I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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Hey. This is probably the wrong catagory... sorry. Ok when i was younger i was in an abusive relationship (VERY VERY YOUNG) ((like kid young)) so anyways i grew up kinda withdrawn and alone... i have a very close circle of friends now and a great boyfriend. We've been together for 10 months and i love him so much. Thing is, im a psycho. Honestly. I hear voices in my head and their shouting, always shouting... i can hardly understand them and i have to yell out to make them stop. Im one of the people you see walking down the street alone talking to themselves. I scream out loud randomly for what seems like no apparent reason. I used to be scared of commitment. I used to go out with people, get through all the hard stages, get through the awkwardness, the sex... and breakup with them. Just as they were starting to like me... I couldnt help it. The guy im with now, i actually love. Ive been holding up this barrier of defense so i couldnt get hurt for so long and now its down and i am SO SCARED!! im all vunerable now. He can hurt me. He says he loves me all the time, but i get paranoid and sometimes i get so jealous and i think i annoy him but he puts up with it cuz he loves me. He says he wants to stay with me forever and get married and have kids. But i think im gunna drive him crazy. How can he love me? Im a wreck! Please help. Soon. X (im 15 and female, my boyfriend is 17 and MALE. Lol) (link)
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Oh dear! You poor thing!!
Okay, it sounds to me as though one of two things may be happening here. One of them is more scientific and one is a little more 'new age'.
1) You could be suffering from a form of mental health disorder. I know it sounds like such an awful thing to suggest but from what you describe, it sounds possible. Now, if this is a possibility, you should know that there are a LOT of other people (even celebrities) that suffer from similar problems and the voices that you hear are totally normal. I believe that all such illnesses can be controlled with medication but as I am not a doctor, this is just a general guess based on your description. The other possibility is;
2) A long shot....but I have heard of people with similar symptoms who have later found out they possess a psychic ability. As they have got older, the voices have grown clearer and given them messages for people. Granted, this possibility is less likely but I wanted to make you aware it may not be a mental health issue.
To be honest, either way, I think it is very important you see a GP about this, mainly because the first option is very possible. Please try not to worry or feel embarrassed or ashamed. There is also no need for you to worry that you will sectioned in some mental institute, as sufferers usually only receive such treatment when considered a danger to themselves or others. There's nothing to worry about.
As far as the boyfriend is concerned, know that he loves you and is only going to be concerned for your wellbeing. A little bit of insecurity is perfectly normal in relationships, especially if there have been bad ones in the past. You just need to remind yourself that he loves you and wouldn't stay with you if he wasn't sure that you were an amazing person, despite whatever problems you may have. We all have something wrong with us but there's no reason it should EVER stop us from having successful relationships when we want them. So take comfort in the fact he is still there and rather than worry about when he will go away, make the most of the fact that he hasn't gone and by the sounds of it, he isn't very likely to either!
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I'm having alot of trouble with the whole 'love thing'. I've been dating this kid Billy for a really long time, well about a month, but we dated once before for a long time, but we had a little bit of a break in between. At the same time, I've been talking to Bryan. Bryan is one of my best friends, and I fell in love with him about a year ago. He's twenty one. I haven't been able to move on my feelings though, because he dated my other best friend who is in love with him, but that's how I met him. I don't know what to do. I love them both to death, but how do I know what to do or who to pick. Billy lives in North Carolina, and Bryan lives in South Carolina. I live in New Jersey, so the whole distance thing sucks. At the sane time I want to be single because I don't want to be tied down, but I love being in relationships too. I'm so confused! What do I do? (link)
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Firstly, if your friend is in love with this 'Bryan', you need to make sure you stay well away. I understand you have feelings for him and I would never suggest for a second that you ignore those feelings but you need to remember that NO guy is worth losing a friend over.
As for Billy, if you're this undecided about him, it's probably you also don't date him. For one thing, dating over long distances is difficult enough and if you're unsure of your feelings then there's no point in trying to hold the relationship over a long distance and it would be more fair to both of you to go your separate ways.
