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my parents ground me for the stupidest reasons. And im not a immature teenager who disagrees with everything because i KNOW when i mess up and I pay for it and I KNOW its fair. But I seriously cant take this. What can I say to them to make these groundings stop. I am a good kid with good grades and i never get into trouble, yet i get grounded more then anyone i know.
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OMG me too. What I did was e-mail my mom and said nicely what I thought about my unfair punishments. Also my mom realized that she was punishing me b/c of my bad memory and that it wasn't my fault so she shouldn't have been punishing me in the first place, and now I am getting tested for learning differences. But deep down inside, we all wish our parents could let us do the stuff they get overprotective about. They like to overabuse their power sometimes, but don't let it stop you. If when they punish you you say, "Isn't that a little harsh?", like nicely, they might stop and think. Good luck to you on it. :-)
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Ihink you're lying. Parents don't ground kids for no reasons. You have to be doing something wrong or else they wouldn't.
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Hi There,
You know it's been a long time since you last had scabs on your knees and fish fingers for tea, but sometimes it's hard for parents to accept you're no longer a kid. Tensions can easily crop up when you're keen to enjoy the independence you deserve, but they still insist you're home by sunset.
It's tempting to think you can simply tell your parents that you're all grown up. The fact is you have to show it through your behaviour, and let them draw their own conclusions. It really boils down to a sense of responsibility, which means proving that you've earned the right to make your own decisions in life because you're capable of thinking things through.
It's easy to feel suffocated when surrounded by family. You've shared so much in life, and learned to relate to one another with no sense of hesitation or shyness. The upside means you tend to be honest with each other. The downside is that tempers can flare if you're feeling hemmed in.
That you're able to blow your stack with family is a sign that you're on familiar terms. In many ways, it's a healthy sign that problems can be sorted. The key is to draw on your communication skills to negotiate in advance, rather than doing your nut when things don't go your way. Sit down and identify common flashpoints together. By talking things through sensibly, you can agree on a way forward that doesn't end in slamming doors.
In a place of your own, you could eat breakfast wearing nothing but socks, whistle away on the loo with the door wide open, and enjoy a specialist film without any fear of being interrupted. In the family home, that kind of freedom is often hard to find, which can leave you feeling on edge.
Everyone has a right to some personal space, after all, so lead by example and show respect to the privacy of those around you. Also choose a good time to discuss the issue, and agree on some rules you can all live by.
Whether you've been seeing each other for a while, or it's someone you've just met and you're hoping to see them naked, bringing anyone back for a night of sheet action is often problematic. It isn't just the fact that family members are trying to get some shuteye in the neighbouring rooms. You could find resistance from parents who still think of sleepovers as something that involves bags of popcorn and a chick flick.
Forward planning is the key here. Just creeping up the stairs with someone on your arm doesn't say much for your sense of consideration. No matter how embarrassing a conversation might be, it's vital that you talk things through long before you get to this stage, and establish some rules. Even if they don't respond well at the beginning, stress that you're sussed about safer sex and leave it at that. It may not get instant results, but this show of maturity can only increase the chances that they'll relax about the issue over time.
Chances are most daughters can name an episode when a parent left them feeling speechless with shame. Then again, they can probably reel off plenty of incidents when your idiotic behaviour left them wishing the ground would swallow them whole.
individual, so aim to do the same with them. Even if there are aspects about their lifestyle/dress sense/behaviour that you find sad, it's healthy to respect their individuality. Make a big fuss and people will think it's you who has the problem not your parents.
Hope this helped
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I wouldn't worry about it, parents tend to be overdramtic when it comes to some things... just take it and move on, if you show them that you're being annoying by it then they'll keep on doing it over, however once they realize that you don't care about what they do to you they'll probably stop and start respecting you
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