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obsessive crush
Okay, basically. I have a HUGE crush right now. i'm a sophomore, he's a junior. He hangs out with a different crowd than i do and the only time i see him is in band and jazzband afterschool. I came up with an excuse to talk to him online, and we've been talking more and more through aim. It's almost gotten to the point where i might call him a friend. Everytime i see him, or think of him, i get butterflies in my stomach, and every time he smiles so do i. I just think he's amazing. Smart, funny, talented, unique... but i don't know what to do next. I think we may need to get to know eachother a bit more before we actually date or something but i'm not sure how to go about that. And i'm afraid if i ask him out and he says no, that things will be even more akward. I'm always thinking about him. I don't know what to do.
Any suggestions?
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Hmm...Do you both play the same instrunment? If you do, then you could tell him that your having trouble with the music, and you can't find time during the week to get help from your band teacher, and then ask if he'd like to come over the weekend to help you out. While online, talk about music,and if he likes the same music as you just be like, wow we have a lot in common. That will probably get him thinking that you might be compatible for a relationship. Talk about movies, then say we should go see one together some time. Just, little easy things that make it easy to sort of ask him on a date. Good Luck and hope i helped!
-Brina
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Well since you both are in the band that's amazing, and a perfect start. Do you guys play together, maybe on AIM (or while in band class) you can invite him over. Just be like "You know it'd be cool if we practiced together sometime." Take the AIM convos to the next step, like ask about what's going on in his life. Become his friend, and when that's achieved, start casually flirting, like mess up his hair (don't go overboard) tell him you love the feeling of his hair. Stuff like that, maybe he'll catch feelings for you. Just go with your instincts. Wait awhile though before if you work up the courage to ask him out. Way too soon, may look you look desperate. GOOD LUCK, hope I helped.
xxManda
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If you're not sure whether or not he likes you or whether or not you're suitable to be a couple, the answer is to make things as neutral as possible.
Try getting a group of your friends together and arranging something like a small party or arranging for a group of you to go out together. Then invite him to come along. He'd still be coming as a friend but you'll have an opportunity to talk to him and get to know him better. The party is the best option because you can chat to him for a while and if you change your mind, you can excuse yourself to speak to someone else. It also gives you the opportunity to see how he feels about you. In other words, whether he spends the whole time with you or chatting up other girls and how he behaves in a slightly more intimate atmosphere. Good luck!
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