Gollie Bob. I am 17 year old high school student. I have been through a lot of wacked out things, so if you belive that no one is in the same postion as you just remember someone out there probably is and just ask for help. I have lived through two parents who were drugies and been removed from them all before I was in high school. I'm not even going to mention what happened before I was 'removed'. I have been known to give out good advice so ask me and I would be honored to answer your quesion to the highest respect, honor and the best of my ability. ~*Halie
Gender: Female
Location: Boulder
Occupation: Student...gosh darn it not yet a senior
Age: 17
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I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this? (link)
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I know it's been a while for this post but i want to give you a hug.... ::GIG~HUG!!::
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is it wrong to lose your virginity at 14? whats so wrong about it and will it hurt? im scared to do it cuz i think it will hurt but i really really want to...so will it hurt for my first time?? (link)
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Ok hun. Yes it will hurt A LOT your first time. But YOU need to think about the consequences before you do it. It is not wrong but you are very young. I've known people that regerted having sex after their first time and now they really really wish they had waited. Luckly I'm not one of them. You are still young and you have a whole future a head of you. Dispite what the media and whats going on in the world life YOUR life shouldn't revolve around sex. Its a presious gift you give up and you want to make sure that the person your giving it up for will not hurt you and charish you. I want to talk to you more about this and I want you to tell me more about your situation and how you feel about sex. You can email me at ImmortalDream06@aol.com. If you have doubts about anything im a really good listener if you just want someone to talk to and im 17 so yeah. ~Halie
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Okay well there is this guy and I like him ALOT and I mean we talk all the time but everytime we talk he asks me to do stuff with him and I say yes but when it comes to the point im not ready and if i say no im a total loser and i like him but i think he is using me
*Please help!* (link)
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If you think your not ready then your not ready. Don't let a guy pressure you into doing something your not ready for because if you do it you will regret it later. Just simply tell him that your not going to do it because you are so much better than that! You won't be a loser if you don't do it.
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Help! I have a friend who thinks i like another friend better when i dont! I like them both the same, they're my bestest friends! She doesnt believe when i say i like them the same.
What can i do to make her believe?
signed-Frustrated Friend (link)
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Try to hang out with her a little bit more. Make her think that she's getting a little more attention(even if your not). Hope that helps.
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Hey, the hair on my arms is kinda dark and I'm very self concious about it. I wanna bleach it blonde and I was wondering what stores you can get easy to use bleach that isn't very expensive. Thanks, and I rate 5's! (link)
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This probably wont help but i shave my arms for the same reason. It's a pain in the butt, BUT it's worth it.
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I need a new religion. I believe in most all gods and even a few that most people dont know about. I have also studied Budddhism, Taoism, Confusionism, Legalism, Catholisism(?), and Christianity (multiple braches of the last two). I am currently agnostic-pagan with my own way of doing things. whatever religion i take up, i still want that freedom. what religion would you say i should study next? (link)
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There is Animism. In anthropology, animism can be considered to be the original human religion, being defined simply as belief in the existence of spiritual beings. It dates back to the earliest humans and continues to exist today, making it the oldest form of religious belief on Earth. It is characteristic of aboriginal and native cultures, yet it can be practiced by anyone who believes in spirituality but does not proscribe to any specific organized religion. The basis for animism is acknowledgment that there is a spiritual realm which humans share the universe with. The concepts that humans possess souls and that souls have life apart from human bodies before and after death are central to animism, along with the ideas that animals, plants, and celestial bodies have spirits. Animistic gods often are immortalized by mythology explaining the creation of fire, wind, water, man, animals, and other natural earthly things. Although specific beliefs of animism vary widely, similarities between the characteristics of gods and goddesses and rituals practiced by animistic societies exist. The presence of holy men or women, visions, trancing, dancing, sacred items, and sacred spaces for worship, and the connection felt to the spirits of ancestors are characteristic of animistic societies. (You can go here to find out more about it http://www.mnsu.edu/emuseum/cultural/religion/animism/animism.html)
There is also Hinduism, Sikhism, Jainism, Parsis (Zoroastrianism). You can go here for more religions and there are some cults http://www.religion-cults.com/.
I really like that you are studing many cultures and their religion. I would describe you as a person of interfaith. Interfaith is kind of the belief of all religions and/or the acceptence of all religions. Most Interfaith believiers think it is a 'multiple religion' religion. Hope that helps and tell me what religion you chose. ~*Halie
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Thank you. The helped a bit. I should mentoing though that my friend and I are leaving for Bora Bora on March 30. We will be going through Latin America and leave from Chile (or there abouts) to Bora Bora in a few years. In that time we will be working for the money to go and open our Tiki bar. Do I love this girl? I have no idea. I am drawn to her very strongly, and she has asked the friend that introduced us when I was coming over again so she could see me. I would have no problem flying her out to Bora Bora once there and comfortably settled in. Now, here is my question. What would you do given this situation? Please keep in mind you do know me, and very well at that. (link)
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I would ask her out while im still around and then if you really like her bring her down and have fun with her. It seems that she really likes you so go for it.
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Hey! Im looking into seeing broadway shows, i love watching them and i was wondering if anyone had some they'd like to recomend!?
