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my boyfriend and i
sorry, but this is really long, but its easy to understand...
ok so ive liked this boy since like september, and we started going out last week, on tuesday. hes a really shy person, and hes only had a few gf's before. our relationship...isnt what i would call.."normal". well like at first when we werent going out, we barely talked. and then when we did start going out, we talked a lil more. and i was like getting pissed, because he was so shy, and he like couldnt sit with me at lunch, he was to shy to walk to class with me, and like to shy to even come over to talk with me. but now our relatoinship is getting a little better because all of my friends kept telling him that i was getting pissed, and he said he would try and talk to me more. and ive been talking to him online about talking to me more, and he said he would to. so now hes talking to me more, and like hes actually started waiting for me after we get out of a class, and walking with me, but we sorta walk in silence sometimes. he barely talks, he just says cool about everything i say, and laughs, and i know he really does like me because hes told me. and like i really want our relationship to work because i really like him. but i seriously cant take this anymore, all the silent walking, the no hugs, or barely any talking, he doesnt really come over to me unless i ask him to..and i like said at the end of this week, if he doesnt start changeing then im going to have to break up with him because i cnt go through with this. but then i thought like i really like him and i dotn want to have to sit tehre everyday looking at him thinking that i had the chance to stay with him but i like blew it off. so please i need some advice on what to do...
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hey, try asking him questions that arent like a sentence answer type q's and start to hug him and hold hands with him just be reaaalllllyyyy forward! go for it and give it your all. if it doesnt work then you know you tried and maybe for now it wasnt meant to be but who knows maybe he'll change and it will all work out. tell me how it goes.
ther for ya,
-kim
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A friend of mine had this problem when she dated a guy her freshman year. He was a sophomore. She broke up w/ him after 2 weeks b/c he never really did anything. It devastated him, but her junior and senior year, they dated and he became the love of her life. Even though things didn't work out, doesn't mean it won't for you. He may just like you so much that he doesn't know what to do with himself. Just be patient with him if you really do like him. If you decide to break up with him though b/c you really don't, do it. I hope this helps you! Good luck!
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ur friend seems nice so i would just give him some time! i know how he feels! maby he's not shy around his friends ore other boys whatever but your special to him so he just needs time! why dont you hug him? make the first steps than he feels better 2! just think about it :-)
c ya
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Just give him a couple of weeks. If he's not making the moves then you make them. You wait for him to come out of class, hold his hand and walk with him. You hug him. If he hasn't had a lot of gfs then he's probably unsure what to do. He probably thinks he will mess up so you've got to give it some time and help him be more comfortable around you. He's already trying..that should be enough, it's just a big step for him..
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okay its only been a week! give it some time!! sometimes he needs that 'push' .. you know..! well until he gets the picture.. make the first move; hug him and start convos with him. when your friends tell him that you get mad, it might give him the impression that you dont like him anymore. although it might seem as a 'threat' to him to do something before you break up with him, he still might get the wrong message. he sounds like a nice time but hes just shy. give it some time. it might have something to do with not talking alot before you started going out that it might take him a while to get 'warmed up'
exx oooh! callie
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