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My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
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i have this friend tom who's kind of nerdy and has never had a girlfriend. and there's this girl amy (also pretty nerdy) who has liked tom all year. she's been convinced that tom likes her, even though he keeps saying he doesn't. well the other day tom asked me "should i go out with amy?". and i said, "yeah! if you like her!". and he said, "but i don't." (he likes all these popular girls who would never go out with him). so i told him... if you don't like her at all, then don't go out with her. but if you like her a little, then give it a try and see how it goes. so he asked her out, and now she's all excited. but now im wondering if that was good advice or not. cuz if he really doesnt like her that much, and is just going out with her to have a gf, then that's probably not good. but on the other hand, if he waits around for miss perfect cheerleader, he'll be waitin a lonnnggg time. idk... what would you have told him?? (link)
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I think you gave Tom some good advice, but I think you should encourage him to make his intentions with Amy clear to her. Maybe he can tell her that this is just a casual date and he would like to see where things go. That way if she gets her hopes up, it's no one's fault but her own. As of right now, I don't think you should worry because you haven't done anything wrong. You were just trying to be a good friend and make a couple nerds happy. Ha.
In all seriousness though, you shouldn't worry about what happens. You might have brought the idea to his attention, but you didn't force him and he could have said "no." He didn't though, so whatever happens between him and her is all on them. It's out of your hands now. All you can do is sit back and watch what happens.
Here's a bit of advice though for future reference - friends don't always want advice and they don't always want to be set up, even when they complain! This is a lesson I've recently had to learn the hard way, but sometimes when friends come to you to bitch and moan, they don't want you to find a solution or help them come to a decision. Sometimes all they want is just a willing ear to bitch and moan to. So in the future, when your friends have a problem and you feel like you have the solution, the best thing you can do is keep it to yourself until they ask for help.
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16/f
Okay, so I have this friend that I work with. I hung out with him once and it was fun and all, but then he started asking me to hang out with him more. Last night, I THINK he implied that he's going to ask me out soon [as long as I understood what he said right] and I really don't want him to.
My dad is super overprotective and I don't want a boyfriend at all until I go to college so I don't have to deal with my dad. I don't want my friend to feel bad if I say no, and I don't want him to ask me out at all. I don't know how to avoid it. Any ideas?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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I don't think you should avoid it. I think he'll understand it better if you explain it to him and tell him the truth. Tell him all about your overprotective father and how strict he is. Tell him that because of how strict he is, you're not interested in going out with anyone romantically until you're away from your father's supervision.
I think he's much likely to understand if you're honest than if you just try to dodge him or make up some excuse. Good luck!
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OK...Well my mom can be a total bitch some times. I hate it when she does shit just to piss me off. Its like she wants to fight and argue. I try to just brush it off but some times I just want to crack. Grr. And my dad could care less about me. I use to be super close to him before he got remarried. He doesnt care about me or anyone anymore. He doesnt even call me. I stay into it with both of them all the time. Some times all I do is cry. It upsets me so much cause they act like they dont care.
Someone plz tell me what I can do to make this better. Im about to give up.
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Aww. Don't give up sweetie. Everyone gets into it with their parents. Assuming that you're a teen, it probably feels overwhelming for you right now because you're still dependent on them and don't feel like you have any options. It won't always be that way, I promise. One day you'll be on your own taking care of yourself and your world will be full of nothing but options. I know you want an immediate fix, and I wish I could give it to you, but you need to keep your eyes on your future.
Divorce is painful, and I can't even begin to imagine the pain you're going through. You've been abandoned by your father and your mother isn't being very supportive. The two of them are being very immature and are letting their personal problems get in the way of you. You should always be their number one priority, and I'm sorry that you're not. Although parents are supposed to love us and protect us, there's no rule book that guarantees that we'll get that kind of treatment.
The good news is that you don't have to let their selfishness dictate the rest of your life. You can still be happy, successful, and strong with or without them. You have all the tools you need to survive inside of you. It's time to stop looking to them for support and look within yourself. I know you may not feel ready, but you can take small, gradual baby steps towards independence and freedom. Once you begin to get the ball rolling for yourself, your parents' actions won't affect you as much.
