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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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I am failing in math I don't want to do grade fourth again!!!!!!!!!!!!

You just need to apply yourself. Talk to your teacher and see if she can give you extra help durring recess or after school. And practice with your parents every night. You'll get the hang of it if you put in a little extra work.

Aren't you a little young to be on this site if your only in fourth grade?????

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I need help in finding a career that's risky, adventurous, enjoyable and never boring.
Any suggestions

Well the possibilities are endless, but here are a few that came to mind:
Pilot
Ambulance Driver
Stunt Double
Crocodile Rangler
Lion Tamer
Sky Diving Instructor
Deep Sea Fisherman
Circus Preformer
Rodeo Clown
Bee Keeper
Papparazzi
Porn Star
Human Guinea Pig
Hitman
Secret Agent
Jewl Theif

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I was in a relationship, and we were having difficulties, I called the police and charged him with assault. Now that i have to go to court he didnt commit assault, all i wanted to do was get my childern back. Can you give me some advice on what i should do

Lying to the police is only going to make it harder to get your children back. If you loose your credibility, the Judge won't beleive anything you say. Talk to your lawyer first about what your best solution is.

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I was at a friends house and I was playing on her brothers skateboard. Stupidly I was wearing sandals and I fell. I hurt my toe and it looks fine but it hurts when I walk and it looks a bit swollen. I'm not sure if I broke it, fractured it, or just stubbed it really bad but I would appreciate any suggestions that would make the healing process faster!

Even if you broke your toe there is really not anything a doctor can do about it. So just put ice on it if it is starting to swell. A bag of frozen peas works great! And try to wear open toe shoes so you don't put any pressure on it. It should be fine in a couple of weeks!

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I'm working temporarily at a pizza restaurant until I can find something better. I used to work at a grocery store, but quit after we went on strike, because I was unhappy there and didn't like the way the strike was settled. Anyway, the people seem friendly enough on the surface, but I'm a cashier there, and I don't do as much work as them. Not because I don't want to, but the manager wants me to stay primarily up front, and he won't let me make the pizzas yet even though I know I could do it. I've worked for the same chain about ten years ago. I'm the only white person there besides one of the drivers. Most of my co-workers are hispanic and don't speak that much english, so that may be why they don't talk to me much. I don't know if it's just my own insecurity, but it seems like if I ask for help with something, or I make a minor mistake, they are resentful that they have to help me. I think I'm doing a pretty good job, but nobody's perfect. I keep imagining they are thinking "I can't believe she did that, " and talking about me behind my back. I sometimes feel like I'm back in high school when I'm there. There is one woman who is friendly with me. She speaks good english, and does cashier work too, but she also makes pizzas. I sometimes think she is resenting me too. I try my best to be friendly to everyone, I've been there about a month, but I still feel tension between me and them. My mom says not to worry about them. I'm not going to stay there long anyway. But it bothers me because I know I'm a nice person, and I don't like being pre-judged by anyone. I know this is part of life, but it just makes me uncomfortable. I sometimes see some of them giving me funny looks like they think I'm weird or dumb, or something. I used to get picked on a lot in school, so I think that is why I'm so sensitive. Can anyone give me advice on how I can not let what they may or may not be thinking bother me? Does anyone think I'm imagining this? I feel like I'm the "new person" in their eyes, and to them I'm an "intruder" in their little "clique". I know that sounds dumb, but that is how it feels. Can anyone relate?

I remember you. You were worried about starting this job. It seems to me you have a very low self esteam. You are worried everyone is pre-judging you, but I think you are pre-judging them. You automaticaly assume people are judging you and are paroniod anytime someone looks at you. Don't worry about what they are thinking. If your a nice person, that is what they will see. If you keep worring that you are not good enough, that is what you will come to beleive. Be confident in yourself, stop worring so much. Relax and enjoy life!

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My husband has panic disorder and has suffered from panic attacks his entire life. He is on medicine for them now, but he is having a hard time holding a job. I love him dearly but am afraid if I stay I will never have anything, and I'm afraid of the judgement that will be passed on me by my family. I love him and don;t want to abandon him, am I crazy for staying?

You are not crazy! He is your husband and you love him, so why would you leave? Just because he has a disability? You knew that comming into the marraige.

I understand things might be hard, but are you willing to give up the man you love so you can possibly have more things? And how would he cope with life without your love and support?

Don't worry about what others think of you. Think of yourself and your husband. Then you decide what is best.

Good wishes to both you and your husband.

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I am completely head over heals for this guy that I am going out with. I love him with all of my heart and all of my soul. He feels the same way towards me. I was just wondering, we have been going out for 4 months now, we keep getting close to having sex, but I always say that i'm not ready. He listens to me, and he doesn't mind waiting. The problem is, I don't know how to tell if i'm ready or not. How can I tell? Oh and by the way, I am a 14 year old.

