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is it wrong?
is it wrong to lose your virginity at 14? whats so wrong about it and will it hurt? im scared to do it cuz i think it will hurt but i really really want to...so will it hurt for my first time??
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You should really wait until you find the right person so you can talk these worries over with them first. Don't just have sex for the sake of it! you'll regret it! The first time a female has sex it may hurt slightly but not lots so don't worry about that- hope this helps.
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Well if you think that you are ready to loose your virginity go ahead and do it. From what I've heard it does kind of sting when you first start but if you ask me I say you should atleat get firgered by atleast 3 fingers before you get fucked so I hope that I could help you but if I didn't I hope you find the advice you need GOOD LUCK
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At 14 you may think your grown but believe me your not. Most people that lose their virginity at an early age regret it and you don't want to be left in that situation. If somebody is pressuring you into having sex this is wrong. There are other sexual things that you could do without having sex (use your imagination) but at 14 I don't know why your not happy with holding hands and kissing, but you seem to be quite curious about having sex. At your age their are more cons than pros and sex is something very intimate that should be caried out between two responsible consenting people that can handle the consequences (pregnancy, sexual disease) and they shold be in Love.
I hope you make the right decision.
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it is really wrong..i don't believe in sex before marriage. sex is something special that you should share with your life time partner. plus, you are way too young for this.trust me, it will be better if you wait.
xO LiSa*
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Well, it is wrong because you really don't want to be a mom at 14.. and who knows how your mother would react? Just think through what your doing. Yes, it will hurt mostly because your body isn't mature enough. I strongly believe in absentance, so I' m waiting for the one I love and wait until I get married before I do anything like that.
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Well I cant help you on the part about it hurting from personal experience cuz I'm a virgin myself and I'm 14.But i heard that it hurts like hell on your first couple of times and sometimes it(your vagina) bleeds.But I think that you should wait unless you think the boy that you're planning on losing it with is the one.Cuz I used to think that I had the one but then my mind changed and I wisened up. All I'm saying is dont do anything that you'll regret later.OH! make sure u use protection and it will be even better if you get on birth control.
-HOPE I HELPED:)
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I have two choices for you.
A) Don't do it. You're an idiot if you're doing it or planning to do it. If you're smart enough, you WILL take my words, and not do it
B) Igore A and do it. Then keep doing it, get addicted to it, have AIDs or herpies or something, then just die.
I strongly suggest A. But if you're going towards "stupid" ideas, B would be perfect for you.
~SAM
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Dear isitwrong,
I wouldn't focus so much on the "wrong" part as I would focus on the "right". And the first question for you should be, "Is it 'right' to lose MY virginity at 14?"
The fact that you are even asking that question means that you're not ready. A lot of teens focus on the physical aspect of sex. However, the emotional aspect of sex can be much more painful than the physical. When us girls have sex, we just naturally develop VERY strong feelings for the guy we are with. If he doesn't have the same feelings for you, it can be crushing. And a lot of times, girls will substitute love for sex. It means they are getting close to a guy, there's touching, you are 'acting' loving, there's kissing, you are getting lots of attention (hopefully this would be the case) and there's also a lot of emotion involved in sex. You should think very, very carefully about giving up your virginity because you can't ever get it back. And it will change you regardless of whether or not you wanted to be changed.
Okay, about the physical part. Yes, the first time you have sex, it may hurt. At the very least, it will be uncomfortable. The first time, you should be with a guy who takes these things into consideration and is gentle with you. Someone who is kind and respects you. Someone who you respect. (And please remember protection against unintended pregnancy and STD's.) Good luck sweetie.
Linda
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Ok hun. Yes it will hurt A LOT your first time. But YOU need to think about the consequences before you do it. It is not wrong but you are very young. I've known people that regerted having sex after their first time and now they really really wish they had waited. Luckly I'm not one of them. You are still young and you have a whole future a head of you. Dispite what the media and whats going on in the world life YOUR life shouldn't revolve around sex. Its a presious gift you give up and you want to make sure that the person your giving it up for will not hurt you and charish you. I want to talk to you more about this and I want you to tell me more about your situation and how you feel about sex. You can email me at ImmortalDream06@aol.com. If you have doubts about anything im a really good listener if you just want someone to talk to and im 17 so yeah. ~Halie
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besides hurting physically.. it will be the most strenuous and painfully regretful decision you will make in your life... please.. don't do it.. who cares if your boyfriend won't love you.. he probably isn't the one if he will force you into something like sex... trust me.. the human mind isn't even fully developed until about 25, so many raging hormones... so, forget sex... it may be natural.. but you are not ready... its a mind thing..
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Well, 14 is still a very young age, its not considered wrong, its just not old enough, right now, you should probably try thinking about sex in the next 2 years, I know you say that you want to, but please don't, you're still so young, and when you're young, you just have no idea what decision you are really making when you have sex, and whats 'wrong' about it is, its still very young, and you should be at a phase where you just think about it a lot, but not wanting it enough to actually do it, I can't tell you whether you can have sex or not, but I know, in some ways, you'll regret starting at 14.
-TheTeenGirl
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Dont do it now. Wait till you are older and you are married. What if you are having sex at 14 and the condom breaks and you get pregnant think of what your parents would do to you.I am just telling you dont have sex when you are 14 wait till you are older and are truly in love.
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