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i've been with this girl for a few months now even though we are usually in different towns. i don't konw if she accepts me as her boyfriend yet, even though when i asked her about it she does not give a yes or now but merely keeps communicating with me amorously. How do i find out form her if she takes me to be her boyfriend, if she akes me seriously if she has someone else,etc. Thank you.
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if she will not give you a straight answer then shes doesnt feel for you as you do for her if you hold off talking to her you will find out one way or the other she will either beg you to talk to her or not care at all
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Well if she doesn't give you a yes or no answer, then she doesn't look at you as her boyfriend and she's probably going out with someone else that lives near her. I would just ask her if she's seeing someone else, so that you can move on and find someone else that wants to be yourgirlfriend.
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She could just be using you. Some people need the kind of attention that a relationship can give them, but they either don't want to or are afraid of committing. You don't want to get too involved with her if she's just going to blow you off when something she thinks is better comes along. Who knows, since you live in different towns she could already have a boyfriend! You need to get a straight answer from her. Not necessarily a yes or no though. If she is afraid of committment, you don't want to scare her off. Tell her that you need to talk about the status of your relationship. Knowing if you are, in fact, her boyfriend is really important to you. Don't let her avoid the question. Make her talk about it because even if she doesn't give you a clear cut answer, you will be able to find out why she's not giving you one. I've had issues in the past where I was afraid, not of committment, but of saying that I was comitted. I felt like after I said it, there was no way out. Try to be understanding of her, but you do need to push her. I hope that everything works out with you two and good luck! :)
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The best way to find that out is to ask her. If she avoids the issue next time by continuing with amorous conversation...slow her down. Tell her she didn't answer your question. But, you must prepare yourself in case she gives you an answer you don't want to hear. You might even want to consider if you want to maintain a romantic or just friend's relationship with her. Remember, since y'all are usually in different towns, she may not think much can come of what is between the two of you. So, my thought is, since your relationship is so new you may consider patience. You may want to give her some more time to warm up to the idea of an exclusive relationship. Good luck to you and I hope whatever you truly desire becomes yours.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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hey, i think that you should try asking her what her intentions are...if she wants to become serious or wants to give it a break. try not to make it too serious like a ultimatum otherwise this might spark a fight. good luck and tell me how it goes!
ther for ya,
kimberly
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