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Alright. I was under the influance of drugs earlyer. I smoked some weed (I know its not good and I dont recomend anyone doing it) I hadnt done anything bad for about a month so i was like.. alright just one time for fun. Well I was with my friend and this guy. We went to his house and was chillen in her basement. Then we decided we would go someplace so my friend went upstairs to get in the car and it was just me and him down there.. He stopped me from going up the stairs and started makin out with me. I stopped cuase I new I was on stuff and wasnt thinking right. For some reason I feel really gross because I know what would have happend if i hadnt of stopped it! I dont know why but i feel like he should have known not to because I was under the influance of drugs and that I wasnt thinking clearly.. Is this wrong for me to feel gross and humiliated? What can I do? (link)
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Are you sure that you are feeling gross and humiliated and not just a little freaked out?
I wouldn't have felt gross and humiliated if all you did was make out. But it's good for you to be a little scared.
Guys learn two magical things about drugs and alcohol that work out well for THEM;
1. When girls are under the influence, they don't put up much of a fight when guys make moves.
2. And guys get more confident and agressive under the influence.
If you're going to experiment with that - always be sure you are with people that you know you can trust completely. I think you were really lucky that this guy allowed you to stop.
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tomorrow, my boyfriend is in a play, and I told him I can't come because I have work, so he's REALLY bummed, but really, I'm gonna show up and surprise him. My question is, what should I get him? Like you would get a girl roses for a good performance, so what should you get a boyfriend? Keep it under 10-20 dollars. Just brainstorm a whole bunch of ideas. I don't care whether its unoriginal or really creative. I just cant think of ANYTHING. haha thanks. (link)
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I just asked my son and he said to tell you to PLEASE not get flowers. He said that it's hard enough to be a straight guy in a play (his friends give him a hard time already - flowers would give them more amunition). He said the best thing to get a guy is to bake him cookies.
So I guess that old saying is still true, "The best way to get to a guys heart, is through his stomach."
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How do I get a b/f? im 13/f...homeschooled...i want one, and i would be a good girlfriend. i dont plan on going back to school...like..im gonna be homeschooled through high school..any ideas? will rate high if u dont give me any smartypants answers! (link)
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well "unknown" person you can get a b/f by asking some friends if they know any guys for you
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hi..
my mom won't let me have pierced ears =/
and i thought i'd just ask you since, well you are a mom yourself lol
i know you only have zach and he's not a girl...but i find it really unfair. i already have contacts and straighten my hair everyday and EVERYTHING.
i even made my mom a 100 reasons list on why i should get pierced ears...
and she wontlet me unless i get straight As
which won't happen because i'm stupid =/
i really dont know what to do! i cant get it until i'm 18!! i've tried EVERYTHING!! why cant my mom be like you omg.
thanks so much mrs slavik!!! (link)
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Hi!
Piercing huh? Even I fought with MY mom over that! Mine finally caved when I was in 6th grade. Why is your mom so against it????
I really like your 100 reasons list. If that didn't work, I don't know what WILL.
The only thing I can think of is for you to be respectful of your mom and show her how responsible and mature you are and maybe she'll change her mind. Then again...she DID tell you that you can get them pierced if you get straight A's. That seems like a good deal to me. You win two ways with THAT deal.
I told Zach he could get his ears pierced at the beginning of the summer but he's afraid of the pain. lol
I'm sorry I can't be more help. I wish I was friends with your mom. I would talk to her for you. Let me know what happens. Love, Mrs S
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Alrighty there is this guy we have been good friends since like 8th grade and we have always sorta liked eachother.. but we have never really gone out. Since the begining of this year he will call me and wanna hang out and that will last for about a week and i think everything is going fine but then another girl will come into the picture and he will pick her over me. One of my friends talked to him about it and he just said that he always likes me and some other girl(Like he likes something different in the other girls or some bullshit) and im always like ohh im soo over it.. but the truth is im never really over him.. its just hard i guess when like we have been pretty close for a long time and he sometimes makes things like really akward between us and it pisses me off.. because he is like well if we go out it mite be akward ...but im like what the heck u make things akward..Because i always talk when he is around im not like shy or anything and he is the one like staring off and acting like he is annoyed or something and then he does the thing where he makes it akward.. ya know what i mean and im just like what the heck?!! l0l Ugh i know ur probally like "omg get over it" but im so sick of him calling me then ditching me.