I would advise you to talk to a school counselor if you can and tell them exactly what's going on. You nor your parents will get in any kind of trouble. You'll just have a friend who'll help to support you. He or she will be there to listen to your troubles, offer advice, and help point you in the right direction as far as what you want to do after school. Often times we feel as though our parents are our only support systems - our only resources, but there are so many caring individuals out there who would love to help you succeed.
So don't give up. Please. This is no time to be down on yourself. This is the time when you need yourself the most. Many times throughout our lives when we believe we need others to help pick us up, it's usually us that pick ourselves up. We are own support, our own best friends, our own caretakers - we are the ones we must love unconditionally. I promise you that once you learn to love yourself, you will never need the love of another. Sure, love and support from others is welcome, but it's self love that gets us through the day. You will be fine because you have everything - yourself.
Please read my profile if you need any more advice. Good luck. :)
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OK so Im 5ft 8 and I weigh around 130 something...Am I fat? People call me fat and all I can do is cry about it. I eat a lot. I dont notice I eat that much but I do :( (link)
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You're not fat at all. If people are calling you fat it's because of some problem that they have - insecurity, jealousy, immaturity, etc. In fact, go to this link http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/ and type in your height and your weight. I just did it for you and the site says that your weight is normal. So don't listen to anyone who's stupid enough to say otherwise.
This is all the proof that you need. If people want to continue calling you names, don't let it bother you. They're all just sad, sad people who are desperately trying to forget their problems by creating imaginary problems for you. Don't allow them to cause you to shed another tear. They're the ones who deserve the pity and the sorrow, because something big must be missing from their pathetic, tragic lives.
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13/f
my problem is with my best friend's mom. she's really competitive and wants her daughter to be the best at everything... grades, sports, popularity in school, whatever. well, any time i do better at something (which happens a lot actually), her mom kinda freaks out. i mean, she's always really nice to me, but i can tell it drives her crazy.
well, one thing her mom really wants is for my friend to have a boyfriend. but my friend is really shy around guys, and even though a lot of guys ask her out, she always says no. and her mom gets mad at her about it. and i know her mom is really jealous that i've had a boyfriend for over a year.
but now for the big problem. my boyfriend's family is really good friends with my friend's family. and lately, my friend's mom has been inviting them to do all this stuff, and always tells my boyfriend how much fun he's gonna have with my friend! its like shes trying to get them together. and then she (the mom) tells me all about what they did and how much fun they had together, like she's trying to rub it in and make me jealous. well, it's working, cuz i AM getting jealous, and really mad too!
i know... if my boyfriend ends up liking my friend, there's nothing i can do about it. i don't actually think he will, though... but i can't help worrying about it a little. but mostly i'm just mad that her mom is doing this! its like she can't stand me having this guy so she's trying to steal him away for her daughter.
i guess this isn't really a question, cuz there's probably nothing i can do about it. but if anyone has any advice for me, i'd love to hear it.
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Hmm...I feel for you because you're in a sticky situation. Unfortunately, my advice is limited but I do have some and it involves you talking to three people: your mother, your friend, and your boyfriend. You need to inform all three of them what's going on - tell them all everything - every detail. Your mom might be able to talk (or knock) some sense into your friend's mom. If your friend's mom can get involved, so can yours, so don't count her out. I'm sure she'll want to stick up for you.
Your friend might be able to talk to her mother as well and let her know that it's making you and her uncomfortable and that she needs to butt out of her life. I know you said your friend is shy, but there's a chance that after you have a talk with her that she might see all of the chaos her mother is causing and can try to put a stop to it. Also, if you have a talk with your boyfriend, no matter how good of friends his family is with your best friend's family, he can limit the alone time he spends with your friend.
Finally, I have two additional pieces of advice that contradict each other, but you can choose which ever sounds best to you: First, be careful of your friend and your boyfriend. Your friend may not be as innocent as she seems, and your boyfriend may not be as forced into this situation as he's making it seem. A part of me suspects that both of them are playing you. Second, relax. I know it might be easier said than done, but being jealous, paranoid, and upset all the time isn't worth it. You're better than this. :)
Good luck.
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ok i was talking to a guy and he kept telling me i was hot and sexy. then he said " i wanna turn that shit out".. i didnt know what it meant and i didnt want to ask. so , what does it mean when a guy says that? (link)
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It means he wants to have sex with you and that he's an immature, vulgar, disrespectful pig. You can do better.
