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hey well i was wondering what all u alls views were on teens (well 14 yr olds) making out? is it to young, or not? and what about not going all the way like sex but..just a little ways? i just need to know what other peoples views are on this! please please please i'll rate high!! xo thanks
hey, im pretty open and i think that age isnt so much of a facter as maturity and love. maturity is really important, you need to be mature enough to handle the consequences and emotions that come with sex, as for making out its the same you just need to be ready. also you need to be in love for sex, or at least respect yourself enough to do for the right reasons. Have fun but be safe and always respect yourself and your body
hey whats up? Hey i have a question and i seem kinda confussed about it. Anyways I worte a letter to a guy that I like and In the letter I really expressed my feelings about him. I really feel like i shouldn't give it to him or not. Whats the best thing to do? I really poured my feelings on that paper tho. Iam seeing him soon . So i need little help here before i give it to him.
hey, thanks for askin for my advice. about your letter i think that from my own experience you should read your letter and first make sure it isnt too much i tried writing a letter once and wellll i kinda blabbered and sounded obsessed(thank god i didnt give it to him) anyway i think you should go for it, take a chance and see what happens. you might regret it if you dont kinda like me. if it doesnt work out thers others but chances are if ther are at least some signs that he likes you then this letter will show him and give him the confidence to ask you out! good luck and tell me how it goes!
-kim
when it comes to guys im way behind. im not so good at handling them. a lot of guys have approached me and like me.. but i seem to always turn them down.. not because i dont like them, but because im scared. theres only one guy ive ever trusted and he has a girlfriend. he said if he was single hed go out with me in a second. which is why i think i turn guys down. im scared that if i get into a commitment with a guy.. when the guy i really like(the one with the girlfriend) is single ill be taken. im also scared because my parents are super strict and i would have to hide a boyfriend if i had one. im 16 years old btw. ahh i dont know what to do. im missing out and i want it to stop. any advice?
hey, im the same way and i know that it sucks to be "saving yourself"(not in the sexual way lol) for that guy but i think that you should do what i did put him on the back burner(dont forget about him jus put him on hold), you dont have to go for that serious relationship right now but broadin you herizon and look behind this one guy. if it works out for you two in the future awsome but for now look at the other boys around and have fun! i hope this helps and good luck with everything
-kimberly
I was planning on redecorating my room. Im going to paint my walls white and i want to get a red (or something with red) bed comforter. i have one big window and i wanted to get red drapes. does any one have any other ideas or like websites where i could get pillows or decorating ideas or stuff that would look good with my room i rate 5's
thanks
hey, um well here are some stores i love for furniture:
-urban outfitters:you can look them up online and the room stuff is under "apartment"
-ikea:i lov it cuz it is very funky
-pottery barn:you can get fuzzy pillows and they have a pottery barn teen(PBteen) as well and that has some really cool stuff.
-target:well target just has everything lol
well i hope this helped and tell if you need some more ideas
-kimberly
hello fellow advicenators :]
i haev a lyric question. ive noticed in a lot of aim profiles and aim icons, a saying. and the saying is: "There's beauty in teh break-down"
and i realllyyy need to know what song that is from! If anyone can tell me the title & the artist ill be SO happy! will rate!
hey i know a lot of people already told you but if you liked the song "let go" then you should listen to the gardenstate soundtrack cd cuz it has some great music.
Heyy. There is this guy that i REALLY like, but i'm too scared to talk to him and i have no idea what to say. He's not in any of my classes, i only see him in the hallway. Some of my friends say they think he likes me because he blushes sometimes when he sees me and stares and me sometimes, but he is really shy too so he wont talk to me. Honestly, I have no idea if he likes me or not. I want to say something to him and maybe become friends. but i dont want it to be ackward. Please help. ♥
hey, ive experienced something similar, this guy i saw like in between 3 classes kept smiling at me and finally during lunch he just said hi and asked what i was up to and i finally got his name(he somehow knew mine) and we exchanged numbers...so you should first try to smile bac at him whenever you see him, this way he knows your thinking about him. then try finding him during lunch or even jus in the hallway and say hi/introduce yourself, just keep it simple. once you sorta know eachother start talking to him more and ask if he ever wants to hang out. try being friends first(not for too long though) then hint that you like him and ther you go!or if you are more foward(lucky you) try introducing yourself next time you see him and then hint how you feel. i hope this helped i tryed to put it in a simple way that doesnt cause too much embaressment. good luck and tell me how it goes cuz i like to hear if i actually helped!
