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um..my bf wants to try anal, but im afraid it will hurt. i dont even know why girls like this because, how exactly does it give us pleasure? i mean, i want to do it because i want to make him feel good, but i dont want to be in pain or be uncomfortable just to make him happy. how bad does it hurt if it hurts at all? help.
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the sensitive area near/in the vagina is near the anus. that's why it's enjoyable at all.
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The first time I went about anal, it was all wrong. There was this position where you sit on the guy and I sat down too quickly and it hurt like hell. The second time we tried a different method. Don't try this unless you are at least a little interested in it. Then, if you guys decide to do it, be sure he's wearing a condom, use A LOT of lubrication, and pick a position. I suggest laying on your side with behind you laying on his side also. It doesn't hurt nearly as much this way. It takes a while for the anus to stretch so make sure he goes SLOWLY. If it's too uncomfortable for you tell him to stop, it's no big deal. =)
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The tricky thing about anal sex is that no matter what precautions you take, it can still be painful. Some girls enjoy it and experience more pleasure than pain, but many girls don't like it all. If you're scared to try it, my advise would be to wait until you're interested in trying it. If you never have any interest in it, then don't do it at all. Your boyfriend will understand.
When you're scared or nervous, it makes anal sex even more painful because the muscles in your anus tighten. You have to be nice and relaxed to experience pleasure from anal sex (and even that doesn't guarantee that you'll enjoy it). If relaxing during anal penetrations seems like it will impossible for you, then having pain-free anal sex will be impossible for you.
As for why some girls enjoy anal sex - there are several possible reasons. The nerve endings in the anus feels good to some girls when they're being penetrated. Also, some girls enjoy the feeling of being full when their boyfriend's penis is inside of them. Another possible reason is the fact that anal sex is socially taboo and the act of doing something naughty is sexy to some girls.
I'm sure I don't have to tell you that if your boyfriend doesn't understand, then he's a jerk. If he continues to insist, make him a deal that you'll try it when he tries shoving a dildo the size of his penis up his ass. If you decide to go through with it, use lots and lots of lubrication and a condom. Don't use more than one condom and go crazy with the lubrication. You can't use too much.
Good luck and have fun. :)
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It does hurt. Its stretching your anus open more than it needs to be Wow I didnt want to try this but when My ex tried to slip it in I was in pain and I was constipated for the next couple of days. People say you get used to it, but I will never know. lol.
PS, If you do decide to try it use a lubricant. It supposed to help.
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