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Two people with real personality disorders, pissing off ever
Alright, damn this is a long but interesting story. Ok, there are these two people who i have known for like 9 years now (I'm 17), and they have both completely changed from when i like first met em in like second grade. One is a boy another is a girl. The guy has been my best friend ever since who knows when, and the girl is my neighbor that i have known forever. Anyways, they both have real personality disorders, and ususally go around screwing up their relationships, and they are so full of themselves that they dont give a damn about anyone else, even though they say they care about their friends, a lot. Anyways, the guy i think has a Borderline Personality Disorder (go look it up), and the girl is just crazy in the same way but a bit different. Over the years as they have been maturing, they have been developing these disorders, and yeah no good has been comin out of em. The girl goes around talking to every single guy she can get a hold of, (and pulling out bullshit about how she says she loves em when she really doesnt, she gets bored after like a week with someone, and her boyfriends are random people that she finds outa no where) while the guy goes up to a girl and expresses his love, and if they dont love him he threatens to kill himself and stupid shit. Now its sophmore and junior year, and these two are together now, kind of half ass. The guy expresses his love for her, while she acts like she likes him but she really doesnt like him that way. Then guy asks her out, and she gets surprised about it and says she doesnt like him like that. Of course, then the guy threatens to kill himself for her love. They get in fights, and they bitch, and make up OVER AND OVER!! IT IS OLD, AND IT NEEDS TO STOP! I am sick and tired of them screwing up everyone's lives because of them two, (THEY DO THIS SHIT TO EVERYONE) i gotta find a way to make em stop being retarded but i dont know how.
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Don't worry about them just worry about you and stop talking to them
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Well this sucks that it has to be someone close to you but the truth is YOU cant make them change and anything I tell YOU or anything anyone else tells YOU will not make THEM change. You said that when they were maturing they developed these disorders. Well obviously by the sounds of them they haven't matured a bit. This guy you talk of has got a problem. He doesn't think highly enough of hiself (which is exactly the opposite of what you said). He thinks that he needs a girl in his life to furfill himself. Your right he doesn't really love them but that's because he doesn't really love himself. Maybe you can help him realize this. The girl on the other hand is almost in the same situation she doesnt think highly enough about her self and she needs to lead guys on to make herself feel wanted or desired. Because of the way she goes about it she is making herself out to be a slut. sorry. I'm not calling her one but thats the reputation she is upholding. There you have it, you can pass this along but its not going to make them change. Good luck.
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Unfortunately, I have to agree with the other poster. There's not a lot you can do about this other than let it run its course. Eventually, one or both of them will see that this relationship is going nowhere and end it. You could try talking to them separately about your concerns that it's an unhealthy relationship, but you run a big risk of making one, if not both, of them angry with you for interfering.
One thing I would recommend is telling someone the next time the guy threatens to kill himself. He may just be bluffing in order to guilt the girl back into going out with him again, but it's better to be safe than sorry in a situation like this.
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Unfortunately, you have to accept that this is not really your problem. Why do you need to resolve it? If they have real Personality Disorders then there's nothing you will be able to do.
It may be tired and you may be fed up with it but you have to live and let live. If other people want to get involved then that's their decision. If they want to behave that way then you have to leave them to it.
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