It's wonderful that you have found such a great guy. But don't do anything you are not completely comfortable with. Sex shouldn't have any regrets connected to it. If he really loves you he'll wait as long as it takes. I personaly think 14 is way too young to be thinking about sex. Relationships even in highschool rarely last. And what would you do if you happened to become preganat? You are too young to handle that kind of responsibility. You should wait until you are older and have had more experiance with guys and are more mature yourself. Emotions are so high and elevated when your young, it is hard to tell the differance between love and lust. I don't think you are ready for sex if you are asking the question. When you are ready, you will just know. It should feel completely natural.

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my boyfriend that i live with read my email from a man that i was planning on sleeping with in the near future and i no he knows should i bring it up he is giving me the cold shoulder my live in that is what should i do should i bring it up should i just ignore it the only reason i was planning on sleeping with the guy any how is that my live in and i have a non existent sex life and i was desperate well i hope someone out there can help me get back in the good graces of my live in

Frankly I am quite shocked that your boyfriend is even still around after what he saw. He must really like you. If you want to keep him around the first thing you need to do is not cheat!! You also must communicate. Did you talk about the lack of sex in your relationship? Does he now your are not feeling satisfiyed with the relationship? You defenitly need to talk to him about the email and clear things up, otherwise it will always be hanging over your heads.

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I had the scariest day of my life the other day. I am an advicenator as well and the other day, i was walking to the park, and a guy sexually assulted me. The worst thing he did was finger me but it was still scary. I don't know what to do. I can't tell anyone because i already have enought problems as it is. I am only fourteen and haven't even had my first kiss yet. People are always spreading rumers that i am not a virgin and i was okay with it until now. Please Help me
Violated

You need to help yourself! You have been attacked, tell someone! First your parents, and then the police. Now matter how bad your other problems are, there is no excuse not to say anything! Don't let this preditor continue to be on the streets while you remain silent. You need to tell someone so he dosn't do it again! The worst thing he did was finger you?!! Are you kidding that is horrible!! You need to talk to someone about this for your own peace of mind, otherwise it will haunt for the rest of your life. Get some help now!!!!

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ok. i was going out with this guy for 2 weeks, and i didnt no it but he broke up with me. he told my friend he wanted to break up. he said the reason was because he was happier bein single. then a few months later he told my friend that he broke up with me because his stepbrother thought i was ugly. so my x-boyfrind believed him. now i always catch him staring at me. and never wantin 2 b by me. Also wenever he see's me he try's to get all over gurls. I dont like him anymore. but i kinda do. why does he do that?

This guy is an immature jerk! He couldn't even break up with you in person, what a chicken. He just wants attention, that's why he hangs all over there girls. What you should do is not pay attention to him, show him he is not worth your time. You can do better than him!

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I am very enamored with a guy. I am not sure what he thinks of me. He is going to prom with my best friend. He likes her very much but it is unclear whether she likes him or not. At one point, she was physically attracted.

I want to approach him but am not sure that is the best idea. What should I do? If I should, how do I do it?

Before approching this guy, talk to your best friend about it and see where she stands. You don't want to steal her guy out from under her. That wouldn't be very friendly. If she dosn't really care about him tell her you would like to ask him out. She what she says. But if she is still interested in the guy, I would back off.

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a cat peed on my daughters play pen while in storage, how can I get the smell to go away?

Cat urnine can be very toxic to young children, I wouldn't let her play in it anymore even if you were able to get the smell out.

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Ok ok. Guy trouble.

I've liked this guy for 4 years (5 in August) and I told him through a friend that I liked him. He said he just liked me as a friend back.

Well in class he'd try to ask me for something like a calculator to try to strike up conversation. I never had a calculator, and I think he knew that.

Over the phone my friend called him (I was on the line too, but I didn't talk) and asked him if he liked me.

Friend:"So do you like Hannah?"
Him: "...n...not really..."
Friend: "Why not?"
Him: "Uh...because I have a girlfriend."
Her: "So?"
Him: "I...I have a girlfriend."
Her: "You could still like her and have a girlfriend ya know. Anyways I guess I'll talk to ya later. Bye."
Him: "Bye." (very hurried and he hung up really fast)

Well now when I was in Science today he was flirting with me alot. In History, I'd look over at my friend and in the background he would be looking at me. He actually started a convo with me! ("Hey, Hannah, what hour do you have (teacher)?") Well I don't know but I felt all excited and stuff. =D

But I wonder what he would do if I called him and asked him how he felt. Do you think he would feel bad about it since he has a girlfriend, or should I go ahead anyways? Or should I just wait and see what'll happen?