I just need to know if i should move on for good this time?
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No, I'm not going to tell you to "get over it." but I DO think you need to get a bit more strategic.
There are a couple of things going on at your age. First of all, most of the fun in a relationhip is the actual CHASE. Isn't it exciting to finally get that special person to LIKE you back?! But then what....? Then you sit around waiting for when and who will be the one to "dump" the other and then the stress starts. So really, the best part of the whole relationship thing is the chase - right????
Ok, then the other thing is that guys are already figuring it out that being single is amazing. Because they are also having fun chasing and not having the "responsibilities" and the "obligations" associated with finally chosing just ONE girl. So, for a guy to give up all that fun of being single, he is looking for a girl that is "really worth it!" So the trick is to make the guy feel that it's an amazing accomplishment to finally get you to say YES to being exclusive with him. He needs to feel like giving up the exciting world of being single is worth it!
So, your friend seems like he's probably going through a couple of things at once.
1. The fun of chasing - not just you but other girls. *Important note here - it's no fun if a guy starts to chase and catches the girl really fast. It makes him not value what he just caught. (This is probably THE most important part of my advice to you because it sounds like he IS the one chasing but you're too easy to catch and he keeps looking for something that's more of a challenge)
2. Talking himself out of pursuing any type of formal comittment to you because he doesn't want to ruin what yall have worrying about breaking up.
Even the best of friendships sometimes don't survive the ego crushing of a breakup.
So, with all that said, how do YOU feel about turning this great friendship into something else? Is it worth the risk?
If you still think you want this guy to go to the next level in your relationship, you need to remember that part of the fun is the chase. I think this is why he always seems to have you AND another random girl he likes. YOU are a sure thing. It doesn't sound like you are challenge. The other girls ARE. So my advice, don't act so eager to go out with him. But wait...don't interpret this as I'm telling you to go make him jeleous! This is transparent to everybody and will just make you look foolish and probably damage your friendship with him. Just let everybody know that you decided to keep your relationship at the friendship level. Even if you hear he is starting to like you, stick to your guns. Make HIM chase you (FOR LONGER THAN A WEEK)! And make him work for it! It'll be more fun for you anyway. As a girl, don't you think it's more fun to be chased than to chase????
AND I think you have a huge advantage here. I think your friend really DOES like you. Nothing stings more (girl OR guy) than when someone that has liked you for a long time, suddenly STOPS liking you!!! It's a scary feeling! Like, "OMG! What's wrong with ME?!" From your question, it sounds like this is what is going on but you let him feel like he's won back your feelings too fast.
So don't give up. Just change the game. Make him work hard. Make him EARN your love. Then he won't take it (and YOU) for granted.
Let me know if this helps.
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i have been dating wit this guy for 3 months.
and these 3 months have been beautiful, but so hard. Not only did i lose all my house privliges like cell phone and going out, but i was about to get sent to a broading school in a latin country. my parents want me to be happy and i know im love. it sounds quick but, this guy really helped me get through all these other problems. but he got me bigger ones. i know he loves me and has never felt this way over a female because all his friends tell me. his cousin who i now adore tells me all the time how he raves about me with his parents and close relations. but my mom is so against his piercesing. he says he love me but he wont try to have an aproval from my parents. so my question is should i leave him and find some who will make sacrafices for me?
thank you for reading this.
please help me.
thank you
Senorita Lopez (link)
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ok well just because your parents cannot grasp the concept that you are getting older does not mean u should break up with him if you two truly love each other.