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one of my friends told me that another one of my friends has a crush on me but then i asked him about it and he said he didn't but then i overheard his younger brother on the phone asking if he was talking to his girlfriend and he doesnt have a girlfriend so im just wondering, does he or doesnt he like me? (link)
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Who knows? Instead of listening to hearsay and speculation from outsiders, just take his word for it. If he says he doesn't like you, then just accept it and move on. You don't want a guy who A) is too immature to say whether he really likes you or not or B) doesn't like you at all. So move on and devote your attention to someone else.
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Okay, so this is a monstrostiy of a story, but no one really likes those, so I'll try to keep it concise.
So, basically, through an extracurricular, I met a guy. Let's call him Charlie. Basically, the day after I met him, I got his number and we texted like 400 messages in 2 days.
All of a sudden, he wasn't returning my calls. He stopped texting me back and iming me and commenting me back.
I actually went to see a show he was in and the director introduced us to the group and he pulled his hat down and turned around.
I can't figure out if it's something I did, or what. But I'm still not quite over him. :/
Anyone have anything to offer? Potential motives?
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Maybe he got in trouble with his parents about all the texting you did. Maybe he felt smothered by it and you were scaring him and he felt forced to reply. Maybe he's just bi polar and was in to you for a couple days and then lost interest. There are many different reasons why this guy may have reacted this way, but the truth is, this guy is just some random boy. Who cares why he flaked out?
Be glad that he did it after 2 days and not after 2 years. Instead of taking it personally and beating yourself up over it, just forget him. You'll definitely find other guys - guys who don't get in trouble with their mommy when their cell phone bill comes in. You're more than likely too cool for him anyway. Don't be down about this. Just move on. :)
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heres the story. beging of may i started talking to this boy on the phone at night for like hours [he'd call me] and then at the end of may he got a GF for about a week [which he would NEVER talk about or anything] and i was talking to him about his GF and I told him that I thought he liked me and his resonse was well I don't. And I told him why [which was because he'd call we talk all night and other little things] and he called again that night we've talked since. and he went out with that girl for a week. And then we had summer school together and when we passed we'd "avoid" eachother [because it was a gym class and we both looked horrible] and when we were in the same class for a day we kept like eyeballing eachother but never said anything. and my birthday was the other day but he didn't call or anything [but hes out of town] and I'm just so confused on if he likes me because everyone i've talked to says he does. so i've just decided i'm going to suck it up tell him I like him and just get it out because i can't deal with this crap anymore. but my problem is i have NO CLUE how to tell him. i'm worried if i just come out and say "i like you" he'd say something like "well duh were friends right" [because we have that tease eachoter call eachother losers and dorks and make fun of eachother relationship] so I have no clue how to tell him. Phone? IM? Text? ask who he likes and if not me don't tell. I'm so lost. someone pleaseeee give me some suggestions. (link)
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I know you want some suggestions on how to tell him that you like him, but my suggestion is don't tell him at all. He doesn't like you. It doesn't matter what your friends think. They're just trying to be supportive of you and cheer you on. That's what friends are for. Advice columnists are for telling you the truth, and that's what I'm doing.
Guys don't play games or mean yes when they say no. If he says he doesn't like you, he doesn't like you. When boys are little they might like a girl and instead of showing it they'll pull the girl's hair or something. This guy isn't a little kid. If he has the balls to be that blunt, he really doesn't like you and you need to let it go and move on.
I think that maybe later on you might have a chance to win him over, but now is not the time. He couldn't have been any more clear. When/if he starts to like you, you'll know it, and right now you don't have a clue. So if you want a shot with this guy, don't put yourself out there right now because he's not interested right now. You're only going to embarrass yourself and lose his friendship.
To me, it sounds like he thinks of you as a friend or a sister. That might change in time, but that's how it is right now. So your options are to save face, keep your dignity, and move on (he might get jealous if he was no longer the center of your world and want you back - you never know), or you can open up your heart only to have his romantic disinterest in you break it. It's your choice. Good luck. :)
PS: And if you must tell him, do it in person.
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I like this boy soo much and I was planning on asking him to hang out this summer on the last day of school but I chickened out.
