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this is me.
Jessica.
I might have created the universe, but i just can't remember if that was me or someone else.
ask me something because I give advice fit for kings (or queens)-(or both) =]
17... a small age for some.. but most of you think it is ancient. =P

advice

So i have a brand new acustis gutai right here in front of me and Iwas wondering if someone has there to and they cna give me stpe by step instructins to a very small song( twinkle twinklt litte star fro example) thanks

Whendescribing the strings

im facing the gutair on a slant so thlets call the top string 1


ok thanks

5 no matter what if u cna help me

you can search google and get a bunch of sights that will help you learn tabs/chords for songs or just in general...

i did... now i can play michelle branch, greenday, incubus... and a bunch of other stuff... it is cool...

OR you can go out and buy books that will teach you how to read tab as well as actual sheet music, and then you can buy actual artist books and play like a pro...

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my birhtday is in 8 days and i cant decided to have a big party or just hang out with a few friends my back yard isnt to big and i dont no where else i could do it....should i just have a few fiends or just a little party like 20 30 poeple?

the only BIG parties should be 1, 5, 16, 18, 21, 30, 40, 50, 60.

anything in between is hang out with friends.

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i went to am-i-fat.com just to see what it would say and it said im emaciated.. i dont even know what that means! i dont think my weight is unhealthy. im 5'5 101. what does this even mean? like should i be worried? thanks

look it up in the dictionary.

(dictionary.com)

and honey, i am 130 same height and i am not fat.. so... you have nothing to worry about

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I have tons of friends, quite a few good friends, and 9 best friends. but I dont have one or two BEST friends. It kinda bugs me because most of my 9 best friends all have one or two BEST friends. i love all my friends to death, but something seems to be missing.

also, i am so different than my other friends and i really dont fit in with any of them. we are going into high school in the fall and i am SO nervous that they will split into a couple different groups and i'll be left to wander.

I also have trust issues i guess you could say. I have such a hard time trusting my friends. i feel like i cant talk to them about hard stuff because i'm supposed to be the strong one, that looks out for them. I end up keeping everything bottled up cuz i have no one to talk to. it's just so difficult because i have so many great friends, but i always feel like there is never anyone there for me.

Any advice on any of these friend issues would be appreciated thanks.

-14/f

i say you wear dark makeup, forget you had friends, and talk emo and gothic and melodramatic... that should solve ALL your problems... j/k

you should appreciate what you have.. you have friends.. hell, you even said that you have best friends, what are you complaining about? if they aren't your friends, then drop what you have and when highschool starts, find some new ones... forget stereotypes and just go and be yourself.. they say in life you only have as many friends as you have fingers...

and last but not least.. don't worry about it.. it sounds like you have enough friends to protect you in an even blanket of comfortableness...

don't sweat it.

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okay well i really feel like shocking everybody tomrw at school..i have friends but i wanna be the girl all the guys want ya know?..and my friends are kinda lame and boring me..so next week is spring break and i wanna go out with a band..any ideas??..

hmm... the girl all the guys want.. the one that will make out with other girls and do weed and sleep around, while maintaining her virginity..

good luck with that..

if you seriously want to be wanted that much.. you should learn to love yourself for who you are and not how everyone percieves you... not every guy likes the girl i described. but not every guy will want you... if you act yourself you can skip the 'right now' guys and find the 'right' guy for you...

BE YOURSELF>>>

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i recently got my belly button peirced 3 weeks ago, its healed really nicely. my boyfriend gave me a really pretty ring for it for my birthday and i can't wait to change it. Is it too early to change it, because it says wait 8 weeks, but its healed and i know a otn of people who have changed it earlier, thanks!

i got my belly button peirced and asked the same question to the guy who did it and he said that the ring that they put in there was designed for the healing process.. i wouldn't change it at all for two months or else it WON'T heal right.. and most likely will get infected.. word of warning.. i hope you don't listen to those other people...

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i wanna tone my tummy how do i do so?

crunches, sit ups, pushups, pull ups.. even laughing works the abs...

have fun!

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I would like a knew screen name,iv'e been trying to think of one but i dont no what to make it.this may sound dumb but can some one help me make a new screen name up?|?

i love soccer/v-ball
i like sports
im taken by ryan (he is short im tall)
im 15
im in love..

i rate high

do you really want one that reflects what you like or personality... those get boring i think.. and the guy may leave.. getting a SN is like getting a tatoo...lol.. i am totally joking.. um.. maybe something like...


considar the year you were born.. they individualize... and make a mix of stuff.. make it sound good.. lol

and if you come up with one.. IM me

sadisticfreak42

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My ex & I have become sort of friends now. In a recent conversation he got very hurtful. He told me about his new girlfriend & how much he 'loves' her. I didn't want to seem jealous/hurt so I went along with everything like it was fine. He told me he hasn't thought about me at all since we broke up. Then when I said something about another guy, he said he didn't care. Does this mean something? If he doesn't have feelings for me anymore, would he actually say all this to me? I still have strong feelings for him.

he could be trying to find out if you still have feelings for him by making you jealous.. or he could seriously be just messing with you and making you mad.. i don't think that he has any feelings for you..it doesn't seem to fit.. just because you are closer as friends doesn't mean that he automatically has started to like you again... guys are generally straight forward.. they don't usually play head games.. so i don't think he would play with your mind before revealing any feelings...