It sounds as though right now you really don't know what you want. Unfortunately, I can't help you there but I can suggest that the best thing for you might be to stay single for a while and sort yourself out.
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I really like this guy Adam. We've started becoming good friends latley. He's so sweet; we talk alot in class and I cheer for his basketball team. However idk if he's just being nice when we talk or if he likes me back. He doesn't know that I like him and idk how to tell him. [ Hes more on the popular side; but hes totally sweet. His good friend [ Ariel ] said I would have a chance with him, but I really dunnoe how to tell him I like him!]
So how do I tell him I like him?
And How do I tell if he likes me back? (link)
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If you want to tell him you like him, the best thing to do is keep it short and sweet. Telling someone this is very unnerving and you definitely do NOT want to risk a case of verbal diarrhoea!! Tell him you like him and ask if he would maybe like to do something sometime.
Unfortunately, when it comes to boys, it's very difficult to know what they are feeling, as everything tells them they shouldn't be letting their feelings show. The only way you're going to know for sure, is to ask him out and see what he says. Try not to get too nervous. Guys usually like girls that make the first move. It takes the pressure off them!
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Ok so there's this guy... well I went out with him twice and broke up with him both times.. the first because it felt really weird going out with him and I was young so I don't think I was ready for a BF. The second time he took it too fast but I never stopped liking him. I still like him- a lot- now and I had one of my friends ask him out for me but he said the third time is NOT the charm. We act really friendly and we hug a lot but its still hard knowing that we aren't going out. I think he said no because he didn't want me to hurt him again... Please help! (link)
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I hate to say it, but it's just no use getting your friends to do jobs like this for you. You know what they say. If you want something done right, do it yourself.
The fact of the matter is, if you really do like this guy and you really want him back, your friend will never be able to convey the emotions you feel as well as you would if you told him that. If you really care about him, you should be able to tell him how you feel.
However, are you sure you really are ready for a relationship yet? It's no good chasing this poor guy and getting his hopes up if you're going to dump him again in a few weeks. You need to work out what YOU want, before you get him involved. Is it really him you want or is it just having a boyfriend that you miss? And if you went out again, would you be able to tell him if he was going too fast for you without breaking it off?
If you decide that you do want him, you need to lay the groundwork. You need to apologise to him for hurting him in the past first. You also need to tell him that in spite of what's happened, you still have feelings for him, you miss him and you really hope he feels the same way. If he does, ask him if he would like to try again. If he doesn't feel the same way, there's very little you can do, I'm afraid and you'll have to move on. But should this happen, move on with the knowledge that comes with this experience and work out what you need to do differently next time.
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hey, i'm 14/f and i have a bffe, just like any other girl. But the problem with my best friend is everything i do, she must follow along. Its as if she doesn't have her own life to take after.She basically copys everything i do and if i come up with a new saying she starts saying it like 1 day latter ALL the time. And i even said a few things the other day just to see if she did it, and she did! i said i hate chocolate candys lately, so she took hers and threw them out! i couldn't believe how right i was that she copys but then again i can't help then feel bad. I mean, how do i get her to stop copying me, or even better how in the world do i tell her that she's doing it without making her upset? i told her once in 7th grade, and she didnt talk to anyone for weeks, but she has continued sense then though. its not like it helped. i thought about copying her to show her that she copys me 24/7 but would that really help? Reply pleaseeee i need to know :) (link)
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Well, if this was a TV show, I would be recommending you act really stupidly or badly for now, wait for her to comment and then point out you did it to show her how much trouble copying people can land her in.
However, this is real life and a real problem. While copying is said to be the sincerest form of flattery, it is often the most annoying as it deprives us of our individuality.