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Why is it that everyone focuses on the sex of a relationship before a relationship has even started, why do people judge each other on looks rather than personality? (link)
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this is the 21st century wat do you expect well other people just do not take the time to get to know people better
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you can never be to tall!! i was 5'11 when i was 15! im 16 now and im 6'1. being tall is great!! hope i helped x please rate me xxx
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Does anyone know any good websites, chatrooms, and basically anything that might help me get in touch with someone with the same interests as I? I'm a 16 year old Asian, yeah pretty sick huh? oh wellz (link)
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you can try...
www.bebo.com
www.hi5.com
www.myspace.com
www.piczo.com
or your could try any of the msn hotmail groups try this one... http://groups.msn.com/ChatnShare
hope i helped, x please rate me xxx
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I got a g/f! Thanx 4 all ur support everyone! :D
But, 2 more questions, how do I keep her? How can I make her happy? (link)
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be yourself, dont try and change who you are to suit someone else. always be honest if you lie then it wont become a proper relationship. dont act differently with her when you are with your friends. make sure that she is happy and tell her how you feel. hope this helped x please rate me xxx
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Hey! I was just reading through your column & saw your myspace. You look absolutely beautiful for a 41 yr old. & You seem like such a nice woman. I just wanted to tell you that.
Anyways, my question is:
Lately, I've been feeling really self conscious about myself. I smell really bad "down there." I'm 15 female. Almost 16. I'm still a virgin & I've never done anything sexual with a boy. I've cleaned myself down there EVERYDAY since I can remember! I don't know how this could've developed. I know that other people around me smell it too. Since your a mom, and you're a girl too I thought maybe you could help me.
I don't want to tell my mother about this, because it'll just be akward. So I was wondering if you knew any home remedies like, of cleaning myself down there like without it smelling like fish. It's really gross :/
Thanks for any help. I really appreciate it! (link)
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Aw! Thanks for the compliment!
Your problem is really common. Since you said you are a virgin, I'm guessing that you feel pretty sure it's not an STD. But keep in mind that oral sex can spread STDs too.
So this answer is going to sound like a cop out but you really do need to get to a doctor. It SOUNDS like you have a yeast infection OR bacterial vaginosis.
Bacterial vaginosis makes it smell really fishy down there. Go read this article. I'm betting this is what you have based upon your comment about the strong odor. But don't panic, it's not a big deal to fix.
http://www.healthywomen.org/content.cfm?L1=3&L2=9&L3=1
Yeast Infections are also VERY common and they are easy to fix and it's not a big deal. You probably got it last time you took antibiotics. You can even get one from baths and swimming. (water stays up inside you and the yeast grows really fast)
About the smell - Douching is something that girls think can make a smell go away but doctors don't recommend it because it can actually make your yeast infection worse. (remember what I just said about the water staying inside there)
Here, I googled "yeast infection" for you.
http://www.healthywomen.org/content.cfm?L1=3&L2=93
This was the best article I found. Let me know how it goes. Love, Mrs. S
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Remember the question about the boy in the car wreck? That's my boyfriend. He was in a wreck two weeks ago today and is stuck on the couch watching tv all day because he's got a few cracked bones.He should be totally better in a month. Here's my question.
I dont want to sound selfish.
I do everything I can for him. I buy him Sonic and cigarettes every couple days. I bake him cookies and make him fudge. I bring him a PS2 and movies and games and my iPod. I spend hours sitting on his couch with him watching poker and Family Guy and Everybody Loves Raymond because he says he enjoys my company.
All I'm asking for is "I love you" or maybe a kiss or a hug or something that was his idea instead of mine, or maybe a phone call once in a while.
I didn't have this problem before his wreck. This leads me to believe that I'm just being extremely selfish.
I don't mean to be though. I just need to be reminded that I matter to him. That's all.
I feel forgotten about. He doesn't call, I have to. He doesn't say "I love you" first. I have to.
What should I do? If I talk to him, what should I say? I'll give you a 5 for a serious attempt.
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YOU need to confront him. if he is well enough to press the buttons on a ps2 or listen to an ipod he can press the buttons on a phone and call and listen to you! excellen question!
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ok well my "x" friend is like talking about my bff and she thinks im not mad at her n im not but my bff shes making funof thinks i am but i dont wanna be mad at her i still want to be her friend how do i tell my 4 bffs who hate her (link)
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that really was very confusing... but realy friends wouldnt mind if you were friends with someone else... im not sure what it is that has happened but true friends will always be there for you no matter what situation. xx hope i helped xxx
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Sorry this is long...
