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BEST FRIEND FORGIVE??
ok so this is like the first time ive ever used this site but i need some advice & sorry if this is long but i will rate all 5s. =]
so recently my best friend and i got in a fight -we'll call her Jamie. well she saw these emails i was sending with this girl "Amy" that were talking about her and this boy BUT i really was trying to help her out, i prob shouldnt have been talkin about it but i was like joking around and tryin to find out who the guy likes. but she saw them and thought i was betraying her which i was not trying to do at all. she was mad at me for like 4 days and wouldn't talk to me, and she doesn't know this i dont think but i cried so much because i really thought i was loosing my best friend and i really missed her. i apologized but she didn't talk to me until these goths were mean to me and then we talked for a while last night and im pretty sure we're ok now .. the only thing is that before she told me she won't trust me for a long time. this really hurts me because we had a very trusting relationship and we told each other alot and i dont want to loose that. i would never tell any of her secrets ever and i would never do anything like what i did again but idk if she knows that. how long do you think it will take for her to trust me again? do you think we're really back to how we used to be? she is my best friend and im so lucky to have her but i want her to trust me and i want to know that we really are OK and back to how we used to be, i wasn ttrying to do anything at all. but another thing is i found out that she called me fat behind my back before and talks about me behind myback sometimes, too. but i would never backstab her.. can someone help me w/ all this??
also she thinks i invited these girls "patricia" and "denise" to this thing yesterday because i just wanted to start drama which is not true i didnt invite them i asked if they were going because they usually go. i didnt even think about that she wouldn't liek it.
so basically that whole week sucked for me i was really sad, i mean i have other good friends that were there for me but she is like my best friend and i thought she would never talk to me again thats how it seemed.
how do i make sure we're ok? and if she still trusts me? thank you so much for answering!@
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I think you really need to have a long conversation with your friend. You need to talk about what you did that bothered her and reassure her that you will never do anything like that ever again. You need to make sure she understands that when she was mad at you in made you ver upset and you don't want the relationship to change beteween the two of you.
Then I think you need to talk to her about what you heard she said about you. She may have just been upset about the whole thing and didn't really mean it.
If she really is your best friend, then you shouldn't keep thinks that are bothering you from her. You should be honest and always tell her the truth. Best friends are for soemone to tell everything to, right?
Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes.
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That really does sound like a sucky week!
If you have, deservedly or not, lost your best friend's trust in you, it's going to take a while to earn it back and trust me, it will be all about earning it.
That said, it sounds as though you both have some explaining to do. If she has been calling you names and saying bad things about you behind your back, she's just as guilty as you are.
I understand that you felt you were doing a favour but if you're going to try to sort something out for someone behind their back, unless it is a surprise, it is ALWAYS best to tell them what you're doing, as it will prevent such a situation from arising again.
Talk to her again and tell her your concerns. Also tell her the stuff you heard that she said about you. Get it all out in the open once and for all. Promise that you will never do anything like that again without telling her and she will have to promise not to say bad things about you behind your back any more. Hopefully, this will clear the air and you can start again.
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