You need to look at it from her perspective. I would suggest that she has very low self esteem. If you don't like the person you are, become someone else. Normally the person someone with this sort of problem picks to copy, is a close friend they believe is everything they are not but long to be. In a way it's very flattering but it needs to stop. For one thing because she needs to stop trying to be you in order to work out who she is.
After thinking about this, the best suggestion I am able to come up with is that you sit her down and have another talk with her. But a very serious one. You need to tell her that you feel she's copying you and are concerned this means that she may be unhappy with who she is. Tell her that you want to be friends with HER, not someone she thinks she should be. Tell her that you're saying this because she's your friend and you care about her and you don't want her to miss out on the friends she could have if she let them see what a great person she is, without copying you.
If that doesn't work, take to wearing a false beard to school every day and let her copy that one!
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So there is this guy and I like him a little && i think he likes me to .. we haven't kissed or even hugged or held hands or any thing yet but we still like eachother.
He's takin me out to dinner and out to movies and buying me things and stuff.. so im pretty sure he likes me..
Im not sure if i should go for it or not, because I dont know what i want if he is my type or if i want someone else...
Deep down inside i think i always run away from the guys that will treat me good.. but I just dont know if its right you know?
What do you think i should do? (link)
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I believe that nothing ventured nothing gained! It's a horrible cliche, I know but very applicable.
The whole point of a first date is to get to know someone and if you feel that you're not compatible or you don't feel a spark, you can end the date with a "I had a nice time. I'll see you around."
A lot of girls run away from men who will treat them as they should be treated. I don't really understand this but I feel it's due to a fear of being hurt. If we find a guy who will make us feel angry and upset all the time, it won't hurt so much if we get dumped.
At some point, this cycle has to be beaten or we'll never be able to find a man with the potential to make us happy. Maybe we get hurt along the way but we need to have our hearts broken in order to feel the joy of a true love properly.
If you like each other then you should go for it and see what happens. Worst comes to worst, you decide you're not right for each other and you call it a day. If it works out, who knows where it could lead? Go and have a great time.
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ok i really like this boy but i want to get over him cause he did think i was hot and all but he never told me he liked me but tells my friend he likes her since he told me that i was hot i started to like him but now that he keeps going after my friend i dont want to like him no more how do i get over him.. (link)
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Unfortunately, this is one of those things that happens to all of us from time to time. It's just a shame he had to go for your friend.
Time is always going to be the best healer for these sorts of things and I always swear by a large quantity of Ben and Jerrys and a good chick flick.
You will meet someone new and when you do, you'll forget all about him. I know that's not a great help to you at the moment but I hope it's a comfort to know that there will ALWAYS be someone new headed your way when a could-have-been relationship ends. You'll be okay. Just keep your chin up and remember that if he can treat you like that now, he would never have made a good boyfriend.
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last night my friend asked me to go with her to this spaghetti dinner thing for this hockey association and all the hot hockey guys were there! well she use to go to that school..so all the hot guys knew who she was and would talk and flirt with her and stuff..and i mean yeah they didnt know me but i was SOOO jealous of her..i mean every hot guy like looked at her about 100 times..not even kidding and im just there like a nobody..i felt so left out and like i said what were they suppose to do tho? because they didnt really know me..well this brought my self-esteem down. and i dont know! im so bad at talking to guys..i never know what to talk about and i usually wont go up and talk to them first..and i have a myspace and im starting to like request cute boys i kinda know..but i dont wanna comment them! i mean i commented this one cute kids pic but i DOUBT he will comment any of mine..i dont think he is like that. if you dont like myspace and are gonna hate on it then dont even bother answering this. but i just need help! blahh and now im going out of town this weekend..and i have to go and of course i get invited to this hotel party..where these cute guys will be! or where i could of meet them. im soo mad. and i CANT repeat CANT get out of it. blah and so yeah this girl like hardly ever talks to me but i kind know her but she invited me to her party and now i cant go! i need a guy =( i feel so lonely..and im so jealous of like every girl..i feel so ugly..blahhHhh!! help me?!
sorry so long..
but i just need help..
i WILL rate! (link)
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Sounds like you really are suffering from a bad case of low self-esteem!
