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Why dont they care?
OK...Well my mom can be a total bitch some times. I hate it when she does shit just to piss me off. Its like she wants to fight and argue. I try to just brush it off but some times I just want to crack. Grr. And my dad could care less about me. I use to be super close to him before he got remarried. He doesnt care about me or anyone anymore. He doesnt even call me. I stay into it with both of them all the time. Some times all I do is cry. It upsets me so much cause they act like they dont care.
Someone plz tell me what I can do to make this better. Im about to give up.
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Aww. Don't give up sweetie. Everyone gets into it with their parents. Assuming that you're a teen, it probably feels overwhelming for you right now because you're still dependent on them and don't feel like you have any options. It won't always be that way, I promise. One day you'll be on your own taking care of yourself and your world will be full of nothing but options. I know you want an immediate fix, and I wish I could give it to you, but you need to keep your eyes on your future.
Divorce is painful, and I can't even begin to imagine the pain you're going through. You've been abandoned by your father and your mother isn't being very supportive. The two of them are being very immature and are letting their personal problems get in the way of you. You should always be their number one priority, and I'm sorry that you're not. Although parents are supposed to love us and protect us, there's no rule book that guarantees that we'll get that kind of treatment.
The good news is that you don't have to let their selfishness dictate the rest of your life. You can still be happy, successful, and strong with or without them. You have all the tools you need to survive inside of you. It's time to stop looking to them for support and look within yourself. I know you may not feel ready, but you can take small, gradual baby steps towards independence and freedom. Once you begin to get the ball rolling for yourself, your parents' actions won't affect you as much.
I would advise you to talk to a school counselor if you can and tell them exactly what's going on. You nor your parents will get in any kind of trouble. You'll just have a friend who'll help to support you. He or she will be there to listen to your troubles, offer advice, and help point you in the right direction as far as what you want to do after school. Often times we feel as though our parents are our only support systems - our only resources, but there are so many caring individuals out there who would love to help you succeed.
So don't give up. Please. This is no time to be down on yourself. This is the time when you need yourself the most. Many times throughout our lives when we believe we need others to help pick us up, it's usually us that pick ourselves up. We are own support, our own best friends, our own caretakers - we are the ones we must love unconditionally. I promise you that once you learn to love yourself, you will never need the love of another. Sure, love and support from others is welcome, but it's self love that gets us through the day. You will be fine because you have everything - yourself.
Please read my profile if you need any more advice. Good luck. :)
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Theres always issues with parents. No matter what happens, your parents do care for you even if they dont show it and they love you no matter what. He has someone new in his life now and it's a huge change for him. It's like have you ever had a boyfriend and you sort of blew off your friends to spend more time with him? He's not meaning to he probably doesn't realise that your hurt. I agree with the past advice of just being nice and having good behaviour for a while. He's settled in with his new wife but he's still got to learn how to give the same amount of attention to both of you. You could ask your dad if you him and his new wife could go out together somewhere to spend sometime together, so you could also gain a good relationship with her as well. Your parents will always care for you even though sometimes it's hard to believe. When your mum seems stressed just hug her. Just try to be good and spend some more time with your parents. They love you and no matter what you love them. Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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Parents go through a lot of stress and sometimes their children don't realize it. Try being on your best behavior for a little while -- i know it's hard but however long you can to make your parents happy i'm sure they'll come along.
i used to have a really bad relationship with my mom, and no matter how stubborn i was i was nice to her even when she took out her stress on me. after a while, she calmed down and we've been on eachothers good side lately, we hang out a lot and we're real good friends :]
the more you please your parents the better your relationships will be. it's never too late to change your relationships between your parents, try your best, i'm sure everything will work out like it's supposed to.
good luck dear.
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