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this sucks. please help
Remember the question about the boy in the car wreck? That's my boyfriend. He was in a wreck two weeks ago today and is stuck on the couch watching tv all day because he's got a few cracked bones.He should be totally better in a month. Here's my question.
I dont want to sound selfish.
I do everything I can for him. I buy him Sonic and cigarettes every couple days. I bake him cookies and make him fudge. I bring him a PS2 and movies and games and my iPod. I spend hours sitting on his couch with him watching poker and Family Guy and Everybody Loves Raymond because he says he enjoys my company.
All I'm asking for is "I love you" or maybe a kiss or a hug or something that was his idea instead of mine, or maybe a phone call once in a while.
I didn't have this problem before his wreck. This leads me to believe that I'm just being extremely selfish.
I don't mean to be though. I just need to be reminded that I matter to him. That's all.
I feel forgotten about. He doesn't call, I have to. He doesn't say "I love you" first. I have to.
What should I do? If I talk to him, what should I say? I'll give you a 5 for a serious attempt.
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What you should do is hold out for now, but after he gets better talk to him about it. He should be back to normal by then, and you bringing something like that up now will probably upset him even more. When you do talk about it, tell him how much it hurt you and how you want him to try not to do it again. If he hasn't stopped doing it, talking about it should encourage him to start acting normal again. He's so upset about his condition that he can't really focus on anything else. He really appreciates what you're doing and will come around eventually. You are being really great to him by the way. I'll bet he loves you even more than he did before. Good luck!
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YOU need to confront him. if he is well enough to press the buttons on a ps2 or listen to an ipod he can press the buttons on a phone and call and listen to you! excellen question!
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Well like you said he was in a car wreck, and he still might be a little shooken up about it and not to talkative. It's just something that happened in his life that's going to be distracting him and be on his mind for awhile and it's going to change him for a bit. But hopefully whenever he's healed, he'll be back to himself. If he's still the same afterwards, I'd ask him why he's become so different. I'm sure he really appreciates everything you are doing for him, he's just shook up a little by the accident. He also might be wanting to see how much you love him, you know? Like," what if i were to die in that car crash? How much would she have loved me?" ( you know what I mean ) so maybe he's just trying to see how much you exactly love him and everything. Like I said, see what happens after he heals and if he doesn't change, talk to him about it and ask him if anythings bothering him. I hope I helped, and I hope your boyfriend feels better soon =]
Love,
MELii
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Dear Undecided,
After reading all that stuff that you do for him he should be the one asking if he's selfish, not you. That's thenicest thing i've heard. And i agree that he should call you and say that he loves you once in a while cause i mean he's sitting there on the couch he certainly has plenty of time to call you and talk. So what i think you should do is ask him why he never says he loves you or says thanx but say it in a nice way sometimes guys can be sensitive so you have to be ultrasensitive since he's been in a car accident. Don't worry he won't break up with you if you ever need to talk again write me at my column.
much love and good luck i hope he gets better soon,
bubblesamin
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He was in a car wreck as you mentioned. He just needs time to think over it so he's probably distracted. When he's compeletely healed, he should be acting the same. If you can't wait, just ask why he's acting different... like how he doesn't do certain things anymore. Or you shouldn't kiss or hug him, I think he will get the idea that you don't always want to start something like that and he will do it...Though if he has crackd bones..do you want him to move and hurt himself? I'm just wondering, was he the one that always did things first? because maybe he wants to hear you say it first and do things first. I'm pretty sure guys like it when girls make the first moves. Tell him to call you. If you're with him and you have to leave say Bye and look at him...wait until he says it..
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