THanks a lot! (link)
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I love Les Misérables, 42nd street, and Cats.
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i hear constantly about 14 year olds having sex... this is scary. what has the world come to? one day people will be having sex at 8 and then people will finally realise there is a problem. i dont see why 14 year olds have sex when they are so young... at 14 i was like, gross, why have sex? i'm 17 now and i am a virgin... i am proud of that and i like it coz guys respect me and i know a guy isn't going out with me for sex. what i want to know is why do girls lose that respect at such a young age? and how young were people when they lost their virginity???
- confused (link)
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HEY YOU GO GIRL!!! Im still a virgin a damn proud of it also. With the question about girls losing their virgnity is some just want to be loved and they think that, that is the only way, even though they are just hurting themselves. SO YOU STAY STRONG! I BELIVE IN YOU! ~*Halie
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I have an interesting problem. My friend and I are planning on going to Bora Bora to start a Tiki bar. I'm all for it but I have recently found a girl that I'm interested in getting to know better and eventually start dateing her. I would absolutely love to live the rest of my life on Bora Bora, but her sudden showing up in my outer circle of friends has me wanting to stay. What should I do?
~Confused in Boulder (link)
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Dear Confused in Boulder,
This sure is a tough one. First you got to ask yourself "is this girl worth giving up everything for?". Then picture yourself down the road. Where do you want to be with this relationship. Will it not be a fling? Then there is the question can Bora Bora wait a while? It sounds like you really like this girl. Bora Bora is a big jump from Boulder also. Think how your life will be like there if you go. Now weigh your options. Does one hold more of your heart than the other? If it was me I would ask this person out, hold off on this tiki bar idea (tell your friend your still in for it but it will just take longer. Something like that) and in a month or so see where your relationship is and then ask those question I mentioned earlier again. Then when the time comes head to bora bora or keep your feet here with this girl you love. Good Luck. ~*Halie
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okay.. theres no topic for this cuz I dont knwo what it should be but what ever... anyways... my mom is constantly finding my money that I hide and or takes it from me as soon as I get it to go get drugs.. I dont know what I should do about my whole situation and she is very manipulative so if u say go to the police she will get her way out of it (believe me Ive tried) what should I do? (link)
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My mother and father have done the same thing to me. They were constantly asking me for money to "help buy food" and when she comes home she never had any "food". I also know that your right about the cops. Sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel about her doing drugs. I never did and now I no longer live with her because of her problem. Tell her that your money is yours. Hiding your money is only going to make her look for it because she already knows you have it. Maybe you could confide in a friend and have her/him help you hold onto your money. I know how hard this is for you and you just have to be strong, have faith, and help her work through this problem Trust me you don't want to be taken away and then not be able to live her again. Tell her you DON'T want anything to happen to her. Hope that helps. ~*Halie
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my lil bro is 7 we share a room and i have a double bed and sometimes he gets scared of thunder cause hes a light sleeper and im not so he gets woken and i dont ANYWAY he got freacked by some thunder and so did i so i didnt object when he hopped in next to me but i got woken up a bit later by him touching my penis and rubbing my leg with his foot neither of us have said anything what should i do (link)
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You need to tell your parents so they could tell you little brother that its wrong. Just tell them not to get angry with him because that wouldn't solve anything and he probably didn't know what he was doing was wrong.
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what are some good yearbook signatures? its gettin to that time of year and i dont wanna just sign my name! (link)
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For your best friend intead of "see you around" write your best friend. You can also bring up on of your best times together. One that i usually use is "this year holds many great memories lets hope next year we can make many more" and if your a senior you can always say "This chapter in out live is done and a new one i just begining, holding many unknown chalenges and great times. The years I have known you has been great lets keep in touch and try to keep those memories going.". Tweek as neccicary. ~*Halie
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I'm a 15 yr old guy and my girlfriend and i were "dumped" by our former bf/gf and now they are together.....she is having a hard time getting over her ex and it's feeling pretty crowded in this relationship to me. Do you think it's normal for her to be really concerned with his pro and his away messages and who he's seeing and what he's sayin to his new gf? How can I help her get over him and concentrate on US?
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Show how much you care for her. Right her little notes. Let her know you care. Talk to her about how you feel. try to spend time with her (without crowding other people out). I think it's great that you care for her so much and you want you two to work. Tell her that and she will know how much you care. Trust me. ~*Halie
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I think I have self-image problems. I hate my stomach. I'm always worried it is preventing me from finding a boyfriend. I know people sometimes comment about my weight behind my back. In school when we had our physicals I felt extremely self-consious because the nurse put the chart down and a few people could see my weight (I'm not sure they care though). I just don't want to hurt myself. I've thought about nt eating and becoming aneroxic and when I did I honestly didn't care what it would do to my body as long as my stomach look thinner. I do exercise usually but I never see results. I just want to know how I can have a better self-image. Any help? (link)
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There is one way to lose some extra weight. First cut your carbs. Carbs have more than twice the number then protein or fat. You need to burn 3,500 calories to lose one pound. Do both strength and aerobic exercise. Also as a side note try to stay away from foods with high saturated fats(go for low in fat) and a lot of sodium.
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