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vacation.
15/f + boyfriend 17/m -
okay well him and his parents (mom and dad) are going to ocean city the 15th-22nd and they invited me. they're paying for everything. the thing is my dad said it was okay, but mom didn't. i need sooo much help to convince her it's okay. i wrote her a letter stating we wouldn't be sleeping together/all the requirements! i need so much help please. i want to go so unbeliveably badly.
any advice?!
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Well, first keep trying to convince your mom. Show her how much it really means to you. If that doesn't work, then since your dad approves, ask HIM to help convince your mom. Hope it works out!
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You getting to go depends on your behavior before this offer was made. Hopefully you've been a good daughter and have been making good grades in school. Hopefully you haven't been giving your parents too much trouble and have been helping them out whenever they need it. If this is true, then you have something to work with. If it isn't true, you're going to have a much harder time trying to convince your mom and should count on not going.
If you have been good, simply talk to your mom and tell her that you would like to discuss things with her like a mature adult. Tell her that you understand her worries then remind her that you guys won't be sleeping together and will have his parental supervision the entire time. Tell her that you've worked hard to do well in school and that you plan on working even harder next year. In short, point out how responsible and how mature you are.
There's a chance she'll still say no, but she's more likely to say yes when you remind her of how mature you are and how responsible you can be. Don't whine (even if she says no!). She might be testing your reaction to see if you'll be as grown up as you say you are. Depending on your reaction, she could change her mind, so be careful. If she says no, ask her what you can do to get her to change her mind, and ask her why she's saying no. There could be one thing in particular that she doesn't like about the situation that you could change.
Finally, don't view this as you trying to get permission from an authority figure. View this as you trying to sell something and not taking no for an answer. It's very easy to get what you want if you know how to do it. Everyone has a price, and there's something you can do to get her to say yes. The trouble is finding out what that something is. Good luck finding it, and don't take no for an answer. You don't have to keep bugging her by asking her repeatedly, but you still have time to change her attitude about the situation by changing your attitude to her reaction. Good luck! :)
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What crappy adivce they gave!! lol
Have your boyfriends parents met yours? Well Get them to meet. Maybe if your parents well your mom in particular meets them you would feel more comfortable. AND if they have met, Get them to convince her that its ok, and that they are going to be there the whole time.
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love_hurts was on target. you just need to convince her and that too truly taht you wouldn't get into those activities, besides you both are accompanied by his parents, there you have good point build up on it. if you desperately need to go then tell his mom or pop to speak to your parents.(this one is far fetched, but no harm in trying). BON VOYAGE.
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well i know how that feels but you should trust your mom. you never know if something in her past that happened to her keeps you from going. tell her how you feel and then ask her why and if there is anything you can say to make her feel better about the situation. just remember your mom loves you. that's why she said no.
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