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In love with my ex(my best friend)
17/f. It has been over a year since I broke up with my ex. And he is still my best friend. Since I met him two years ago he has been my best friend. I love him. I would do anything for him. I love him so much; I don't know what I would do if I didn't have him in my life. I want another chance with him. Problem is he has a girlfriend and they have been together for a year. Well, I want to tell him how I feel. I don't care anymore if I mess things up with them(I know, it sounds mean or whatever, but I don't). Part of me is afraid that when I tell him things will get weird between us, but we have been through a lot so that it might not. Part of me just wants to take the risk. What should I do? How should I tell him how I feel? I'm so confused.
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Well, right now you're 17 and you're being controlled by your hormones and your emotions. That's a big mistake. You should be controlling them. You can't control how you feel, but you can control how you react to those feelings, and right now you're being impulsive. You were lucky enough to find this amazing guy who you claim to genuinely love (but if you genuinely loved him, wouldn't you put his happiness before your own?); you broke up, and he's still a great enough guy to stick around and be your best friend.
You sound very lucky. You've already been through the pain of losing him as your boyfriend. Are you ready to endure the pain of losing him as your friend and him no longer being in your life at all? Because that's what I fear is going to happen if you open your mouth right now. You need to be the supportive friend he can count on. That's a quality that he will look for in a mate. Inconsideration is not a quality he's going to enjoy, and that's exactly how you'll come across if you try to break up his relationship.
The truth is, you're both young (I'm assuming he's around your age), and his relationship with his girlfriend is probably not going to last. Wait for problems to occur before you begin to make your move, but don't you dare be the one to cause the problems. I'm willing to almost guarantee that his relationship with her won't last. And when it doesn't, you'll probably be the one he turns to for support. If you really want him, that will be your best opportunity to get him. In the meantime, I think you should just move on and let it go.
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Hey whats up,
You telling him how you feel about him is not only messing up whats between him and his girlfriend, but its also messing up whats between you and him as bestfriends. Things will definitely turn weird and your friendship may also start to become distant and odd, seeing that he's already moved on with his life and made a girlfriend and is totally inlove with her and cares about her too much to break up with her and go back to his ex.
You see, he does really like you and respect you for staying as best friends with you even after breaking up with you, but if he did love you and wanted to be back with you he would have done that a long time ago, but its clear that he's trying to throw hints at you and show you that he wants to move on with his life and make a new girlfriend like the one he has now.
So seriously, i think you should back away and try to move on with your life too, i mean, i do know and i do understand and maybe more than so many people how you must be feeling now and how your totally crazy inlove with him and want him back so much to the extent of causing fights and a breakup between him and his girlfriend, but thats no solution. Because how would you feel when you tell him about your feelings and he'd go like, 'no we are just friends and i have a girlfriend of my own now and i love her and would never let go of her' and then a couple of days , even weeks later, he'll start acting all weird and odd, till he lets go off your friendship completely, and you'd have lost him in every sort of way.
So seriously, don't follow this path, because i did, and i happened to lose someone seriously so special to me and i still regret what i've done and feel guilty about it every second of the day.
And i'm here now, to prevent you from doing the same mistake.
Have him as a friend, a best friend, and do whatever you want with him, talk to him, be there for him, and he will be there for you, hang out with him, share total fun and do just anything you want, but most definitely, don't throw that all to gain nothing.
Consider what i said, and please be free to contact me if you need any further advice. i hope all goes well. Goodluck:)
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