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hi can any1 give me some advice, my son is 10 and has no contact with his dad due to my desision as i was scared of what my parents would think of him so i didnt tell them who the father was. 10 years on i cant help wondering what would have happened if he knew he was a father, i pict ure my son and him getting along great watching footie and other sports, then again he might not even want to know his son, what do you suggest
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This isn't going to be a very long answer...but I suggest if the father of your son is safe...(because I don't know the whole background story)...then yes, I think your son would be so happy to meet his father; especially him being 10 years old and really needing a father in his life...or at least being able to meet his other parent.
I bet he feels he's missing something.
So yes, as long as the father is responsible, then I would arrange for you're son to meet him. Maybe the father of your son WON'T want to know his son...but you will never know if you try to reunite; and I would HATE to find out that you held back on this all this time all because you THOUGHT something negative would happen.
Go for it! ;)
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if i was you, i would call your sons father and tell him he is the father. then ask him if he would like to meet his son, because you think it would be good for your son. after all, it would be hard being a boy and growing up without a father.
good luck
kimberly
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i suggest that you give it a try. I mean didnt you know your father? On the other hand if he dont want to know your son then talk to your son and explain what really happened. your son really has to know about all of this.
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try to find your son's father because he will need a male role model to look up to
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i think that u should give it a try. nothing is whorth liveing unless u try. this is a big deal to a boy n a father. let him no. u cant hide life from him 4 ever.
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I think you have to tell him. If you wait long it'll get harder and worse. Whats the worst that could happen. Soon enough he's gunna wanna know hoo his father is eventually so I think you should tell him. Do what you think is best.
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I think the longer you wait the worse it will be. Do you have contact with the father right now, and know what he is like? Is the father married yet with his own family? All of these things are going to make a difference.
I think you should probably contact the father (first without your son,) but be prepared for any situation that may come from this. Think about it and imagine all the possible outcomes, and plan what you would do.
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I think a man has the right to know if he has a child. But after 10 years how do you think he is going to react to the news? Angry I'd say. He could even bring you to court for keeping his child from him. He has just as much right to the boy as you do. So I would be careful if you are thinking of getting in contact with him. Maybe even talk to a lawyer.
I do think your son has a right to know who his fater is. I think you sould at least tell him who his father is and what he is like. If you hide this secrect from him, he will later resent you for it, and eventually go and find the answers on his own. And his father will be just a bit shocked to find a man telling him that he is his father. Be truthful to your son. He is going to find out one day wether you want him to or not.
I wish you luck, this is quite a mess your in.
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