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Question Posted Friday November 18 2005, 12:39 am

I'm babysitting my next-foor neighbor's 3 kids. They are 10, 6, and 2. This is my first time babysitting on my own and I`m a little nervous. What should I do to keep them busy? What do I do if they begin to fight with each other, or one starts to cry? Any tips?


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bittersweet12 answered Saturday February 4 2006, 4:39 am:
wel what i do with babysittin a larger amount of children at once is first tell the oldest one that you are intrusting him/her with the resposibilty of being your little helper...this way if the baby needs something or even if you need to go to the bathroom the kids will be fine. then set them up with a disney movie that would be good for the 2 older ones and simly play a little more with the baby since most 2 year olds cant stand to be still! good luck and dont stress just have fun!
hearts, kiki

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summer answered Friday January 20 2006, 8:43 pm:
ok well to keep them busy you should maybe let the older ones play videogames if they have any.
play a board game with the younger one or read them a story.
if they start to fight with one another give them a first warning if they continue give them a second warning. if they do it again send each of them to their own rooms for up to 10 minutes.
tell them they can them come down and must apologise otherwise you might not come back again
tell their parents when they come in and let them deal with the situation
hope this advice helps
love
summer
xxxxxxxxxxxxx

P.S. stay calm. don't let them take control

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halfbloodprince123087 answered Wednesday December 21 2005, 6:25 pm:
Kids like to play games:video games (10 & 6 year olds) board games (2 year olds). If they start to fight, ask them to stop once and if they don't stop, warn them that they will be punished and if that don't stop it, punish them. If you are going to spank them, make sure you got their parents permission first. Other than that, send them to thier rooms or put them in time out. If they start to cry, find out what is wrong. I hope I helped.

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hersheylover answered Monday December 12 2005, 3:53 am:
i know exactly how you feel!! i babysit all the time...here are some tips!!
make a kid kit! just use an old box or something..put some old board games...crayons, stickers, markers, coloring books, puzzles, etc in it..it works wonders!!
also (if the parents permit) bring a small treat for each child to give to them when you are about to leave --depending on if they behaved that night
if they fight-- separate them- tell them that if they fight, they will not recieve their treat, or will lose a privalage
if one starts to cry..love it..rock it..sing to it..do something fun!! if it starts throwing a fit...here is what i do, if a child throws a fit, tell them that they are not being a big kid! start another game, and slightly ignore them..soon he/she will quiet down and want to play too...if he/she doesnt, remind them that they wont get their treat, and that you will tell their parents..
if you have any more problems..just ask..ive got a lot of experience..i babysit 5 kids all the time. hope i helped!! please rate ~hersheylover~

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shutupnkissme98 answered Friday December 2 2005, 1:14 pm:
put on a movie that they call all watch, make sure it isnt scary or sexual. give them some pop corn or somthing to eat while they watch it and that should keep them busy for awhile. if they start to fight break them up and tell them that YOU are in control and that YOU say fighting is not allowed. if one of them starts to cry, comfort it and say that your parents will be home soon and they wil make it all better. hope i helped XoXo

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xbebopchrisx answered Tuesday November 29 2005, 6:09 am:
I am sure that your really excited about this and I bet your going to do just fine. Some general rules of thumb you might want to know are the following.


BEFORE THE PARENTS LEAVE:

& Don't let the first time you meet these children be when your going to babysit them. Make sure you meet them atleast before you babysit them (with there parents with you) so the parents can see how the children act around you.

& Also be sure to look around the house before the parents leave to see any potential problems the kids could get into.

& Make sure that you have a list of emergency phone numbers and any special things you should know about the children (bedtimes, allergies, rules, health condictions etc.)


WHEN THE PARENTS ARE GONE:

& Make sure that you fix any problems or disputes amongst the kids right away and let them know that your there to have fun while there parents are away but that they must also follow the rules.

& Have a small bag of age approiate toys and games that you have brought to help entertain the kids.


That's all I can think of right now but I hope that helps you out! I bet your gonna do great. Remember if something happens that you can't handle don't be afraid to call for help (try calling your own parents first for advice, they might not be able to help but they might tell you that you need to call the childrens parents.)

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whyamimakingthis answered Sunday November 27 2005, 8:02 am:
when i babysit i bring a little bag filled with mcdonalds toys/other little toys.. i tell the kids if they are good, they get a "prize" it makes life so much easier. make sure you ask the parents about the kids bedtime, eating habits, where the diapers/baby needs are, cell phone numbers, what time they will be home, etc.
put them on time out if needed. if they fight then say there goes your prize, or dessert or something like that.. and DONT GIVE IN!! if they say that "my mom lets me do it" you have to be in charge and say something like "WEll WHIle, i babysit, you wont be doing that. sorry"
^^ let me know if i helped!

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Annerszz_101 answered Sunday November 27 2005, 4:26 am:
To keep them busy:

Get them out some toys and play with them for awhile. then if you see them walking aroud and beginning to get bored- turn on a game system or let them watch some TV

If they start to fight:
make them apologize and separate them. time outs help. write down who fought with who and what they fought about, give that to the parents whenever they return.

If they start to cry:
give them a toy they are attached to. sit them on a couch/chair/bed and give them a hug and tell them it's alright.