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Hi. I'm 15, I weigh 120 pounds, I'm 5'4, and I do have to admit that the pounds are fat not muscle. But I wouldn't say I'm HUGE just chubby. Well my family are all very thin. My 17 yr. old sister is 110 pds, my 13 yr old sister is 100 pounds, my mom weighed 103 pounds when she was married at age 25! (the only reason she weighs more than me today is because she had kids), and my dad weighs...well he's a stick for a guy. I get my looks from my Aunt and Grandpa. I just recently joined a gym to help turn the fat to muscle more, to tone myself. But the problem lies in the family. They always call me fat. Like my sisters, if they get upset with me, they hurl the insult "your fat" at me. My parents both call me fat also. I don't think they mean any harm of it, but it really hurts. Every time someone says something I retreat to my room and cry. They don't know how much it hurts because I really do think I'm FAT. Finally today I just broke down crying and told them how I felt about them always calling me fat and my mom said I was just trying to get pity. What can I say to make them realise this really hurts my feelings when they all say this! The only persons who apologized for calling me fat is my little sister. I have 0 self esteem and I think this plays a small part in this.

holy crap.. 120 is not fat.. i think that your family has anorexia problems and if they cannot handle the fact that 120 pounds is normal then they need help...NO offense to your parents, but if they are calling you fat.. that is wrong.. you are underweight compared to the rest of the states...

i promise.. you are not fat... it is unhealthy to be as skinny as your mother was when she married at 25...

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Im 13f and my family sucks. I have a spepcial ed brother and my parents think im a waist, but that's not true they just dont understand why i do things even though i do. I never talk to them and when i don't they get pissed off at me. I try so hard to makes things work between us, but they always seem to drag it back to my brother, but he's not the problem. I love my brother with all my heart, but the thing that scares me is that i sometimes flat out hate my parents. I know they try to help[ by sending me to shrink after shrink but what they dont understand is that nobody can fix this other than us. Another thing is my parents sometimes lie to the shrinks and i dont want to say anything cuz i don't want to get hit. My parents have "hit" me before, but it didnt really hurt and they have really bad tempers. I want to tell them this, but I don't want them to get pissed off. PLEASE HELP.

amanda,

communication problems i think. i think you ought to talk to your parents in a polite way, create conversation and don't shut yourself in your room. when you don't communicate they don't KNOW what is going on in your mind.. try to tell them how you feel about your brother and don't antagonize your parents because you know them and how they will react. If you think that your parents don't understand you, you also have to remember that it has been a long time since they were your age, but they probably have more in common with you than you think. About your parents lying to the shrinks, honestly, there is nothing you can do about it, adults will be adults, but think about it from their point of view.. they have a thirteen year old daughter who is now a teenager and going through hormonal changes and they are probably afraid of it. if you make an effort to be their friend, I am almost posative that they will begin to respect you more and changes will happen.

Yours truly,

Jessica

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My BEST friend of 7 years is turning o sweet 16 on march 26. My friends and I are already planning on kidnapping her and taking her to ihop in the morning. But as her Best friend i want to get her something really good! Any suggestions?

nothing like socks and girl scout cookies.

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is it wrong to lose your virginity at 14? whats so wrong about it and will it hurt? im scared to do it cuz i think it will hurt but i really really want to...so will it hurt for my first time??

besides hurting physically.. it will be the most strenuous and painfully regretful decision you will make in your life... please.. don't do it.. who cares if your boyfriend won't love you.. he probably isn't the one if he will force you into something like sex... trust me.. the human mind isn't even fully developed until about 25, so many raging hormones... so, forget sex... it may be natural.. but you are not ready... its a mind thing..

