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I just found out that this girl i know is about to die because of cancer. I dont know how to handle it. someone please help me!!
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It's a part of life and you probably have trouble dealing with it and some confusion because it's the first time somebody you know is going to die. Just take it as it is.
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ok the best thing you can do for someone that is about to pass is be with them hang out with them do stuff bring her stuff be a friend............that way you know you were in their heart when they passed
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Just try to make the best of the time you have left with her. Try to have lots of parties and/or throw one for her (dont make it a goodbye party!! just like a Thank you party. you know... for being a good friend)
hope i helped!
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You treat her as you always have. You ask her questions about it, you ask her how she feels, you let her talk to you.
A lot of people, younger ones especially will totally ignore a sick person because they don't know what to say to them, Or maybe they are afraid to talk about it thinking they will upset the sick person.Don't do those things.She will feel much better if she has someone to talk to and tell her fears to etc.
It may not always be easy, just be there for her okay? You will feel much better about yourself if you don't wait until it is to late.
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talk to her about good times and talk about it when shes gone to your family
Solemnstar
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I would try spending as much time as possible with her. Like someone else said, treat her like she never told you she had cancer. Let her last days of her life be the best she's ever had. Sometimes treating them differently than you did before just makes them feel worse, and it reminds them that they have cancer. Maybe you could ask your mom to go to a counselor, and they can help you out.
Try praying too, maybe she can miraculously recover! I wish her and everyone she knows the best of luck! Sorry to hear about your friend =(.
Hope I helped!
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well, always spend time with her. people who have people while they have cancer have a better chance of recovering. just be with her!!!
pray to God that you have found your girl and you dont want Him to take her away from you yet, and that she is too young. but once she has cancer Its in God's hands. all you can do is pray and be with her!
Hope I Helped
-*KeLs*-
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This is going to sound really odd but just treat your friend like she never told you she had cancer.
So many people with terminal cancer are treated with kid-gloves and yeah ok they are dying, if there is nothing that can be done about it then you should help your friend live the BEST life they can while they are still here.
Instead of treating her as if she is dying treat her just as normal. Where you can do all the things you normally would and make sure she enjoys the time that she had left.
I know how hard it is I lost my Nan to lung cancer and it's one of the hardest things to watch, but try and make their life as full as possible while they are here, cos there will be plenty of time to grieve and cry for them when they die.
Take care and if you need to talk Inbox me.
Mel
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Basically all you can do is tell someone how you feel, from my experiance, keeping feelings sealed in tight is just worse. You can cry, to let everything out, I'm sorry, I don't have much experiance with cancer deaths, but I can tell you that it is alright, I know death can be a sad thing, but they never really leave you, they watch you as you live your life, and I'm sure that she would like to see you living life happy instead of crying a lot, and you should just keep talking about how stressed you are to people until you have nothing else to say, and don't cry alone too much, 2 times is ok, but more is just really not good, you should cry to someone. Coping with death is a hard thing, but I hope you get through it.
-TheTeenGirl
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both of my grandma's have cancer. You just gotta be there and talk to them. Live life like it was before no matter how hard cuz they dont like to see you hurt. My grandma told me that. and its true. trust me-trix
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wow... hon i am so sorry. the only way i know of to handle that is just rely on God. He will get you through this. and pray for the girl with cancer. i will. and i'll pray for you. and if you are not a christian, try it out! you might like it!
i really hope i helped.
good luck sweetie,
xoxo
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Don't handle it. What do you expect to be able to do? Be sad. Cry if you want to. If she is a close friend, spend time with her and be the friend you have always been. If she wants to cry, let her. If you want to cry, do so. You have a chance now to tell her all the things that haven't been said between the two of you or to apologise for times you may have been thoughtless. Use it. As much as possible, try and be normal. She might be wanting to see you to feel like there are things in this world outside of her illness. Maybe she wants to know whats happening in your life so she still feels connected to everything. Maybe she wants to laugh at the same silly jokes you always have lughed at. Who knows. But really, you don't have to "handle" it. It isn't a problem you can solve. It isn't a situation where you always have to maintain control or composure. If you lose it now and then, so what? You're entitled to.
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Just comfort her and her family as much as you can and help them get this through this...
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