I found this on an advice column. It was posted by a well know columnist, and read the following:
Rules For Kids This list is the work of Charles J. Sykes, author of the book Dumbing Down Our Kids: Why American Children Feel Good About Themselves But Can't Read, Write, Or Add. Rule No. 1: Life is not fair. Get used to it. The average teenager uses the phrase "It's not fair" 8.6 times a day. You got it from your parents, who said it so often you decided they must be the most idealistic generation ever. When they started hearing it from their own kids, they realized Rule No. 1. Rule No. 2: The real world won't care as much about your self-esteem as much as your school does. It'll expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself. This may come as a shock. Usually, when inflated self-esteem meets reality, kids complain that it's not fair. (See Rule No. 1) Rule No. 3: Sorry, you won't make $40,000 a year right out of high school. And you won't be a vice president or have a car phone either. You may even have to wear a uniform that doesn't have a Gap label. Rule No. 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait 'til you get a boss. He doesn't have tenure, so he tends to be a bit edgier. When you screw up, he's not going to ask you how you feel about it. Rule No. 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping. They called it opportunity. They weren't embarrassed making minimum wage either. They would have been embarrassed to sit around talking about Kurt Cobain all weekend. Rule No. 6: It's not your parents' fault. If you screw up, you are responsible. This is the flip side of "It's my life," and "You're not the boss of me," and other eloquent proclamations of your generation. When you turn 18, it's on your dime. Don't whine about it, or you'll sound like a baby boomer. Rule No. 7: Before you were born your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way paying your bills, cleaning up your room and listening to you tell them how idealistic you are. And by the way, before you save the rain forest from the blood-sucking parasites of your parents' generation, try delousing the closet in your bedroom. Rule No. 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers. Life hasn't. In some schools, they'll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. Failing grades have been abolished and class valedictorians scrapped, lest anyone's feelings be hurt. Effort is as important as results. This, of course, bears not the slightest resemblance to anything in real life. (See Rule No. 1, Rule No. 2 and Rule No. 4.) Rule No. 9: Life is not divided into semesters, and you don't get summers off. Not even Easter break. They expect you to show up every day for eight hours. And you don't get a new life every 10 weeks. It just goes on and on. While we're at it, very few jobs are interested in fostering your self-expression or helping you find yourself. Fewer still lead to self-realization. (See Rule No. 1 and Rule No. 2.) Rule No. 10: Television is not real life. Your life is not a sitcom. Your problems will not all be solved in 30 minutes, minus time for commercials. In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop to go to jobs. Your friends will not be as perky or pliable as Jennifer Aniston. Rule No. 11: Be nice to nerds. You may end up working for them. We all could. Rule No. 12: Smoking does not make you look cool. It makes you look moronic. Next time you're out cruising, watch an 11-year-old with a butt in his mouth. That's what you look like to anyone over 20. Ditto for "expressing yourself" with purple hair and/or pierced body parts. Rule No. 13: You are not immortal. (See Rule No. 12.) If you are under the impression that living fast, dying young, and leaving a beautiful corpse is romantic, you obviously haven't seen one of your peers at room temperature lately. Rule No. 14: Enjoy this while you can. Sure parents are a pain, school's a bother, and life is depressing. But someday you'll realize how wonderful it was to be a kid. Maybe you should start now.
Being 15 years old, and going through enough to make me mature enough not to waste my life, I found that all of that is true. With the few people that would be willing to listen to me, I actually have tried to tell them all those things, and show them what life is really like [which is actually not like shows shot on a set and aired on MTV monday nights at 10.] My question is this: how can I further help those around my age to become...better? I have been trying to help people along with their troubled lives one at a time, but is that enough to actually pay off in the long run? Would there be anything I could do or say to maybe...get this process going a bit quicker before its too late? Thanks - will rate.
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I'm new at this but most of the random questions I've received are from teenagers trying to change each other.
This is the time in your life that you and your friends will make major decisions...What college to go to, what to major in, what car to get, etc. Not many people enjoy being told what they should do. I think this is why kids start to fight with their parents at this age. They want some independence and the parents are still trying to tell their kids what they can and should do. If I were you, I'd avoid handing out unsolicited advice to your friends because it could cost you some relationships. You said it yourself above when you said "With the few people that would be willing to listen to me..."
Each of your friends is going to get to where they need to be by going down different paths. The fact that everybody is different is what makes life interesting. What works for you, may not work for someone else. So my advice to you is to stay focused on YOU and stop worrying about everybody else. Remember that YOUR way is not the ONLY way. If you REALLY want to make a difference in other people's lives, just set a good example. The ones that like what they see, may look at you as a leader or role model. But you can't force a person to be like you. It's a choice they have to make for themselves.