We all go through times like this and it really does make everything seem so awful but I PROMISE you, it does get better!
Your friend probably attracts a lot of attention because she is confident with herself and when you are comfortable and confident in yourself, it tends to attract people to you
Unfortunately, confidence isn't something you can learn overnight and although I could sit here and tell you what a great person you probably are and how much you probably have going for you, it wouldn't mean much because you won't believe it. So here's the thing. You need to learn to accept yourself for who and what you are and you need to understand that there will ALWAYS be people out there who will make you feel worse, whether they mean to or not.
Basically, it's an 'if you cant't beat them, join them' kind of thing. However tough it might be, you need to pretend to be confident. Walk into that party with your head held high and KNOWING that you can get any guy (or girl) there to talk to you because you are an interesting person with interesting things to say. Confidence breeds confidence so the more you pretend you are, the stronger you will feel. I'm not going to lie and say it will be easy but if you walk in there feeling like a wallflower, that's exactly what you will be. It's what they call a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So BELIEVE you are confident and try to enjoy yourself. There is no reason you cannot have the same charm and confidence as your friend. Oh, and as a side note, you don't need a guy. You will find one but you don't need him to be happy. I promise you that.
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okay, my hair is very very curly and frizzy and thick its nasty!! i sometimes put hair gel in it and it looks fine and then other times i stirghten it but it still gets frizzy easily. I use hair serum and this one spray to control the frizz but hey im always lookin' for something better can you guys suggest anything? (link)
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Your hair sounds exactly like my own and I can relate. It's a nightmare to put up with and I have to admit that I went through 16 years of unhappiness with it before finding something that worked.
You haven't indicated which straighteners you use but GHD are the best I found for straightening this particular hair type and decreasing the frizz. They are expensive but they heat up to maximum temperature in seconds and they work like a dream. If you then use some serum afterwards to gloss it down, this should work. The only problem you need to be aware of is the amount of damage straightening hair can cause so you may want to also get some spray or a cream to protect your hair from the heat damage.
The only other thing I can suggest is that rather than battle against your hair, try working with it and taking advantage of it. (I know what you're thinking, I hated that idea at first too).
Due to the amount of damage straightening twice a week for two and a half year caused my hair, I have had to stop straightening it and now have only used them once since October. Try finding some extra strength hold mousse for curly hair. Partially dry your hair so it is not wet but not dripping. Comb it through with a comb (NOT a brush) and then add the mousee liberally. Comb through once more to take all the knots out and then blow dry on a slow blowing setting and a high heat. Always point the nozzle of the hairdryer downwards, never up as this adds volume. Finish with a cold blast all over.
That should hold it in place and give you a natural, curly but controlled look.
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ok. i know this is like the third ocd post, but i have been mening to post this. what is ocd exactly? because i think i might have it.
-sometimes i make myself breathe a certain way, to like make a pettern
-i have to tap sonthing or touch it to make a noise pattern.
its mostly things like with patterns and stuff. and i cant stop it. Once, It all stopped for like 6 months, and i dont know if it was a oincedence, but in that period of time, i had stopped reading. then when i started to read books again it started up again. thanks for your time.
~Ank (link)
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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), is an often debilitating condition which effects thousands of people on a daily basis. Usually, a person suffers unsual compulsions and feels they have to complete them, in most cases, in fear that something terrible will happen. One of the most common forms of OCD is washing hands. Some people have been known to wash their hands over 100 times a day, fearful that their hands are never clean.
However, studies have shown that one of the other most common forms of OCD is counting. Sufferers often count almost anything on compulsion and very often spot patterns in things, which is where counting repititions may also come in.
