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Should I stick it out?
My husband has panic disorder and has suffered from panic attacks his entire life. He is on medicine for them now, but he is having a hard time holding a job. I love him dearly but am afraid if I stay I will never have anything, and I'm afraid of the judgement that will be passed on me by my family. I love him and don;t want to abandon him, am I crazy for staying?
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of course not...if you love him you stay with him. You love eachother and he needs your help...absoltely do not abandoned him that would be wrong but if that what you feel you need to do then do it...but that would not be fair to him...
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if u abandon ship while he is getting medication regulated,and then all of a sudden it starts to wrk... well u will have missed out how will you ever know if u abandon ship before the doctors get the meds right sometimes it takes a combination of meds for it to be right,dont cut ur own throat by bailing too soon give it some time go with him to his appts.. see what the doctors have to say you might b surprised what the right combonations of meds can do for a peorson , hang in there dont give up on your husband..
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Hmmm, he's had these his entire life....had them when you married him.....still has them....and now you want to leave. Could it be that your desire forthe materialistic may be the problem more than his anxiety attacks? "For better or worse....through sickness and in health". Just a thought.
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If he is ill, you can take care of him for a while, but then soon tell him that your relationship wont work. (If he might have an attack over this, make sure a doctor or family is close by) You can still be friendly (if he wants) but you should still look for another spouse when you are ready.
Hope I Helped,
Winona
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You would never be crazy for staying! Think of it this way, that disorder could save his life or someone elses life someday. God made him like that for a reson, maybe that reson just hasnt showed up at your door yet.
_-Bailey Lee-_
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Of course you're not crazy for doing what u felt was right from your heart. He probably needs you to take care of him. He probably needs you, no he DOES need u for your love that you've supported him with. U should do what u think is right. U know, everything happens for a reason. If your family really loves u and supports u then they won't judge u for what you're doing that's coming from your heart. Well, I hope this helped.
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No your not crazy, you in love and correct me if i'm wrong but didnt you say threw thick and thin on your wedding day??? you just have to help him threw it and love and charish him
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how old are you? becuase you seem very immature for even caring what kind of judgement your family or anyone else for that matter will think of your husband. You knew this was worng with your husband before you married him right? and obviously then u didnt seem to care about what your parents said about his disorder?? My advice...... you seem to care more about material items than your on husband.....he's better off without you.
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my boyfriend suffers from the same thing, at the moment he's not working, we are gradully getting through it together till he is ready to work. your husband should let his workplace know so that they can give him time off when he needs it, and so that they can be there for him if he has one of his attacks. dont leave him, you married him for a reason, you obviously love him dearly, thing will go well, be positive, people have got through life in worse situations and were able to enjoy it, you will to, look forward to the future.
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You are not crazy! He is your husband and you love him, so why would you leave? Just because he has a disability? You knew that comming into the marraige.
I understand things might be hard, but are you willing to give up the man you love so you can possibly have more things? And how would he cope with life without your love and support?
Don't worry about what others think of you. Think of yourself and your husband. Then you decide what is best.
Good wishes to both you and your husband.
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No, I don't think you are crazy for staying. I also wouldn't be too concerned about what your family think of it all; if they want to be nattering old gosspips, let them!
I would ask why *you* can't get a job, do you have to look after your husband or children then? I would look for maybe secritarial work, part time, or somthing.
Good luck whatever you chose :)
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No, you are not crazy for staying! I mean, you're *married* to him -- remember the whole "for better or for worse" thing? Remind your family about that, if they give you any trouble.
If he weren't making a real effort to get better, my answer might be different, because then he wouldn't be taking his responsibilities to himself and to you seriously. But if he's willingly undergoing treatment, and is trying to find and hold jobs, then I think you're right to stay with him, and to give him all the support and love you can, for as long as you feel you can hang in there. Good luck to you both.
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