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Family Name Calling
Hi. I'm 15, I weigh 120 pounds, I'm 5'4, and I do have to admit that the pounds are fat not muscle. But I wouldn't say I'm HUGE just chubby. Well my family are all very thin. My 17 yr. old sister is 110 pds, my 13 yr old sister is 100 pounds, my mom weighed 103 pounds when she was married at age 25! (the only reason she weighs more than me today is because she had kids), and my dad weighs...well he's a stick for a guy. I get my looks from my Aunt and Grandpa. I just recently joined a gym to help turn the fat to muscle more, to tone myself. But the problem lies in the family. They always call me fat. Like my sisters, if they get upset with me, they hurl the insult "your fat" at me. My parents both call me fat also. I don't think they mean any harm of it, but it really hurts. Every time someone says something I retreat to my room and cry. They don't know how much it hurts because I really do think I'm FAT. Finally today I just broke down crying and told them how I felt about them always calling me fat and my mom said I was just trying to get pity. What can I say to make them realise this really hurts my feelings when they all say this! The only persons who apologized for calling me fat is my little sister. I have 0 self esteem and I think this plays a small part in this.
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if they call you fat ignore them
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Hey, hun, i feel the same way. i always cry in my room about how FAT i think i am. It's ok. You should really really try to tell them how you feel about name-calling.. and if they dont listen, ignore them ;;cold shoulder;; If that doesnt work..then maybe try losing wieght if you're that unhappy..
-$elina
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You don't sound fat to me. I don't know if you will get them to leave you alone or not.It's hard to do but just ignore them. You are still growing and it your weight will change. Also, keep your weight to yourself, you don't have to know what each other weights. I think maybe everyone needs to find something else to occupy their time don't you?
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You know what? I even wanted to become fat myself but even how much I try.I'm still thin. Personally, i like fat people than thin ones that looks like a scarecrow. Try to make being fat a positive asset of yours. My brother teases me many things and the more I get angry, the more he teases me until i'm blue all over my face. The other time I was so tired to get angry that I just rolled my eyes and ignore him. Suprisingly, he stopped. If you don't want to be called fat then try some exercise and eat balance diet. That should make your family not insult you anymore.
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They arent doing it to be mean they just no maybe that thats what gets u annoyed and parents like to do that. if you were really fat they would never call you that. Tell them that you don't like being called fat and it really hurts you.. or maybe come up with an insult that would hurt them ask much as what they say hurts you and they will know how you feel.
trust me
im not the skinniest person in the world also
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Hey beautiful. First off look in a mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful because you are. Next tell your family that you are not doing this for pitty and that you really do think you are fat. If they still think you are lying then write them a letter telling them you are not. If still they act like you just want attention then you need to get some outside help. Try an adult relative that will support you 100%. They will talk to your parents and tell them it does hurt you when they say those things. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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if u want 2 lose weight.This is a funny way to lose weight.I read about o VJ who had nighmares of being chased regularly.He ate as much as 5-6 people but he was not fat because he had nightmares.Your brain burns up calories just imaginig you are running.The brain needs fuel.Stick monster pictures in your room,by the morning you will have burned up some calories.
If you do not believe me take up swimming or tennis somthing fun.If the word diet comes to your head type anorexia or bullimia in google or a search site weight.At least try it
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kill them.
kill them all.
-hitler
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holy crap.. 120 is not fat.. i think that your family has anorexia problems and if they cannot handle the fact that 120 pounds is normal then they need help...NO offense to your parents, but if they are calling you fat.. that is wrong.. you are underweight compared to the rest of the states...
i promise.. you are not fat... it is unhealthy to be as skinny as your mother was when she married at 25...
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It shouldn't matter what anyone thinks but you and yourself, your family will ALWAYS have something to say. Regardless if you are fat or skinny. I am 26 years old, and I weigh 227lbs. But I don't cosider myself to be fat. I consider myself to be soild. I consider myself as also being healthy. I don't care who talks about me family or not, I am happy within myself, and I am able to hold my head up because if they don't like it, somebody always will. You have a nice day. Pali
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Your parents have to learn that you are who you are, and that they can't change you or manipulate you into someone you are not. Be strong in the fight to get your parent's respect, eventually, they will accept you for who you are. If you are feeling like you can't do anything, just work hard for it. You just have to bite the bullet and in the end it all results in what you wanted. YOu know... and you say you get your looks from your aunt and grandpa, talk to them about it. They might understand and help you out. Anyways, good luck!
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