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reformation
All right, here's the picture. I'm a boy in 8th grade. Last year, I was a bit of a pervert and got a huge rep as one. That all changed over summer break. However, no one realizes that, and so my rep still stands. That is the only reason I cant get a girlfriend. And for some reason, I feel a need for the companionship, and not on the level of just friends. What should I do?
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Too bad, so sad...act the way you said you changed...er...I don't believe that a person can change that fast in a week. Maybe they can, but I just can't believe it.
Wait a few weeks. Or months. Or years. There is this "pervert" where I live and says he treats the ladies with respect and all, but once he is near one he doesn't do so at all. If he changes and he believed he changed, those women aren't going to trust him anyway because he could be pulling a trick.
bleh. Something like that. What I am trying to say is, us ladies can't trust you until we've seen your new actions.
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You've gotta forgive us girls for being a little wary of you if you've been like that in that past. The only way to earn that trust back is through a lot of work, and a lot of time. Be the real you, proove you've changed. Don't immediatly hit on girls, show you can be a great friend and a real person. Over time, girls will learn to trust you again, and see the real person. I hope things work out for you.
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Act like the real you...
And let people get to know you..
And if someone says ur a pervert.. u know ur not so why bother listening to them?
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Given that you don't have the greatest rep right now, I think your best bet is to concentrate on getting girls to like you as a friend first. If they don't know the "real" you, they probably are going to feel a little hesitant about going out with you. But if you start by getting to know each other in a non-romantic way, with no pressure, pretty soon they'll trust you enough to believe that you're not actually a pervert, but a sweet, respectful guy. And then, they'll tell their friends how awesome you are. :) Seriously, if you get friends who are girls on your side, that'll be the best possible thing for your rep -- and, in the process, you might find a girlfriend who's a true companion.
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I don't think there's very much you can do to change your rep, except it will just be gradual. Like going from 'nerd' status to 'popular' status. Just prove yourself, and give it time.
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