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I feel really bad
Hi everyone!
I feel terrible. Allow me to explain. I'm Todd, and I'm 15. A friend of mine (female) was cutting herself and that she was really depressed. I went to the counselor at my school to make sure that she didn't do anything hurtful (like suicide).
When she came back the next day after I told the counselor, I found out that she was on a new anti-depressant: Zoloft.
On Friday, I found out that the principal called her down and said that she wouldn't be allowed back in school unless she had a note from her psychiatrist. She told me she might be out for a while. :-(
Some of my friends said I shouldn't tell the counselor (on the day before I told the counselor), but my parents and several people said that I should. I was pretty nervous, and I didn't want her to commit suicide or do anything terrible.
I feel terrible, like I made her go away. ;-( She's not sure when she'll be back, but I feel like I committed a crime or killed someone. :-(
I'm also afraid of what my friends might say when I go back to school tomorrow. Most of all, I feel terrible since I won't see her, and I don't know how long I won't see her either. :-(
Any comments, advice, please feel free to say so.
Thanks,
Todd
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Todd, you did the right thing by reporting this to an adult especially if you feared for your friend's life.
The person that screwed up is the PRINCIPAL. I'd like to see that idiot fired. Why would any intelligent person REJECT someone that is obviously depressed?! I'm shocked that your counselor didn't advice the principle that expellsion would be received as "rejection" by your friend and could actually do more damage to her.
In addition, it sets an example to all the kids in your school that you can't go to them in the future because their reactions are too extreme.
I recommend that you ask your parents to call the principle and discuss this decision.
But YOU did nothing wrong.
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you did the right thing. i was in this situation before and the kids mother found out i went to th counselor even thow she said she didn't want the school to know and she said that's what a responsible friend would do. so don't beat yourself up it's probably something that is upsetting her so try talking to her. and just like don't do anything stupid.
Hope I Helped!,
Mike
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i think you did the best thing she will understand l8ter
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ok todd, im 13, but my friends have done the same and ive witnessed it too. you did the right thing by telling a responsible adult. you feel bad cause she was a very good friend! but see you are not to blame cause you did the right thing, you just dont want her to get hurt! call her often and talk about school and friends... ask her hows shes doing, she prolly wont mind!
hope i helped!
helping buddy
=)
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You did the right thing. I don't know why your friends would think that it's wrong to tell a counselor about a friend thats self injuring, but that was the right thing to do. The reason you told the counselor was because you didn't want her to lose her life, so in a way, you're saving her life. When you face your friends, you just need to be proud of what you did, and if they aren't, then thats too bad for them. When you see her, ask her if shes alright, and give her a hug. I think what she truly needs is someone to let her know that someone cares, and you're one of those many people who care.
-TheTeenGirl
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You did absolutely nothing wrong! You're just saving your friends life. My friends & I were in the same position, my friend was saying how she cut herself and would do it again if she failed a subject because her parents would bitch at her! So we told the counselor because we cared about her and didn't want her to do something that bad to herself.
My advice to you about tomorrow, if your friends even say anything to you about it, then just ignore them. Seriously, it's not worth it at all, you did what you thought was best. Which is the road everyone else would've taken. Just think, if you wouldn't have told the counselor, she might be dead right now. There's always those IFs. but Seriously you did the right thing. :)
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Todd,
dont feel bad. you did the right thing. if you didnt tell someone, then they couldnt have gotten your friend the help she needs, and she wouldnt have gotten better. You'll see her again, i wont lie, it may be sometime, but at least you know she is getting better.
as for your friends, it shouldnt matte what they say. Them not saying something makes them look like someone who doesnt care, cause if they did care, they would have told someone too.
But don't worry, things will be fine in the end, and if it isnt fine, it isnt the end.
you did the right thing kid ♥
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It's not your fault. Trust me, you did the right thing so do not feel bad. I hope your friend stops cutting herself. I really feel bad and I hope everything works out!
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HEY HUNNY !!
well i dono what too tell you but in my school
we had a speaker come in and told us about
suicide and cutting and lot of different stuff
and they gave us a card and here is the number
1-888-644-5886 and it is free call them and
they will help you out and stuff ok
♥ Samra
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You did the right thing you know. I know it can seem scary but you helped her from making some teriible decisions. You helped her from messing up her life forever. Don't let anyone say you did the wrong thing cause I would have done the same thing. And don't let anyone make you look like you were the bad guy for getting her help that she must have needed. Atleast you know that you helped someone that was in need of help and getting it. You could call your self a hero. :) I'm sorry I can't help an any other way than saying you did the right thing and that is what matters.If you want to talk fill free to comment me back. Hope everything works out.
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Todd,
I think that you made the right decision, you were only doing what you think was best for her. She could have really hurt herself and believe me you would have felt worse if you didnt do anything about it and she passed away from it. When you go back to school tell people who talk about you to mind there business hold your head up high and go about your day. Try and get in touch with her or check back with the guidance counsler for updates so you wont feel so bad.
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I hate when people know someone is cutting themselves and doesn't do anything about it. You did do the right thing. And I'm not just saying that to be gay either. I've witnessed many kids that said their cutting was "harmless" and ended up suicidal. If your friends have a problem with it simply respond with, "You’ll be thanking me when she doesn't kill herself." She needs help and she's getting it all thanks to you. Good job. Try calling her house and asking her parents if you can see her. I'm sure they'll let you once you tell them you care about her and want to see how she's doing.
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