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Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering...should age matter in a relationship? What's your point of view on this one, like does it matter if both are close in age or far apart...by far I mean less than 5 years or so. Thanks in advance, will rate. (link)
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There's not just one answer to this question. So yes and no. It really depends on the age and the people. A five year difference is really big when you're talking 12 yrs old and 7...it's not so bad when you're talking 35 and 30.
Personally, if I were 17, I wouldn't feel comfortable dating a 22 yr old OR a 12 yr old.
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Hi everyone!
I feel terrible. Allow me to explain. I'm Todd, and I'm 15. A friend of mine (female) was cutting herself and that she was really depressed. I went to the counselor at my school to make sure that she didn't do anything hurtful (like suicide).
When she came back the next day after I told the counselor, I found out that she was on a new anti-depressant: Zoloft.
On Friday, I found out that the principal called her down and said that she wouldn't be allowed back in school unless she had a note from her psychiatrist. She told me she might be out for a while. :-(
Some of my friends said I shouldn't tell the counselor (on the day before I told the counselor), but my parents and several people said that I should. I was pretty nervous, and I didn't want her to commit suicide or do anything terrible.
I feel terrible, like I made her go away. ;-( She's not sure when she'll be back, but I feel like I committed a crime or killed someone. :-(
I'm also afraid of what my friends might say when I go back to school tomorrow. Most of all, I feel terrible since I won't see her, and I don't know how long I won't see her either. :-(
Any comments, advice, please feel free to say so.
Thanks,
Todd (link)
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Todd, you did the right thing by reporting this to an adult especially if you feared for your friend's life.
The person that screwed up is the PRINCIPAL. I'd like to see that idiot fired. Why would any intelligent person REJECT someone that is obviously depressed?! I'm shocked that your counselor didn't advice the principle that expellsion would be received as "rejection" by your friend and could actually do more damage to her.
In addition, it sets an example to all the kids in your school that you can't go to them in the future because their reactions are too extreme.
I recommend that you ask your parents to call the principle and discuss this decision.
But YOU did nothing wrong.
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I am really not shy but i find it hard to start conversations with guys. SOmeone picked me up from the movies and i was quiet the whole time. Is their a strategy i could use or something to help me think of topics? PLease help its so akward! (link)
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you just should be yourself and try not to get embarassed i swear its so easy for me to start conversations now becuase i am just my self and if i say something embarassing i just laugh at my self. be your self its not like they are excpecting someone else
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My cell phone fell into the water. And i guess i'm wanting a new one. It was a camera phone. But what are some good ones that are flip-fones and have camera and stuff.
And are Sidekicks good? What do they have?
Also. Is there any possible way to find out my contacts? Because i've tried putting my SIM card into other phones and trying to find out from there but they only give me a few.
Thank you alot. I appreciate it! (link)
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i canonly help you on the sim card thing, you might not have saved all of your numbers to the sim card.
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The very first time my boyfriend and I said "I love you" to each other was about two weeks ago. He said it first. Now though, I always say it first. He never tells me he loves me unless I say it to him. So what's wrong? Does he regret saying it? Is he just shy? What can I do to make him say it first? (link)
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if you want to know wait for him to say it to you
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I'm going to participate in a Speak Out program at my school, where I have to give a speech. We have to pick a topic - any - of our choice to talk about, three minutes or so tops. Well I need to give in a topic by tomorrow or after tomorrow maximum, and so far my teacher has advised me to talk about something I know from personal experience. So far, I could only think of depression: why do kids fall in to it, and how can it be stopped, the abuse of drugs, and thats it, but thats not personal experience. I was depressed for around a year, but I was in seventh grade and its unpleasnt to think of it. im a sophmore now, but ANYWAY, does anyone have any ideas for important topics, something that would get me picked? regardless of personal experience and such. This is really urgent and I really appreiciate good, well thought out answers.
Thank you. I'm fifteen and a sophomore, by the way, for those who didnt catch that the first time. (link)
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abortion its got many topics pro life and pro choice you can talk about it for more than three minutes
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