Most sufferers of OCD can be treated using therapies such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). To throw an example at you, I suffered with severe OCD for two years before receiving CBT treatment. I can't remember now exactly what they made me do but within a few months, the number of compulsions had dropped by at least half. Now I only suffer with mild OCD and only get the occasional compulsion.
I would like to point out, however, that normally OCD arises as the result of a bigger issue. Usually, tackling the bigger issue can help to treat the OCD.
All this being said, the best thing you can do for yourself to get on the 'road to recovery' so to speak, is to see your GP for recommendations. Please don't forget that this is a VERY common problem and you're not alone. There are lots of websites that you can join and discuss it with other sufferers if you feel alone.
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i really like this boy but i dont know if he likes me my friend told me that he said he liked me but how do i know if its true and also i am very shy and they said at our next basket ball game he was going to talk to me what should i do? (link)
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First of all, wait and see if he talks to you at the basketball game. Unfortunately, this is all going to have to be a judgement call on your part.
When you talk to him, try to suss out his body language. Does he touch you at all in any way when he talks to you? Does he move around in any particular direction? Generally, you'll notice that people who don't want to be somewhere back away and people who are happy to be there stay foot. The big indication as far as body language goes is mirroring. You may or may not have heard of this but just in case you haven't, I'll briefly explain it. When someone talks to someone they like (as a friend or otherwise)and they want them to like them back, they often subconsciously mirror their movements. If he talks to you, try standing a certain way for a minute or two and try to notice if he moves to stand the same way. Hold your hands behind your back when you talk or on your hips and see how he holds himself. It sounds odd but it actually does ring true.
If you pick up that maybe he does like you, but you're not sure how, you'll need to use your best judgement to work out what to do next. You say you're very shy but research shows that men have a greater respect for and are more impressed by women who make the first move so however shy you may be, if there's a chance he may like you then go for it. I know it seems like a huge deal and absoloutely terrifying but the worst he can do is say no. After that, there's nothing more to worry about. Whatever you decide to do (or not do), I wish you the very best of luck.
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Okay, basically. I have a HUGE crush right now. i'm a sophomore, he's a junior. He hangs out with a different crowd than i do and the only time i see him is in band and jazzband afterschool. I came up with an excuse to talk to him online, and we've been talking more and more through aim. It's almost gotten to the point where i might call him a friend. Everytime i see him, or think of him, i get butterflies in my stomach, and every time he smiles so do i. I just think he's amazing. Smart, funny, talented, unique... but i don't know what to do next. I think we may need to get to know eachother a bit more before we actually date or something but i'm not sure how to go about that. And i'm afraid if i ask him out and he says no, that things will be even more akward. I'm always thinking about him. I don't know what to do.
Any suggestions? (link)
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If you're not sure whether or not he likes you or whether or not you're suitable to be a couple, the answer is to make things as neutral as possible.
Try getting a group of your friends together and arranging something like a small party or arranging for a group of you to go out together. Then invite him to come along. He'd still be coming as a friend but you'll have an opportunity to talk to him and get to know him better. The party is the best option because you can chat to him for a while and if you change your mind, you can excuse yourself to speak to someone else. It also gives you the opportunity to see how he feels about you. In other words, whether he spends the whole time with you or chatting up other girls and how he behaves in a slightly more intimate atmosphere. Good luck!
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sorry this is long...
okay me and my friend ellie both liked this guy named neil but i liked him more (we agreed on that) and then after winter break i told neil i knew who liked him and he askd who and ellie had told me that i could tell him so i told him... two days later he asked her out... needless to say that my heart was completely broken and it was all my fault... but now that hes going out with her im stuck with the two of them and noone else... all the time!!! and everyone is always like "stop trying to steal neil" well the other day somehow it got out that i was still in love with him... but I managed to convince everyone that i didnt... but we always fight (me and neil) oveer the stupidest things and i hate it!!! I cant help it but I love him so much it makes me hate him... I hate how jealous i am .. what should I do? how can I get over this guy??!?! (link)
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You poor thing. That really does sound like a difficult situation for you.
