any more remeber you can find better so go fishing
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Dear interest,
So, what are the mixed signals? I'm only seeing the negative ones. Okay, here's the deal. He's fading fast.... you need some damage control. If he is losing interest, which it sounds like he is, you can get him back into the fold if that's what you want. However, it will take a bit of self-control on your part. You say that he doesn't seem happy around you, but you don't say how he acts around others. If his problem really is you, you need to withdraw a little bit. Stop asking him if he thinks you are uninteresting. Stop asking him if he thinks you are unattractive. That is making you look very insecure and it is giving him all the power in the relationship. Do not focus on yourself. Reel it in a little. Take back a little of that power. Put the focus on him. Not about feelings. (we'll get to that part in a minute) Get him to talk about himself. Get him to relate to you about his day. About his classes. His friends. Anything to take the focus off you. People need to feel as if they are interesting and attractive. Don't you? Well, make him feel as if HE is, but not by telling him. Let HIM tell YOU. He will come to depend on the feeling that he gets about HIMSELF when he's with you. After a few weeks of this, don't be surprised if he's telling you how much he cares about you, what a hottie you are and how interesting you are. Good luck!
Linda
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He's probably distracted by some other problems. Maybe his parents are fighting or telling him that he has to get a job or else he'll be grounded. Maybe he's really frustrated in a class. Ask him nicely if everything is alright.
If this continues and he says that nothing else is going on, tell him, "Lately, you have been acting very uninterested in me. You don't laugh at my jokes, ask me how I'm doing, you don't suggest that we go out, and you don't appear happy or pleased when I'm around. I am feeling frustrated because there is nothing to give me the idea that you enjoy being with me. It is getting to the point that I don't want to go out with you because you don't appear happy which makes me unhappy." Give him a few weeks to change. If he changes, then yeay! If not, forget about him.
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You need to talk until you get answers. Keep asking, say, "I want to know the truth, if you have lost interest in me, its ok, I would rather know now, than be convinced that you havn't, and for me to keep feeling upset around you, you have changed, something has happened with you, because we both know that you never acted this way with me, and if I don't get some honest answers, then I'll have to end this myself." Tell him you are serious, and you want some answers, show him you won't be lied to or ignored.
-TheTeenGirl
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It might not be you. Have you asked him what else is going on in his life? Maybe it's a family issuse, or something with school/grades, or friends... you have to realize that you're not the only person in your boyfriend's life. Be supportive, but not prying. Tell him you're here for him if he wants to talk, or just needs a shoulder to cry on.
I've dealt with the same thing with my boyfriend. Sometimes he's argued with his mom, other times there's another reason for his bad mood. He's quiet and withdrawn, and sometimes just needs to be alone. When it happens, I just give him a hug and tell him that I'm here, and do my best to cheer him up and take his mind off things.
Of course, if it gets to be too much, and you're finding that you don't like being around a crabby, depressing guy, then maybe it's time to move on from this relationship. It's up to you.
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If he is being uninterested, and you talked to him about it, but he still ahsnt changed, maybe you should look for another boyfriend who will be interested in you!
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Well i think its time for a new bf. You have talked to him already and it didnt work maybe ask your bf's friend to ask him if he still likes you. If he says no then brake up. Sorry
Always there..
Donna
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