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If god knows that we are gonna do something bad, like look up porn, why doesnt he try and stop us. I dont really understand it but, i am a porn addict and its getting harder and harder for me to stop. why would god let me do it if he knows its wrong?

he doesn't stop us because it is in our nature to do stuff like that. we are free willed and that is the best gift of god we have been given... I assure you it is a good thing that we have this freedom. if you sincerly want to stop than you have to know that it is impossible to want to serve god by stopping while also wanting to look up porn. so, you have to decide which is more important. if god is in fact your choice then you should pray and ask him to give you strength. if you are constantly looking at porn whenever you go on your computer than you should not go on the computer.. get it? if you have any more questions about this.. feel free to ask me. =]

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My heart is broken. My friends do not speak to me. People at school believe I won't fight back. What do I do when nothign is right anymore? It is impossible to be myself. This world is full critics. You think this is overreacting? You're wrong. I don't know how I go from day to day. All eyes that land on me judge me for what I look like. Well, that is completely incorrect. If only you could hear what they say. It does not make me depressed, It is not the people out there, but in my own home which make me weep at night. My own parents! People accuse me of witchcraft, drugs, cutting, and stealing(among other things that don't even cross my mind). How would you feel if everyone you thought loved you, began to look on you with pity and disgust. It's unbearable! What should I do? My nights are dark, but my days are even darker.

Signed-

Longing for the Stars

i hate to say it, but when it comes down to it.. the thing you should do is ignore them. ignore enveryone and find peace and happiness within yourself.. i went through a lot of this in a few points of my life, and in the end, I was only happy when i let everyone say what they say and just know what i know.. and ignore it... it is hard to be convicted daily of things like drugs and other oober bad stuff, but it sounds like you are a writer.. something that always helps me is writing.. stories, poems.. letters to no one.. maybe you could write a letter to the accusors and let this anger and depression out... don't give them the letter.. they probably don't even know that they are doing this to you... everything will pass... don't let them know that they have gotten to you so deep.. try to be strong and maintain whatever dignity you have left... and smile. =]

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Okay! My problem is that my boyfriend and I have been dating about two months, well evertime we are together he talks about starting his own buisness in the oil field! Well I am really starting to get fustrated with him cause that is the only thing he ever wants to talk about! I know that he has to make his living, but we are dating and he should make time for me to right? What should I do about it? Please help me!

gently sway the conversation in a new direction.. don't even say it.. just ask him a radom question and talk about something else.. like.. "what kind of dog do you think we should get."
random.. but it would spark some interest.. unless you guys are cat people like me.. but a lot of people prefer dogs..

don't tell him to do anything.. guys don't like being told what to do... most guys don't anyway... just sway the conversation to topic you would rather discuss.

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I was just wondering...are there any good tricks or tips to having an orgasm?...Im 15 and all i have done is finger myself... I have no clue what a G spot is...When i was fingering myself...i found a sofy spongy spot...i think thats my GSPOT...im not sure. Help? plz?

:uncomfortable silence:

okay...

there is a front part and a back part to the clit.. facing forward, it is the front part inside.. hidden.. no wonder guys can't find it.

:nervous laugh:

i hope i helped you...

oh yeah.. as far as tips.. your guess is as good as mine...

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Please, I'm in love with someone who lives across the country from me. I'm so in love with him and I can't be with him until I'm older. What do I do? ..He loves me back but what if a girl moves in? I mean if another girl does move in I'll have to move aside..I just really do love him. He knows I do but theres now way to explain how much. I've never been in love before and it scares me because I know this wont work out..I just want to be with him.

i may be a cynic, but i have one question.. how many years do you have to wait...

as long as you stay in contact with him, it should be fine and if he truly loves you than maybe it will work out.

but i also have to say this:
there are more fish in the sea. just because you have these feelings for him does not make him the best out of the bunch... besides getting to know him more, don't close yourself up to only him because what if in the end he is not the right one and you passed Mr Right up because you were too closed to realize how perfect you might have been.

HAVE FUN!

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Okay there is this guy and he lives down the street, but we have never talked really. One of my best friends got him to start talking to me, because she thinks that we are perfect for eachother (both country kids). He is also talking to one of my friends from another school. I start to like him, and he tells my friends and his friends he is starting to like me too! Meanwhile that friend from another school found out I like him and blatenly told me to ask him if he liked her for her. So I did to be a good friend and it turns out that he does like her. He told me that "we can be friends" "for NOW ;)" (wink face included) what does this mean and what should I do? Should I still try for him or what? Im 16, and a girl obviously! Guys I would love your point of view too!

hmmm..

:thinks:

well...

it sounds like he is a playa'.

how long have you known he likes you back? and how do you know that people aren't lying through their teeth.. people do that you know..

I don't know what you should do.. just trying to take a step back and objectively analyse your ness.

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is it wrong that i dont get along, or not really like my best friends boyfriend?..i didnt think of it much, untill i remembered that i didnt like any of the other guys she has talked to before in the past...any advice on this??

you probably just really don't like her type...

you shouldn't say anything to her about it.. it causes unnecessary drama.

just know that you don't have to deal with him as much as she does.

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