Right let's get this straight first of all. You have every right to be heartbroken and jealous and upset and even if nobody else understands that, YOU need to understand it.
Now, if this guy KNEW you liked him and still went and asked your friend without saying anything to you, he's not worth the effort anyway as he clearly doesn't care who he hurts when going after what he wants.
With everyone slating you behind your back, I think you need to keep your distance from them for a while and maybe hang out with some other friends (preferably ones who won't date guys you care a lot for) to allow yourself time to get over him and the whole situation to cool down.
As for getting over this guy, I will say to you what I say to anyone in this situation. Sometimes, like when you have your heart broken, you just need time to wallow in your misery. Stay in your pyjamas for a few days, eat your weight in Ben and Jerry's ice cream and afterwards, dust yourself off, put a huge smile on (even if you don't feel like it yet) and go out and face the world. Most of all, remember that there is someone out there for EVERYONE. If he could treat you that way, he never deserved you in the first place.
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ok so this is like the first time ive ever used this site but i need some advice & sorry if this is long but i will rate all 5s. =]
so recently my best friend and i got in a fight -we'll call her Jamie. well she saw these emails i was sending with this girl "Amy" that were talking about her and this boy BUT i really was trying to help her out, i prob shouldnt have been talkin about it but i was like joking around and tryin to find out who the guy likes. but she saw them and thought i was betraying her which i was not trying to do at all. she was mad at me for like 4 days and wouldn't talk to me, and she doesn't know this i dont think but i cried so much because i really thought i was loosing my best friend and i really missed her. i apologized but she didn't talk to me until these goths were mean to me and then we talked for a while last night and im pretty sure we're ok now .. the only thing is that before she told me she won't trust me for a long time. this really hurts me because we had a very trusting relationship and we told each other alot and i dont want to loose that. i would never tell any of her secrets ever and i would never do anything like what i did again but idk if she knows that. how long do you think it will take for her to trust me again? do you think we're really back to how we used to be? she is my best friend and im so lucky to have her but i want her to trust me and i want to know that we really are OK and back to how we used to be, i wasn ttrying to do anything at all. but another thing is i found out that she called me fat behind my back before and talks about me behind myback sometimes, too. but i would never backstab her.. can someone help me w/ all this??
also she thinks i invited these girls "patricia" and "denise" to this thing yesterday because i just wanted to start drama which is not true i didnt invite them i asked if they were going because they usually go. i didnt even think about that she wouldn't liek it.
so basically that whole week sucked for me i was really sad, i mean i have other good friends that were there for me but she is like my best friend and i thought she would never talk to me again thats how it seemed.
how do i make sure we're ok? and if she still trusts me? thank you so much for answering!@ (link)
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That really does sound like a sucky week!
If you have, deservedly or not, lost your best friend's trust in you, it's going to take a while to earn it back and trust me, it will be all about earning it.
That said, it sounds as though you both have some explaining to do. If she has been calling you names and saying bad things about you behind your back, she's just as guilty as you are.
I understand that you felt you were doing a favour but if you're going to try to sort something out for someone behind their back, unless it is a surprise, it is ALWAYS best to tell them what you're doing, as it will prevent such a situation from arising again.
Talk to her again and tell her your concerns. Also tell her the stuff you heard that she said about you. Get it all out in the open once and for all. Promise that you will never do anything like that again without telling her and she will have to promise not to say bad things about you behind your back any more. Hopefully, this will clear the air and you can start again.
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okay so bascially im sending in a pic to model for a web site and somewhere in the pic it has to say the websites name (can not be photoshoped it) how can i put the sites name in the pic without it looking cheezy because it has to be kinda sexy. besides writing it on my in the sharpie how else can i put it in the pic (it has to be free because im not going out to buy like stuff to make a custom shirt with the name or anything) (link)
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Get a cool shirt or t-shirt that will pass as being sexy but you're not fussed about wearing again. Customise it by ripping off any sleeves and hem so it's got a slightly ragged look and you can use a permanent marker to carefully and stylishly write the name on the front. Then make sure you show it but bend towards the camera when you pose.
