Question Posted Thursday November 17 2005, 11:32 pm
i have been dating wit this guy for 3 months.
and these 3 months have been beautiful, but so hard. Not only did i lose all my house privliges like cell phone and going out, but i was about to get sent to a broading school in a latin country. my parents want me to be happy and i know im love. it sounds quick but, this guy really helped me get through all these other problems. but he got me bigger ones. i know he loves me and has never felt this way over a female because all his friends tell me. his cousin who i now adore tells me all the time how he raves about me with his parents and close relations. but my mom is so against his piercesing. he says he love me but he wont try to have an aproval from my parents. so my question is should i leave him and find some who will make sacrafices for me?
thank you for reading this.
please help me.
thank you
Senorita Lopez
orphans answered Friday November 18 2005, 4:36 pm: ok well just because your parents cannot grasp the concept that you are getting older does not mean u should break up with him if you two truly love each other. [ orphans's advice column | Ask orphans A Question ]
dhrutts answered Friday November 18 2005, 9:35 am: Hi There,
I do realize what a difficult situation this must be for you. All of us have to deal with the fact that unfortunately our parents are sometimes to hard on us, and too overprotective to a suffocating extent.
Sometimes, there is nothing in our hands to do except force a smile and nod in agreement to our parents and try to hold our tempers in check!
But the main thing is try not to give up on your boyfriend. If that's a bright spot in your life and he makes you happy, don't let go no matter what. You have fought too hard to give up now.
Try sharing with him your troubles with your parents. Talking with him, and having him being all supportive will help make you feel better.
Hopefully by time, your parents will grow more comfortable with the whole issue and they will relax and stop giving you a hard time. Remember that this is all new to them and they are probably not sure at all how to deal with the
situation. So give them time and hang in there. I'll pray for you that things get better soon for you.
Girl, believe me when I say that I understand! This is a tough situation, but like everything else, it can be workedthrough. I'm not going to sit here and tell you to talk toyour parents, because they sound just like mine, which means that they won't listen to you. I know this is tough,but if you truly are happy with your boyfriend, then it should all be worthwhile. Here is what you do... When things get hard, and your at that breaking point when you feel like no one understands and you just can't take it
anymore, stop and realize that even though your parents arestrict, they do love you. They are just beingoverprotective right now. Spend time with your boyfriend to remind you what you are fighting for.( Which is your relationship) And just think that in a couple of years youwill be older and your parents won't be able to tell you that you can't have a boyfriend. Don't worry about making the wrong choices. We all do that. Stay strong. When you mean piercings is it on his ear or all over his body?
Oh and by the way are you related to JLO as i'm a fan of hers?
wicked_sista answered Friday November 18 2005, 6:53 am: 3 months eh. . .uhm if you feel that its necessary to leave him then do leave him. . .just follow your heart. . .trust me. . .I've tried not following my heart them BAM ! ! ! Big problems come and go give me stress. . .anyway. . .go with what you're happy with. . .what if his friends are lying dont you think they might be making that up??? but you should believe what you want to believe im just saying some risks. . .if you guys really love each other you'll still love each other no matter what you'll get through problems, trials, challenges and hardships that might break some relationships but your instincts will tell you what to do in those times. . .talk to him. . .no rather confront him calmly ask him the questions you want to and if he freaks out about the approval of your parents thing. . .then i think hes not the one 4 you. . .:) hope you liked my advice [ wicked_sista's advice column | Ask wicked_sista A Question ]
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