I can't say that I know for sure if he likes me too, we don't really talk but we exchange glances and stuff I guess.
I don't know what to do.
I added him on msn and I think he blocked me. Should I take that as a bad sign?
I talk to his sister (her and I are kinda friends) but I don't want to impose on her and make her feel awkward. She knows I like her brother and shes fine with it but thats as far as it goes.
I don't know what to do to get a hold of him.
I'm not friends with his friends, and im not one to randomly call him up.
Should I just let go of him this summer and try and move on? I've liked him since April and its now July. I FEEL SO LOST. Just looking at his picture makes me nervous, I can't even look at it for more than 10 seconds without looking away or breaking into a ridiculous smile.
I know it sounds scary and lame but hellppp. (link)
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Unfortunately, sometimes being too shy can have consequences. While you think that you and he are sharing cute, awkward glances with each other, he could be living in fear over the girl who appears to be stalking him because she won't quit staring at him. I'm not saying that's how he feels, but that could be how he interprets it, and because you are too shy to speak up, you'll never know.
The MSN thing is not a good sign at all. I would take that as my cue to move on. It doesn't guarantee that he doesn't like you, but it looks that way. Or he could be just as shy as you are. If that's the case, I'd still move on because two shy people together don't get a whole lot done. Take this as a lesson learned and don't make the same mistake again. You'll find someone else. :)
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um..my bf wants to try anal, but im afraid it will hurt. i dont even know why girls like this because, how exactly does it give us pleasure? i mean, i want to do it because i want to make him feel good, but i dont want to be in pain or be uncomfortable just to make him happy. how bad does it hurt if it hurts at all? help. (link)
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The tricky thing about anal sex is that no matter what precautions you take, it can still be painful. Some girls enjoy it and experience more pleasure than pain, but many girls don't like it all. If you're scared to try it, my advise would be to wait until you're interested in trying it. If you never have any interest in it, then don't do it at all. Your boyfriend will understand.
When you're scared or nervous, it makes anal sex even more painful because the muscles in your anus tighten. You have to be nice and relaxed to experience pleasure from anal sex (and even that doesn't guarantee that you'll enjoy it). If relaxing during anal penetrations seems like it will impossible for you, then having pain-free anal sex will be impossible for you.
As for why some girls enjoy anal sex - there are several possible reasons. The nerve endings in the anus feels good to some girls when they're being penetrated. Also, some girls enjoy the feeling of being full when their boyfriend's penis is inside of them. Another possible reason is the fact that anal sex is socially taboo and the act of doing something naughty is sexy to some girls.
I'm sure I don't have to tell you that if your boyfriend doesn't understand, then he's a jerk. If he continues to insist, make him a deal that you'll try it when he tries shoving a dildo the size of his penis up his ass. If you decide to go through with it, use lots and lots of lubrication and a condom. Don't use more than one condom and go crazy with the lubrication. You can't use too much.
Good luck and have fun. :)
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What is the drinking age in Regina, Saskatchewan, in Canada? In Toronto,Ontario, it is 19, but in Edmonton, Alberta it is 18
Thanks!!!!!! (link)
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19.
Credit: Dan.
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so im falling for this guy i just met really fast and its scaring me. hes so amazing, hes sweet, and knows just what to say, and has the same morals as me, and is so easy to talk to. we havent gotten a chance to hang out yet but we both really want to.
i dont want him to spend time with me and think "this girl isnt what i thought she might have been"
for once, it feels like things are finaly going my way, like im actually going to have someone to sort of fill in my other half.
my mom doesnt know about it, and neither does my sister. i dont know how to tell them because we dont go to the same school and shes gonna be weird about it. i want to tell her, but im not sure how
and whenever i talk to him, or think about him, i feel really sick
like nervous butterflies whoosey sick. i havent been able to eat much because of it, im hungry, but i havent had an appetite for anything
im wondering of everything will be fine, but it feels like so much can go wrong.
any guidance?
thanks! (link)
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Both you and he are going about things wrong and that's why it doesn't feel right and why it feels so scary. You need to make some changes before things get out of control.
You're obsessing over him way too much. Not being able to eat because of some guy you barely know is crazy. I've been in somewhat similar situations where I'll get into a fight with a guy or I'll get jealous over a guy I like who's showing interest in another girl, and I'll feel sick to my stomach and not wanna eat. I let the situation consume me, and even though I knew these guys for years, I still considered it completely unhealthy.
