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My Best guy friend.
Ok so there's this guy... well I went out with him twice and broke up with him both times.. the first because it felt really weird going out with him and I was young so I don't think I was ready for a BF. The second time he took it too fast but I never stopped liking him. I still like him- a lot- now and I had one of my friends ask him out for me but he said the third time is NOT the charm. We act really friendly and we hug a lot but its still hard knowing that we aren't going out. I think he said no because he didn't want me to hurt him again... Please help!
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this must be hard. ok. the best thing i can tell you to do, is just kinda hold back, give him hugs and stuff, but don`t try so hard. "play hard to get" it always works. if he has went out with you 2 times, he obviously likes you, and i`m sure he still does. he`s just probably scared that you might break up wit him again. so just kinda lay back. and he should eventually come around. best of lucck =]
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I hate to say it, but it's just no use getting your friends to do jobs like this for you. You know what they say. If you want something done right, do it yourself.
The fact of the matter is, if you really do like this guy and you really want him back, your friend will never be able to convey the emotions you feel as well as you would if you told him that. If you really care about him, you should be able to tell him how you feel.
However, are you sure you really are ready for a relationship yet? It's no good chasing this poor guy and getting his hopes up if you're going to dump him again in a few weeks. You need to work out what YOU want, before you get him involved. Is it really him you want or is it just having a boyfriend that you miss? And if you went out again, would you be able to tell him if he was going too fast for you without breaking it off?
If you decide that you do want him, you need to lay the groundwork. You need to apologise to him for hurting him in the past first. You also need to tell him that in spite of what's happened, you still have feelings for him, you miss him and you really hope he feels the same way. If he does, ask him if he would like to try again. If he doesn't feel the same way, there's very little you can do, I'm afraid and you'll have to move on. But should this happen, move on with the knowledge that comes with this experience and work out what you need to do differently next time.
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