-kimberly
I am 21 yrs old and have been dating this guy for 3&1/2 yrs now (started my senior year of highschool) and I love him very much, but for the last year or so Ive gotten to the point where I just don't know if I can see us together forever anymore (like all girls dream) and am wondering if I should stay or go. We have been getting into alot more fights, way more easily than before and most of them are due to the fact that he is obsessed with video games and puts them ahead of hanging out with me all the time. Lately, hes gotten into this new game that has quests with alot of people on certain days of the weeks; scheduled quests. And he decides to not hang out with me and play instead even though its a friday night which is one of my nights off (no college the next day or work). We rarely see each other the way it is this semester due to classes and work and homework that this is ruining my time with him and it bugs me how he doesn't care. Even when we do hang out, when I come over to his house I have to get him off his game and its hard work. I just don't feel like a priority anymore, and because of this I get angry easier and then make him mad and we get into fights. He thinks I nag on him too much and I think he doesn't prioritize me enough. I love him sooo much, hes very honest and true to me, but I'm to the point where I'm jealous of a game?! This just doesn't feel right. The only other thing (other than his good points) stopping me from breaking it off with him is the fact that we have a class together and i don't want to have this stuff affect my grades and I am very 'addicted' to him (i love him soo much and dont know how to live without him anymore). Should i stay With him? Should i break it off? If so, when? Thanks for any advice you can give me.
i think that you need to jus talk it over with him, you dont have to give him a ultamadum but tell him he needs to make some sort of unofficial decision and figure out whether a great girl is more important that a fiction game! through this question you need to decide whether he is worth your time...and if it doesnt work out then dont sweat it, it wasnt meant to be. comment bac if you need more advice and tell me how it goes.
ther for ya,
kimberly
I think I may have social anxiety(sp). Whenever my friends do something without me I start to think they don't like me and and start to get very depressed. I've been depressed a lot lately for different reasons also but I was thinking I may have social anxiety. I'm starting to feel separated from my friends and that I only have one tru friend. I'm also getting depressed more easily. The slightest thing makes me force back tears. Does anyone have an idea as to what this might be? Thank you.
hey! i dont kno enough about you to say yea go get help(even though it could just be a phase) but as a teen myself i as well often feel depressed or like i only have one real friend or im losing my friends. i think what you need to do is talk to your friends or try to be more involved, you dont have to live for your friends but increase your social life(unless its already big), this way you can become more comfortable with your peers, eliminating some of the stress that you experience. also to releave some of the tension try expressing yourself in new ways and realize that you dont need a billion friends, ive found that its the true friends that count and they arent just going to leave you behind dont worry. here is a website that can give you some more information about sp, incase you still are confused about what qualifies you for a disease such as depression or social anxiety disorder. hope it helped!
there for ya,
kimberly
16/f vegetarian
How can I lose 15 pounds in a month? I know I can work out and eat healthy (cut down on sweets and stuff like that) but could you give me a detailed list of exercises and foods so I can lose this weight. If you need more information then ask for it in your answer and I'll add to this.
hey,
try the following exercises:
-knee to knee crunches for nice hips and stong and flat abs.
-lunges for a tight booty and thighs
-walk around your block a few times a day walking is a awsome way to lose weight quickly
-and jus go get your freak on lol...dance and stay active it should be easy
as for food:
-vitamuffins ther really good and you can even have chocolate ones...try replacing your breakfast with one
-make sure with every meal you eat even if it way be a snack eat a protein whether its nuts or something else. and try only eating carbs with 2-3 meals a day.
goodluck and let me kno how it goes
-kim
sorry, but this is really long, but its easy to understand...
ok so ive liked this boy since like september, and we started going out last week, on tuesday. hes a really shy person, and hes only had a few gf's before. our relationship...isnt what i would call.."normal". well like at first when we werent going out, we barely talked. and then when we did start going out, we talked a lil more. and i was like getting pissed, because he was so shy, and he like couldnt sit with me at lunch, he was to shy to walk to class with me, and like to shy to even come over to talk with me. but now our relatoinship is getting a little better because all of my friends kept telling him that i was getting pissed, and he said he would try and talk to me more. and ive been talking to him online about talking to me more, and he said he would to. so now hes talking to me more, and like hes actually started waiting for me after we get out of a class, and walking with me, but we sorta walk in silence sometimes. he barely talks, he just says cool about everything i say, and laughs, and i know he really does like me because hes told me. and like i really want our relationship to work because i really like him. but i seriously cant take this anymore, all the silent walking, the no hugs, or barely any talking, he doesnt really come over to me unless i ask him to..and i like said at the end of this week, if he doesnt start changeing then im going to have to break up with him because i cnt go through with this. but then i thought like i really like him and i dotn want to have to sit tehre everyday looking at him thinking that i had the chance to stay with him but i like blew it off. so please i need some advice on what to do...