You have to come to that realization and get a grip. You'll be much happier when you did. You need to take a step back from this situation and look at your behavior. You're talking about this guy like he's perfect, but you don't even know him. Even you said you just met him. That isn't smart. Also, you really don't know what somebody's morals are unless you've been around them long enough to see their true character.
Any one, especially a horny guy, can SAY that their morals are the same as yours, but it could be a trick to get into your pants. As excited and silly as you're acting over someone who's shown some interest in you, I'd say his trick is working. You need to wise up and not let your emotions control you. Play the game a little more carefully - be a little more guarded. If you don't protect your heart, you're going to get it broken.
Tell this guy that he needs to slow way down because this is all new to you. That isn't rude at all. He will understand that, and if he doesn't, then you'll know he's a jerk. However, just because he does understand doesn't mean he doesn't have ulterior motives. Guys don't usually get as excited about dating as he seems to be, so I would be suspicious of that. Just be careful and allow yourself to relax and to just go with the flow.
Don't give this stranger such an important role in your life. Just take things slowly and casually and enjoy things for what they are. Don't rush things and don't allow yourself to be rushed. Dating should be fun and exciting, but when you make it the center of your existence, it can consume you and overwhelm you. That's when things get unhealthy and stop being fun. Good luck to you. Be careful, be smart, and be happy. :)
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15/f + boyfriend 17/m -
okay well him and his parents (mom and dad) are going to ocean city the 15th-22nd and they invited me. they're paying for everything. the thing is my dad said it was okay, but mom didn't. i need sooo much help to convince her it's okay. i wrote her a letter stating we wouldn't be sleeping together/all the requirements! i need so much help please. i want to go so unbeliveably badly.
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You getting to go depends on your behavior before this offer was made. Hopefully you've been a good daughter and have been making good grades in school. Hopefully you haven't been giving your parents too much trouble and have been helping them out whenever they need it. If this is true, then you have something to work with. If it isn't true, you're going to have a much harder time trying to convince your mom and should count on not going.
If you have been good, simply talk to your mom and tell her that you would like to discuss things with her like a mature adult. Tell her that you understand her worries then remind her that you guys won't be sleeping together and will have his parental supervision the entire time. Tell her that you've worked hard to do well in school and that you plan on working even harder next year. In short, point out how responsible and how mature you are.
There's a chance she'll still say no, but she's more likely to say yes when you remind her of how mature you are and how responsible you can be. Don't whine (even if she says no!). She might be testing your reaction to see if you'll be as grown up as you say you are. Depending on your reaction, she could change her mind, so be careful. If she says no, ask her what you can do to get her to change her mind, and ask her why she's saying no. There could be one thing in particular that she doesn't like about the situation that you could change.
Finally, don't view this as you trying to get permission from an authority figure. View this as you trying to sell something and not taking no for an answer. It's very easy to get what you want if you know how to do it. Everyone has a price, and there's something you can do to get her to say yes. The trouble is finding out what that something is. Good luck finding it, and don't take no for an answer. You don't have to keep bugging her by asking her repeatedly, but you still have time to change her attitude about the situation by changing your attitude to her reaction. Good luck! :)
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okay im not fat or skinny i juss got a lil baby fat that if i get taller it'll go away buh for the mean while
should i do sit-ups and reps? also should i run to lose the baby fat?
and you think i can get sknny or start growing abs in 1 month ??? (link)
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If you want to lose some extra pounds in your stomach area, doing sit ups and crunches is probably your best bet. I have a friend who told me that when she wanted to lose weight in her stomach, she started visiting websites for women who'd just given birth. She told me that they have the best tips on how to exercise and diet to lose weight fast and keep it off. It sounds silly, but it makes sense.
If you want to lose weight elsewhere (possibly your thighs), running or bicycling will definitely help. There are some general exercises that targets more than one area (such as jumping jacks and simple aerobics), and the good thing about aerobics is that doing a 15 minute session three to four times a week should help you to see results. Good luck! :)
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well i'v been singel for to long (2yrs) and i'm ready to make a move well it's not that i'm not attactive guy's are always hitting on me. But i need help like with guy's not to hit on me so much but like making them want to go out with me. (link)
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If guys are hitting on you, they want to go out with you. They might not make the move, but they're hitting on you to gauge your reaction. Maybe you're reacting negatively when they hit on you because you're unhappy they didn't ask you out, but they might have asked you out if you reacted more positively. So you might want to adjust your attitude.
