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Friend wants more.
16/f
Okay, so I have this friend that I work with. I hung out with him once and it was fun and all, but then he started asking me to hang out with him more. Last night, I THINK he implied that he's going to ask me out soon [as long as I understood what he said right] and I really don't want him to.
My dad is super overprotective and I don't want a boyfriend at all until I go to college so I don't have to deal with my dad. I don't want my friend to feel bad if I say no, and I don't want him to ask me out at all. I don't know how to avoid it. Any ideas?
Thanks in advance.
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Well, I do think that the other advicenators are right. It would be better to just tell him the truth about why you don't want to date him.
But if you really want to avoid it, the only thing that I can think of would be to let him think you like someone else. Just talk about how you think some guy is cute. It would make him think about asking you out even less if the guy you 'like' is the total opposite of your friend. If you pick someone similar, he's going to think, 'well if she likes him, she would like me too.'
I know you want to avoid it, but I still think you should just hash it out with him and be honest. It will make him feel less bad about himself if you say why you don't want to date him instead of just dodging it.
Hope this helps.
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I don't think you should avoid it. I think he'll understand it better if you explain it to him and tell him the truth. Tell him all about your overprotective father and how strict he is. Tell him that because of how strict he is, you're not interested in going out with anyone romantically until you're away from your father's supervision.
I think he's much likely to understand if you're honest than if you just try to dodge him or make up some excuse. Good luck!
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Hey whats up,
I totally understand what your going through, and I do in fact have an idea of my own which I always used to escape the humiliation of people asking me out and I in turn, give them no as an answer. So thats what you should do, next time you see him, and your like hanging out together, start telling him about how your dad is always giving you a hard time, and how he's like overprotective and strict and stuff, and how you yourself made plans to avoid the whole dating issue and getting involved in relationships till you go to college, and when you tell him that, try to show him that its more of your point of view and more of what you want and not your dad. YOu get it? Umm.. he will be kind of disappointed at first, but then you could still show ( not tell) him what good friends you could make, and still DO hang out with him and have a good time and stuff, and after a while, he'll learn to cope with it, and he'll just let go off the whole idea of asking you out. Everything definitely takes time, so just do what i said, and then let things fall into place on their own. And don't keep thinking about the whole issue ,so you wouldn't started developing a crush on him or realizing that you love him or any of such, just act normal and cool, and leave things to be worked out as they should be.
If you need any further advice, please be free to contact me, and i hope all goes well for now. Goodluck:):)
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You can tell him whenever you 2 are together like "Omg my dads so overprotective i so dont want a boyfriend till after college" or something but make it subtle. If he does ask you out you will just have to say no and let him accept it. It can be hard but it doesnt mean you guys cant be friends. It might hurt him for a while but if you don't want to go out with a guy then its your choice and no one elses. Odds are if he likes you he's just going to ask no matter what you say and you just have to say no. You can tell him you still want to be friends that your just not interested in a relationship right now. Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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