hey, try asking him questions that arent like a sentence answer type q's and start to hug him and hold hands with him just be reaaalllllyyyy forward! go for it and give it your all. if it doesnt work then you know you tried and maybe for now it wasnt meant to be but who knows maybe he'll change and it will all work out. tell me how it goes.
ther for ya,
-kim
Ok I'm still talking about the same girl that I'm in love with, ill tell the whole story now though. Shes tends to like the assholes and i always try to show it to her that she needs a better guy, not necessarily me but someone good for her. I would do anything for her, and i want her to know that, she may already from some things in the past i just dont know what to do. I need ideas on how to get her, that might actually work, shes a really nice girl so i can do anything trashy, shes just perfect for me and i will never feel complete without her. Please give me some advice on how to get her in my life.
hey,
i dont know if you already go to movies alone or how close of friends you are but try asking simply to go see a movie(either romantic or scary) in the movie act mosty mormal see where your hands go...but after ask her to take a walk or something and just tell her that you are the right guy, the one who wont treat her like crap. if she isnt insane shell at the very least consider her feelings for you...as for the friendship(the thing that puts so many of these relationships on hold) tell her even if you decide to be friends it will never be the same. You will always know that i want more and oneday you will too, tell her you will always be friends no matter what and you can both let the relationship not effect the friendship it is possible! let me know how it goes i like the happy endings!
there for ya,
kimberly
Popular guy, semi-nerdy girl. A year left in high school. Could we make this work or are we just fooling ourselves?
hey, of course you could make it work! I've found that the last year of high school everyone hangs out so make it work. maybe your school is different but if you are dating this girl then she is probably smart, pretty and good for your wellbeing. see how it goes.
there for ya,
kimberly
i've been with this girl for a few months now even though we are usually in different towns. i don't konw if she accepts me as her boyfriend yet, even though when i asked her about it she does not give a yes or now but merely keeps communicating with me amorously. How do i find out form her if she takes me to be her boyfriend, if she akes me seriously if she has someone else,etc. Thank you.
hey, i think that you should try asking her what her intentions are...if she wants to become serious or wants to give it a break. try not to make it too serious like a ultimatum otherwise this might spark a fight. good luck and tell me how it goes!
ther for ya,
kimberly
so my boyfriend of last year and i had a really great relationship we were in love, but then my boyfriend began to like someone else so we broke up. then me and him stopped tlaking for awhile. about 4 months later i saw him at a football game and we began to talk and decided to hang out. it was like we were going out again everything was normal and we were both having a great time. unfortuanately we were both in other relationships. after that we didnt talk to each other any more. but then one day i went to my friends house and he was there also. me and him hooked up then. i can't keep my mind off of him since then and i dont no what to do about it all. i dont know what it is but we keep running into each other randomly. i dont no what to do any ideas?
hye, i dont want to tell you to just gie up on this guy i mean i really dont know if your in love with him or something and you didnt really specify if you were still in a relatonship with another guy/how serious...but try to give it time. wait things out and try to find out how serious he is about you why break it off/get hurt when you could have the guy? if you dont want to wait it out then next time you see him dont jump his bones although you might want to lol try talkin to him and seeing where you guys are and if you are on the same page with this little love affair. comment bac with more details if you want.
here for ya
-kim
ok i dono bout other people but i really think that it was the most dumbest thing to go to war i mean i am a christian and we learn tolerance and well going to war wow and now the hamas is in power for the palestines i dono its just that now are troops are stuck there and also in africa people are getting killed every single day i mean the whole reason we are in iraq is to help those people rite so why aren't we in africa rite now well i just think we are in iraq for oil i dono can i get your guyses opinions on it please
hey, i feel the same way i think that kids are taught in school that you shouldnt hit others, you know dont fight, and this and that but then you see grown men and women who volinteer humans to go and try to kill others. i often just question why waste time why dont you just teach us to kill, and people say teenagers have maturity issues! i believe that its stupid to practice such things and then have the balls to say look at our "men" out ther fighting for justice, its a joke. i say increase the peace and get a life, you know the whole steriotype of a nosie neighbor. i dont know if you are for president bush im mostly a independent person but i really think that pres. bush is incompetent and almost puts himself up to look like the pinacle of all uneducated people. i donno if that was some random editorial but those are my veiws. hope it helped
-kim
i dont mean to be ungrateful or anything...... i feel really bad actually. i showed my mom the new sidekick. just showed it to her. she got it for me the moment that she saw it.... but the cell phone isnt so easy... i don't know. i need a cell phone to talk with, and if you have unlimited internet with that phone, you get too little minutes. the plan is incredibly weird and it's way too little minutes for me. what should i do? i can't just tell her to get out of the contract! I just want a regular cingular phone that has little lights =) because the thing is that i'm not sure if on t-mobile you can talk mobile to mobile free, but on most companies you can. with cingular you can talk free from mobile to mobile and my mom and all my friends have cingular, and its rediculous that when i get out of school, and i call my mom that it has to be payed for or i'm using my minutes or however it works!!! anyone got any ideas?? thank you!
