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last night my friend asked me to go with her to this spaghetti dinner thing for this hockey association and all the hot hockey guys were there! well she use to go to that school..so all the hot guys knew who she was and would talk and flirt with her and stuff..and i mean yeah they didnt know me but i was SOOO jealous of her..i mean every hot guy like looked at her about 100 times..not even kidding and im just there like a nobody..i felt so left out and like i said what were they suppose to do tho? because they didnt really know me..well this brought my self-esteem down. and i dont know! im so bad at talking to guys..i never know what to talk about and i usually wont go up and talk to them first..and i have a myspace and im starting to like request cute boys i kinda know..but i dont wanna comment them! i mean i commented this one cute kids pic but i DOUBT he will comment any of mine..i dont think he is like that. if you dont like myspace and are gonna hate on it then dont even bother answering this. but i just need help! blahh and now im going out of town this weekend..and i have to go and of course i get invited to this hotel party..where these cute guys will be! or where i could of meet them. im soo mad. and i CANT repeat CANT get out of it. blah and so yeah this girl like hardly ever talks to me but i kind know her but she invited me to her party and now i cant go! i need a guy =( i feel so lonely..and im so jealous of like every girl..i feel so ugly..blahhHhh!! help me?!
sorry so long..
but i just need help..
i WILL rate!
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when they say yes to your request keep up on it and comment saying thanks for the add cutie! ;)
or something like that. that's what i do haha
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you sound like me a long time ago
well i was really nervousa nd shy and i thought that i would never get anywhere with a guy cuz i couldnt even tlak to one. Well heres the deal, in my opinion the only kinda person who can help you is the one who ahs been through the same thing and well i have so i know how you feel. Anyways, you should try and understand they are HUMAN they are just like a regular person and wont eat you or bite you the most they can do is think something of you that you dont want them to think but you know who really cares what they think??? its not like theyre better than gurls they are on the same exact level so dont let that botehr you, you have to find a guy who you can tlak to easily. Anybody, a teacher a family friend anybody. I founda guy frienda nd he tottaly helped me. Now i can tlak to guys so easily, its like magic. I really hope this helps. You should just try an find a guy frienda nd talk to him, anybody he could be teh biggest loser ever doesnt matter a guy is a guy and he will get you warmed up to otehrs trust me.
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Sounds like you really are suffering from a bad case of low self-esteem!
We all go through times like this and it really does make everything seem so awful but I PROMISE you, it does get better!
Your friend probably attracts a lot of attention because she is confident with herself and when you are comfortable and confident in yourself, it tends to attract people to you
Unfortunately, confidence isn't something you can learn overnight and although I could sit here and tell you what a great person you probably are and how much you probably have going for you, it wouldn't mean much because you won't believe it. So here's the thing. You need to learn to accept yourself for who and what you are and you need to understand that there will ALWAYS be people out there who will make you feel worse, whether they mean to or not.
Basically, it's an 'if you cant't beat them, join them' kind of thing. However tough it might be, you need to pretend to be confident. Walk into that party with your head held high and KNOWING that you can get any guy (or girl) there to talk to you because you are an interesting person with interesting things to say. Confidence breeds confidence so the more you pretend you are, the stronger you will feel. I'm not going to lie and say it will be easy but if you walk in there feeling like a wallflower, that's exactly what you will be. It's what they call a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So BELIEVE you are confident and try to enjoy yourself. There is no reason you cannot have the same charm and confidence as your friend. Oh, and as a side note, you don't need a guy. You will find one but you don't need him to be happy. I promise you that.
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