There is nothing wrong with being friends with a guy that has a girlfriend. So call him up and talk to him. Get to know him. But don't try be his girlfriend, he already has one. Be his friend. If later he breaks up, you will have a better chance of getting together because you'll already be friends.

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I am in love with this guy and I think he is in love with me too.We are both 13. When we are by ourselfs he is all over me but when we are around other people he acts like he is just my friend. What do I do? I am a girl.

There are so many young girls on this site that are "in love". And I am sure most of you have no idea what love is, you are just in love with the idea of being in love.

You are both still young, and are still learning how relationships work. Maybe he is just embarassed to show affection for you in public. A lot of people are turned off by public displays of affection. Or maybe he is just not sure how to act.

This guy is your boyfriend, you should be able to talk with him if something is bothering you. So talk to him, you need to communicate to make a relationship work.

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HI,I AM A FEMALE AND I HAVE AN OLDER BROTHER
I HAVE KNOWN MY BROTHER 4 MY WHOLE LIFE AND AT THIS RATE I JUST AM KINDA SCARED EVER SINCE I WAS LITTLE HE WAS ALWAYS SO NICE AND NOW WE FIGHT MORE THAN EVER I TRY IGNORING HIM AND GETTING IN TO FIGHTS, BUT I JUST CAN'T IT'S 2 HARD NOW I AM OLDER AND HE IS ALMOST GOING AWAY 2 COLLEGE NOW I AM STARING 2 GET SAD I DON'T WANT HIM 2 GO AWAY AND I AM JUST TRYING 2 BE NICE BUT HE WON'T GO WITH IT IT'S JUST LIKE I DON'T WANT HIM 2 GO AWAY WITHOUT GETTING 2 KNOW HIM GREAT AND BE FRIENDS BUT WE ONLY ARE FRIENDS RARELY! AND THAT'S NOT GOOD :( :{

PLZ SOME1 WRITE BACK SO I CAN FIND A WAY 2 GET TO KNOW HIM BETTER THANX

My guess is it is just a phase, it's his age. He is going away to college, becoming more independent, and wants to be an adult. He doesn't want to associate with his little sister. Give him some time, college boys can be jerks, they think they are so cool. He'll eventually grow up and become more mature.

My little sister and I hated eachother at that age too. I couldn't stand her. But we are both older now, and have our own lives, our own homes, and now she is one of my best friends.

I hope the same will be true for you.

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pick a number 1-100 make it a good one or i lose

29. It's my lucky number!

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Well their is this boy that i really like and he also likes another girl. i think he likes her more though because at lunchtime he always sits next to her and he says that he likes her more. Meanwhile, their was this school dance and he asked ME to go with him and i said yes. We have been together for 3 months and this girl came along now! wow! Also, This other boy really wants to go out with me and he said he will do anything. But i think i still really like the other boy.What should i do? He also really likes me . we are having a trip and he wants to sit next to me on the bus meanwhile the boy i went to the dance with asked this new girl to sit nex to him.and if i say i like this new boy the boy i went to the dance with gets mad.what should i do?

Why do you care if the boy you went to the dance with gets mad if you sit with this other guy that likes you. He's not planning on sitting by you on the bus, he's off with some other girl. He's thinking of himself, and not of you. You should do the same. Forget him! Sit with the guy that REALLY likes you!

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Should I tell him I snooped? And should I be suspicious? I have no reason to think he'd cheating, but still, I wonder... This #'s were in his contacts list.

Do you have a reason to be snooping? Has your husband given a reason not to be trusted? If not, brush it off and don't let it bother you. But if you have suspisions, ask him about it. How can you expect him to be truthful to you, if you are not true to him?

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hi can any1 give me some advice, my son is 10 and has no contact with his dad due to my desision as i was scared of what my parents would think of him so i didnt tell them who the father was. 10 years on i cant help wondering what would have happened if he knew he was a father, i pict ure my son and him getting along great watching footie and other sports, then again he might not even want to know his son, what do you suggest

I think a man has the right to know if he has a child. But after 10 years how do you think he is going to react to the news? Angry I'd say. He could even bring you to court for keeping his child from him. He has just as much right to the boy as you do. So I would be careful if you are thinking of getting in contact with him. Maybe even talk to a lawyer.

I do think your son has a right to know who his fater is. I think you sould at least tell him who his father is and what he is like. If you hide this secrect from him, he will later resent you for it, and eventually go and find the answers on his own. And his father will be just a bit shocked to find a man telling him that he is his father. Be truthful to your son. He is going to find out one day wether you want him to or not.

I wish you luck, this is quite a mess your in.

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omg thank you! i just realized that no was the answer to most of those questions. thnx sooooo much!!!!!!1


PS im noit bein sarcastic!

Glad I could help! I do hope you find someone that you truely care for and is just in love with you.

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