^^ PLEASE let me know if this helps or not!
**hope it works out!**
x-O Annerszz_101 x-O

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orphans answered Thursday November 24 2005, 4:15 am:
I took a babysitting course- 1)find out what they are interested in by parents, then bring a few games for each of the kids. 2)Right when the parents leave say "ok now i have only one rule, that is - no fighting-! hopefully they will listen. 3) since hopefully the 10 yr old can keep him/herself occupied, focus more on the littler kids. 4) Ask the 10 yr old to maybe help you out if has a few spare minutes - maybe ask him wut he thinks his brothers/sisters are like from a kids point of view - 5) Good Luck!!!


Helping_angels

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DZANAx3 answered Saturday November 19 2005, 5:20 pm:
awe you shouldnt be nervous at all its way easier than you think. i babysat this uh 2 and a half year old alone and the first time i was over there we got locked out of the house it was bad but it all worked out in the end i dont think your gonna have many problems you should just give them something to do and maybee sit and watch a movie with them something that they'll enjoy if they begin to fight with one another then you should seperate them and have them do seperate activities and also if one starts to cry try your best to comfort him/her but dont take your attention of the other ones .. [&hearts;]

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Mercy_x_Me answered Friday November 18 2005, 8:39 pm:
Hey, I babysit too. Well, here's some tips from my experience. I've babysat neighbours before too and it is very handy and a good first job. If there ever were an emergency your right next to your own home w/ your parents and stuff. Don't be too nervous...not all kids are terrible. Kids WILL be kids though and you never know. To keep them busy-- I find it easiest to suggest a movie while I'm babysitting. They don't always accept that, which you have to understand because sometimes they're excited you're over and they want to play with their babysitter. If the kids start fighting over a material object, just take it away and tell them that no one can have it unless they share. Be gentle in telling them that though. No need to raise your voice, because it may get back to their parents. Make sure you don't go on the phone because some kids are very observant and might tell their parents later, and the parents don't want to pay you to ignore the kids. From experience, I've noticed when kids cry, unless it involves an injury, it is very short-lived. If one starts to cry just rub their back and try and make them laugh. If they fight with eachother over something verbally, simply say "OK guys, let's not fight. Tonight is supposed to be fun!". Kids like the idea of fun. Don't let any one of them leave the room without you unless they tell you where they are going. I know it might sound a little TOO strict but otherwise they might hide or get hurt and not be able to have you access them which could be tricky. If you have to put them to sleep, suggest some books or a movie if they have a DVD player in their bedrooms, and if they give you a difficult time about the actual sleeping, just tell them "you don't have to go to sleep. Just lay on your bed and play with stuffed animals." Something like that. If you think one of them is lying to you about what time they can go to bed or what sort of TV show they can watch, just say "What will Mommy/Daddy say if I ask them?" and the kids usually don't want to get caught in a lie and give up. Or if a kid is misbehaving you can tell them "I don't want to have to tell Mommy you were bad...please behave." Really, it's not a big deal at all, I've been doing it for three or four years now. You should be fine, and the pay is very rewarding, it's really a simple job in most cases.

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sillyrob answered Friday November 18 2005, 4:32 am:
Send them all to their rooms and tell them they're not eating til they read a dictionary.

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hco_babe answered Friday November 18 2005, 3:01 am:
do something that everyone can do together. that way you know where everyone is at all times. (any games, movies, play-do, coloring books, playing "house", dress up, bubbles, books, puzzles, play a song and dance.) if they get hungry you can just like make a little snack for them. (like crackers or sliced apples or something) if one starts to cry just hold them, tell them everything will be alright. but change the subject and be like, "HEY DO YOU WANT TO GO PLAY blah blah etc" hopefully they wont fight, if they do just split it up and tell them while your there that their going to play the "nice game" or something like that. whoever is nicest the whole time wins. ok well i hoped i helped you a little. good luck, you'll be fine. = )

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bubblesamin answered Friday November 18 2005, 2:26 am:
Dear Babysitter,
What you should do when you go over there is make sure to have plenty of books to read to the little ones to help them fall asleep. Take a children's cd if you have one take it over there and play musical chairs believe me any age likes that. For the 10 year old your probably gonna have to think a little bit more mature. Probably just go over there and do what ever the 10 year old wants but make sure to let them know that you are still the boss and that, that 10 year old isn't on the same level playing field your still their babysitter too not jsut the 6 and 2 year olds. Maybe if it's a boy let them play video games if it's a girl bring over what every girl likes some nail polish and make up that'll make them think that their not just little kids and if you get the kids to like you then you'll be coming back for more which means turning a profit!!!yeah!!!

much love and good luck,
bubblesamin

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Scribble answered Friday November 18 2005, 2:15 am:
First off- SHOW NO WEAKNESS! You don't have to go boot camp on them but if the six and ten year olds think they can push you around, they will. Be friendly and reassuring, but firm. If they start fighting, threaten to send them to bed or separate them. If one of them starts crying, ask yourself why. Are they just doing it to get what they want? If so, again, don't get pushed around.

As to keeping them occupied, whatever you suggest, take part as well. If you are taking part in the activity with them, they are less likely to get distracted. On top of that if you are still an adolescent they might try to impress you rather then acting up. Little kids tend to look up to any older youth who takes an genuine interest.

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