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Alright, damn this is a long but interesting story. Ok, there are these two people who i have known for like 9 years now (I'm 17), and they have both completely changed from when i like first met em in like second grade. One is a boy another is a girl. The guy has been my best friend ever since who knows when, and the girl is my neighbor that i have known forever. Anyways, they both have real personality disorders, and ususally go around screwing up their relationships, and they are so full of themselves that they dont give a damn about anyone else, even though they say they care about their friends, a lot. Anyways, the guy i think has a Borderline Personality Disorder (go look it up), and the girl is just crazy in the same way but a bit different. Over the years as they have been maturing, they have been developing these disorders, and yeah no good has been comin out of em. The girl goes around talking to every single guy she can get a hold of, (and pulling out bullshit about how she says she loves em when she really doesnt, she gets bored after like a week with someone, and her boyfriends are random people that she finds outa no where) while the guy goes up to a girl and expresses his love, and if they dont love him he threatens to kill himself and stupid shit. Now its sophmore and junior year, and these two are together now, kind of half ass. The guy expresses his love for her, while she acts like she likes him but she really doesnt like him that way. Then guy asks her out, and she gets surprised about it and says she doesnt like him like that. Of course, then the guy threatens to kill himself for her love. They get in fights, and they bitch, and make up OVER AND OVER!! IT IS OLD, AND IT NEEDS TO STOP! I am sick and tired of them screwing up everyone's lives because of them two, (THEY DO THIS SHIT TO EVERYONE) i gotta find a way to make em stop being retarded but i dont know how. (link)
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Unfortunately, you have to accept that this is not really your problem. Why do you need to resolve it? If they have real Personality Disorders then there's nothing you will be able to do.
It may be tired and you may be fed up with it but you have to live and let live. If other people want to get involved then that's their decision. If they want to behave that way then you have to leave them to it.
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Okay so apparently i've known this guy since before i was born! Our moms are best of friends even after "his" family got uprooted and moved far away. Our families stopped seeing eachother for a while. We just started getting together more and in the past 6 months, we've seen eachother 2 times. I am 13 and he's 14 almost 15. I have feelings for him, and no way is it lust. He's not even that attactive, but his personality makes him so much hotter. The last time we met, he was trying to convince me about something (i was too busy day dreaming to listen to what it was. Something about cornbeef) my face got hot and i turned away and laughed my head off. So did he. I think I'm such a dope! I can't even look a guy in the eye without laughing!! I acted myself and everything! Is this hopeless? I mean he IS almost 2 years older than me. He's 5.2 I'm 4.11. He's immature for his age. (link)
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Wow, you really have it bad for this guy!! But two times in the space of six months is not very much at all and as much I hate to ask this, are you sure it is worth pursuing a relationship with someone you see that little of?
However, if you really do care about him and it sounds like you do, and if he cares about you too then you owe it to yourselves to try to make a go of it.
The age gap is a little concerning, but only as far as the fact that he will be legally allowed to have sex two year before you and you really should not be rushing into anything like that until you are old enough. Remember that you are only just into your teens and as you get older, you may find your feelings towards him change and vice versa. I would recommend you see if you can have a relationship but tread lightly, at least to begin with.
