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is he too perfect?
so im falling for this guy i just met really fast and its scaring me. hes so amazing, hes sweet, and knows just what to say, and has the same morals as me, and is so easy to talk to. we havent gotten a chance to hang out yet but we both really want to.
i dont want him to spend time with me and think "this girl isnt what i thought she might have been"
for once, it feels like things are finaly going my way, like im actually going to have someone to sort of fill in my other half.
my mom doesnt know about it, and neither does my sister. i dont know how to tell them because we dont go to the same school and shes gonna be weird about it. i want to tell her, but im not sure how
and whenever i talk to him, or think about him, i feel really sick
like nervous butterflies whoosey sick. i havent been able to eat much because of it, im hungry, but i havent had an appetite for anything
im wondering of everything will be fine, but it feels like so much can go wrong.
any guidance?
thanks!
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Both you and he are going about things wrong and that's why it doesn't feel right and why it feels so scary. You need to make some changes before things get out of control.
You're obsessing over him way too much. Not being able to eat because of some guy you barely know is crazy. I've been in somewhat similar situations where I'll get into a fight with a guy or I'll get jealous over a guy I like who's showing interest in another girl, and I'll feel sick to my stomach and not wanna eat. I let the situation consume me, and even though I knew these guys for years, I still considered it completely unhealthy.
You have to come to that realization and get a grip. You'll be much happier when you did. You need to take a step back from this situation and look at your behavior. You're talking about this guy like he's perfect, but you don't even know him. Even you said you just met him. That isn't smart. Also, you really don't know what somebody's morals are unless you've been around them long enough to see their true character.
Any one, especially a horny guy, can SAY that their morals are the same as yours, but it could be a trick to get into your pants. As excited and silly as you're acting over someone who's shown some interest in you, I'd say his trick is working. You need to wise up and not let your emotions control you. Play the game a little more carefully - be a little more guarded. If you don't protect your heart, you're going to get it broken.
Tell this guy that he needs to slow way down because this is all new to you. That isn't rude at all. He will understand that, and if he doesn't, then you'll know he's a jerk. However, just because he does understand doesn't mean he doesn't have ulterior motives. Guys don't usually get as excited about dating as he seems to be, so I would be suspicious of that. Just be careful and allow yourself to relax and to just go with the flow.
Don't give this stranger such an important role in your life. Just take things slowly and casually and enjoy things for what they are. Don't rush things and don't allow yourself to be rushed. Dating should be fun and exciting, but when you make it the center of your existence, it can consume you and overwhelm you. That's when things get unhealthy and stop being fun. Good luck to you. Be careful, be smart, and be happy. :)
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Tell him that you'd like to take things a little bit slower.Make it a point that you'd like to get to know eachother better before things get too serious.
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