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amazing guy. how do i tell my parents?
i found this guy from a couple towns over through myspace. we met today and totally hit it off! we like each other a LOT . but he lives 1/2 hour away..making it hard to see each other. i think i have to tell my parents..so maybe they can drive me out there sometimes..but how do i word it? i always kept my love life private from them..i never had the need to tell..im afraid of their reaction. help please?
16f
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i think you should just say that you met this really nice guy who lives an 1/2 hour away. would you be willing to drive me on some weekeneds?
or somethin like that
i wouldnt really mention that you met him on myspace though, unless your parents wouldnt care about something like that. cuz most parents would think that myspaces are dangerous or whatever.
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First of all let me just say that a couple of people have been murdered by guys they've met on Myspace. just go to google and type in 'girl murdered MySpace'.(without quotes) Then you'll see what could happen. Anyway i wouldn't tell my parents i met him on MySpace. I would justsay that I met this guy bu he liuves far and could he come over here or could you drop me off over there!
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You should tell your parents. Say he's your friend and be honest about how you met him and about him and everything. It really is the best you could do - to tell them first. It would turn into a bigger situation if they both found out about him like because he just showed up at your house, you know? If you let them know how you feel about it, and show some responsibility and maturity about the distance circumstances, then chances are they wouldn't mind and would actually support you when they can. Your parents are there to help you and do whats best for you. Now if they think that it's not a good idea, then lay low for a bit and listen to them. I mean yeah, sounds stupid and probably not what you wanted to hear, but if they see that you are mature enough to understand where they are comming from and listen to them on whatever they say, then later on it'll be a lot easier and chances are they will give in one way or the other. As for wording it...just tell them that you met this guy and you like him. They'll probably drill you about him, so then thats when you answer all the questions, even the part about him being kind of far [trust me, thats nothing compared to a 2 hour drive]. So long as you are honest and mature about the friendship, then I don't see why they would not approve or even drive you out there sometime. There's always the possibility of meeting somewhere halfway, which would be 15 minutes or something. I was afraid of telling my parents too, but once I did I felt so relieved and everything. They were a bit skeptical about it, but I didn't try to force things on them or anything, which is what you have to remember to not do. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Well, most likely you'll get in trouble for meeting up with a guy you met on the internet, even if he had pictures and stuff. Tell your parents that you met him from a friend. Just ask them if they can drive you to hang out with him, dont tell them its a date or anything. Good Luck.
-Brina
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First of all, the boring bit where I point out it is NEVER safe to meet someone in person after speaking to them on the net. I'm glad it's worked out in this case but most of the time, it could be anyone. If you do meet people off the net, you should always take someone with you, in case of emergencies.
Half an hour is a very passable distance for a boyfriend. When my other half and I first started dating, he was a good 20 minutes from me. But, if you don't have your own car it does make it more difficult.
Now, as far as your parents are concerned, the best option is always to tell the truth. Unfortunately, the truth may have consequences but it's a lot easier to cope with that than to work out lies to make up to them.
Why not get him to come round to your house while they are there? Ask him to pick you up or come round for dinner and introduce him. If your parents meet him before you tell them how you met? That way, they will know him for who he is and you have a chance to squash their concerns before they have a chance to rise.
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well if you wana get slapped upside the head then tell them you want them to drive you out to meet some guy you met on the internet. speaking of which you could probably use it. the 1 im probably gonna get for this advice is worth warning you. 9 times out of 10 if a guy wants to meet you offline from the internet its a very bad sign. its dangerous and alot of girls end up missing and raped that way. to my knowlege that is exactly what happened to a girl i met online. she told me she was going off to meet some guy she met online and i never saw her online again. you should at least investigate him first, contact a few people on his friends list and such, and if you must proceed, proceed with caution. as for convincing your parents, that is most likely a dead end. your 16 you should have a friend or two that can drive, ask one of them. preferably a guy so if shit happens he can protect you.
ok well im glad it turned out well for you. your best bet is telling them that he is a friend of a friend so that they would be more likely to trust in him.
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