I find it much easier and a lot less hassle to just ask them out. If there's a guy you like, instead of giving him the power to be the one who makes the move, you take the power and ask him out. Why should you be worried about who wants to go out with you when you could know by simply asking them if they do or not? I prefer not allowing myself to have those kinds of worries.
Life is too short to worry about whether or not some boy likes you. Just ask him and get it over with.
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My butt is always hot or like heating and it's really disturbing liek if i'm in the classroom and I go out and someone else takes my seat..
And one time my relatives came to visit and there wasn't enough room in the car so some people had to sit on each other's lap. HUMILIATING!
Is there something I can do about it? (link)
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If you're overweight that could increase your body temperature and you could try losing some weight. If you're not overweight, there's really nothing you can do to change your body temperature. It's just like when you shake hands with some people and they have hot, sweaty hands or freezing cold hands - it isn't by choice. So there's really no way to change your body temperature. I'm sorry. :(
I guess some things you could try (although this isn't guaranteed to help) is wear less clothing. keep the temperature where you live cooler so that your body doesn't generate as much heat. Take a cool or cold shower. Drink plenty of fluids to cool down your system. That might help some. Good luck. :)
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Why do people always think that if your in a serious relationship then the guy loves the girl more then the girl loves the guy? (link)
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I don't know anyone who thinks that.
I guess whoever thinks that might think it because it's harder for boys to make a commitment than it is for a girl. So with that idea they might believe that the guy's commitment is stronger and more sincere than the girl's, but I don't believe that's true. Love should be sweet and happy, not a competition of who loves who more. So whoever you know that thinks that way needs to grow up.
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back in like, May, i was playing around with my brother and somehow we got into some fight and he like punched me and hit my hand and it went numb and hurt really bad, so i iced it and that was pretty much it, i never iced it again. it hurt to bend like at my knuckle for a while but then went away. however, now, in july, sometimes it still hurts whenever i like lean on my hand or bend my finger in some weird way (in the knuckle). i don't know what happened, it never swelled up or anything. i was thinking it got jammed but would it still hurt like over a month later? if anyone had anything similar happen to them it would help a lot. i know none of you are doctors obviously so if you think i should see one just tell me ok thankss :) (link)
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I think you should see a doctor. Your hand could use an X-ray just to determine that nothing bad happened to it. Do your parents know about the fight and the injury? If not, you should tell them. If so, you should tell them that it's still hurting. You probably sprained your fingers which would feel like jamming them but more intense. To be on the safe side, go checked it out. The doctor might give you some medicine to make the pain go away.
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i'm not all guy crazy like my friends are, i don't go to the mall and go ohh hes hott! i am not like that, even close, i dont even walk by guys and judge them. there is this kid i have kinda had my eye on this past school year but again nothing major. my best friend has been friends with him forever so he is always over her house when i am there, we go swimming at night there and its a long story but she asked him and i to go swim around the pool and flirt for a while, i was glad to cause i kinda like him. so we flirted and when it was totally dark he swam by me and pulled my bathing suit bottom and then grabbed my top(he knew my strings were double knotted so he grabbed the front like my boob)it seems bad but it wasnt and i laughed so the next night we were all swimming and we kinda flirted on our own so later i had my friend say it looks like you and ash were flirting do you like her? and i guess he said yes! i want him to ask me out but how would i like cross his line between liking me and asking me out? wat could i do? (link)
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It sounds like you both like each other as more than friends but need a nudge to help you cross the friend line. My advice is instead of putting the effort into getting him to ask you out, you should just ask him out. Boys are often more shy than girls are, and girls mature faster than boys do, so it would be best if you asked him out.
I know that puts the pressure on you, but you already have confirmation that he likes you. He probably has no idea if you like him and would be really scared. Just get it over with and ask him out. When you two are a couple, you'll be glad that you did. This isn't the 50s anymore - girls ask boys out all the time. So do it and be happy.
Sounds like you have a fun summer ahead of you. :)
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