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liking a boy but having no clue how to tell him
heres the story. beging of may i started talking to this boy on the phone at night for like hours [he'd call me] and then at the end of may he got a GF for about a week [which he would NEVER talk about or anything] and i was talking to him about his GF and I told him that I thought he liked me and his resonse was well I don't. And I told him why [which was because he'd call we talk all night and other little things] and he called again that night we've talked since. and he went out with that girl for a week. And then we had summer school together and when we passed we'd "avoid" eachother [because it was a gym class and we both looked horrible] and when we were in the same class for a day we kept like eyeballing eachother but never said anything. and my birthday was the other day but he didn't call or anything [but hes out of town] and I'm just so confused on if he likes me because everyone i've talked to says he does. so i've just decided i'm going to suck it up tell him I like him and just get it out because i can't deal with this crap anymore. but my problem is i have NO CLUE how to tell him. i'm worried if i just come out and say "i like you" he'd say something like "well duh were friends right" [because we have that tease eachoter call eachother losers and dorks and make fun of eachother relationship] so I have no clue how to tell him. Phone? IM? Text? ask who he likes and if not me don't tell. I'm so lost. someone pleaseeee give me some suggestions.
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I know you want some suggestions on how to tell him that you like him, but my suggestion is don't tell him at all. He doesn't like you. It doesn't matter what your friends think. They're just trying to be supportive of you and cheer you on. That's what friends are for. Advice columnists are for telling you the truth, and that's what I'm doing.
Guys don't play games or mean yes when they say no. If he says he doesn't like you, he doesn't like you. When boys are little they might like a girl and instead of showing it they'll pull the girl's hair or something. This guy isn't a little kid. If he has the balls to be that blunt, he really doesn't like you and you need to let it go and move on.
I think that maybe later on you might have a chance to win him over, but now is not the time. He couldn't have been any more clear. When/if he starts to like you, you'll know it, and right now you don't have a clue. So if you want a shot with this guy, don't put yourself out there right now because he's not interested right now. You're only going to embarrass yourself and lose his friendship.
To me, it sounds like he thinks of you as a friend or a sister. That might change in time, but that's how it is right now. So your options are to save face, keep your dignity, and move on (he might get jealous if he was no longer the center of your world and want you back - you never know), or you can open up your heart only to have his romantic disinterest in you break it. It's your choice. Good luck. :)
PS: And if you must tell him, do it in person.
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I told this kid I liked him through MySpace. I felt that either through MySpace or IM were best for me since they made me comfortable & I wasn't nervous.
Tell him in a way you're most comfortable doing so. If you tell him in person, even better. But be blunt about it & be open.
However, if he doesn't like you back, don't be discouraged. There's plenty of other guys out there for you to like. Let me know how things go. Good luck!
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You should just be blunt and tell him. You know I like you right? And when he says Duh...Say No, I mean more than a friend.
And see what he has to say. Thats the only way I can see this going down is if you are upfront with it.
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