hey, im not that great with all these bull crap complicated phone deals but simply tell your mom that you need to adjust your plan to increase the amount of minutes you get each month my parents have had to do that sooooo many times. if you dnt want to sound ungratefull or selfish then offer to help pay for some of the extra minutes that lets face it EVERY teen needs! good luck!
here for ya,
kim
Hi, i am very active and eat right. I do lots of situps everynight, but my stomach just does not slim down. i do have abs, but my fat covers them. how dO i get rid of my faT?
hey, i obviuosly cant expalin every great ab thing on this(wayyy to long) but here are some very helpfull tips that you should follow:
-dont work on your abs every day, after a while the same thing repeatidly will become useless and unaffective. try doing only 3-4 times a week no more.
-dont only do situps, to get a flat stomach you need to work every part of your abs including your obliques which are pretty much your waist and hips. do knee to knee crunches and other forms of ab workouts
-alos to help lose the weight walk dont run around your block or w/e a few times on the days you dont do the other exercises.
goodluck, -kim
There is a boy I babysit for that I am very worried about. He has grown up in a bad home, but no one has been able to get enough evidence to get him sent to a better place. He tears rooms apart, turns over tables, and injurs me when I try to do anything he doesn't like. What can I do to help him? Any suggetions will be rated.
hey, sounds hard, ok so i think that you should first try talking to either your parents or his parents, its important they know that their child is having behavior problems. if like you said the problem is in the home itself and you cant go to the parents then try to first set the authorative tone, try to work on his behavior problems with rewards (yes i know its a child not a dog but if it was your child how would you teach it manners) if you watch movies watch ones with a moral and lesson try to use every opportunity to help this child because all children need a basis of morals and values to grow up and livea successfull life. good luck and comment bac if you need more explanation or advice
-kim
This is kinda a long one but I really need good advice.
There are these three girls I'm friends with at my school. We were all like a group of four and basically the "popular" group if my class has one. Well at least I was really good friends with them. Maybe I'm just paranoid but it always seems like two of them talk about me. I'm pretty sure the third one doesn't because she's always really nice to just about everyone. Well me and one of them got into a fight the other day and aren't talking. She's really close with the other one I think talks about me. I'm pretty she's mad just just because her best friend is. But the thing is, she acts all nice to my face and stuff.
I have other friends to hang out with but most of them aren't in most of my classes. Going to school is hell anymore though. I have my boyfriend and that's like it. I can't really explain this dilemma to him. He knows vaguely of it and that's like it.
I know what my "friends" can do. This one girl was really popular and everyone wanted to be friends with her and they turned her into a complete loser so everyone hates her and talks about her. I don't want this to happen to me.
The girl whose mad at me is not the apologizing type and I'm not apologizing to her.
So what do I do?
I rate 5's!
hey, spunds complicated, although i dont know how serious this situation is that caused the fight i do know that if you hang out with the type of people that purposely turn someone into a "loser" then maybe you should reconsider being friends with them...true friends are ones that you dont have to say sorry to, ill have a hug fight with my best freinds and then the next day we'll go see a movie. I dont know how close you truly are to these 3 girls but just try talkin dont give in but dont be rude and stubborn. be a moderate and try to see the other side. good luck!
-kim
After 3 years of dating my true love, she decided we needed some time apart to get our priorities straight. its going on 3 weeks, and not a day goes by without her calling me, we hang out from time to time, however, there is ovbiously no intimacy. I love her so much and I know she loves me cause she has told me. My question is, with valentines day comming up, iam not sure if i should get her the flowers and a present...I dont wanna look like im trying to push her into getting back with me, and at the same time i dont wanna look like i dont care about her if i dont give her anything...what should i do?
i think that you should get her something plutonic and not to serious...
-yellow roses(symbolize frienship)
-daises (simple pretty)
-a cute card and stuff animal (something i would get one of friends)
-a no pun intended kinda funny joke....
heres an ex. of one for saying sorry to someone:
i feel sheepish...plz forgive me (give a lamb)
-kimberly