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okayy so i've liked this kid for SOO long .. i posted before .. the one who i've liked for months and he says he wants to be with me but never does anything.
so last night me and him hung out. me and my friend dennie had him and a guy named justin over. they came over on they're snow mobiles and we hung out. well dennie and justin hooked up, then she left. and all me and cody did was hold hands. im not that fast of a mover when it comes to that stuff. i dont really like just fwb. but me and cody held hands twice and he kissed me goodbye. we were maybe gonna hang out tonight. but we haven't talked yet.
i sat him down and we talked about it all through .. he said he does like me, HONESTLY, and he does want to be with me but right now is not a good time. he's always busy with work and snowmobiling and he just got a new dog he has to train for hunting .. so he's really busy. and i dont kno if thats his nice way of lettin me down easily .. or if come spring things really work out. like last night was SOO much fun. like you dont even know .. i loved it. and i think he thought so to. but then he didnt call today like he said .. i just cant tell what he wants ..
so do you think if we talk and stuff and hang out and everything .. do you think it would be a dumb idea to sit and wait till spring for him? i dont wanna sit and wait if he was easily lettin me down and i just dont know it .. ill feel like such an ass .. i dont wanna give up. its nights like last night that makes me feel like theres hope .. so i dont give up .. even if i should.
but dennie and justin might go out. so i think it'd be awesome if me and dennie (BEST friends) had boyfriends who were best friends .. it would be awesome. for as long as i can remmeber i've HATED my friends boyfriends .. lol ..
any advice would be helpful! thank you in advance (link)
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It's obvious you really like this guy but if he isn't sure what he wants right now then you would be wasting your time if you hung around and waited for him.
There's a chance he may turn round and say that yes he does like you and you could get together but in my experience (and this is the part that hurts), when a man says he doesn't have time for a girlfriend, it tends to be a nice let down. Now, I don't know this guy so I can't say that this is definitely the case here but if he really liked you, he would MAKE time for you. If you had a guy you really really liked, there's no way you'd let the things he's mentioned stand in your way.
You need to resign yourself to moving on and finding a guy who will treat you as well as you deserve. And until then, you need to tell him that by acting the way he did with you that night, he's giving you misleading signals and he needs to stop.
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17F.. i like this boy that i know.. and i think he likes me too, but i think he also likes one of my friends. hes one of the sweetest guys i know and we've hung out a couple times and when we talk its never silence we just keep talking the whole time about a ton of different things.. and there is this other girl i am friends with but shes known him since she was little so im not sure if they're just friends or what.. but i told her i liked him before and she was just like all over him after that. i was thinking that maybe shes just one of those girls that likes someone but would never date him or like that she just gets jealous when someone else likes him.. but me and him are totally on the same page and agree on almost everything.. and he has joked about starting to date me a couple times.. and i dono i guess im just kind of nervous that he'll end up liking her over me and that it wont work out.. any advice? (link)
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You need to tell him how you feel. BUT, before you do, ask him what is going on between him and your friend. Just casually ask if there's something going on because you get the feeling that she likes him. Wait and see what he says. If he says yes, you know he's off limits. If he says no, you could take the plunge and tell him you were thinking of asking him out.
I would recommend that you speak to this friend of yours, however, should he say yes to going out with you. It sounds as though she is interested in him and if you don't want to lose her as a friend, you need to speak to her and let her know your feelings about him and that you will be going out. That way she hears it from you first and doesn't have to hear it from someone else.
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theres this guy i really like and ive known him since last october....well my friend ( shes like my big sister ) has none him since she was in 6th grade she is a senior now...we she just got out of a really bad relationship but she really likes this guy also....he is always acting like he likes me and then right infront of me he says he loves her...i just want to know how to deal with it when it happens again because i dont want to start crying infront of them...and they both know i like him so yeah ill rate high (link)
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I'm sorry this has happened to you. I know how it feels and it hurts like hell but there's no set way to deal with it.
If you're hurt over this, you need to allow yourself some 'grieving time', so to speak. Some time where you lie in bed, in your pj's and eat endless gallons of Chunky Monkey ice cream.
As much as it hurts, you will need to accept that his heart lays elsewhere and that they care about each other. Also, you need to understand that they didn't hurt you on purpose. I know it's hard but you need to be happy for them. There is someone out there for you but it's a fact of life that everyone gets their heart broken at least once. Wallow for a while, take a deep breath, put on a smile and move on.
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