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Lay 'em on me girls! I want all your beauty tips - no matter how weird! Of course the guys can help too, but I though this would be more up the girls' alley!
What I mean is - I recently found out how amazing you look after tanning, or what a HUGE difference tweezing your eyebrows make! And if someone would have just told me this sooner I could have saved myself a lot of tears, i look 10 times better now and in 10 days I've gotten more boys than I ever have in my life! (i used to be bullied, boys wouldn't even look my way!)
So help me - tell me what you've got?! Any discoveries that completely changed your life (or atleast your look!) ?
Thank you! It could be anything from eye-make up to ... well, anything really. Haha :)
Thank you and have a good summer!
Put some white eyeshadow on the inner corners of your eyes. It makes them look bigger and brighter.
White teeth are a MUST. A bright smile will get you noticed very fast. Crest White Strips really work and dentists reccommend them. You see results in about 3 days.
If you get oily skin throughout the day, keep some oil blotting sheets in your purse that way you can avoid a shiny nose and forehead.
Biggest tip-- be comfortable. Don't wear 3 inch heels if they make you miserable. Trust me, it's not worth it.
hi...do all girls play hard to get couse theres this girl and i dont no if she likes me or not she knows i like her but shes like ok then he likes me or is she jus playing hard to get and if a girl is playing hard to get what do you do.
I don't play hard to get. I don't believe in playing silly games to get a guy to like you. If he likes you, he likes you. You shouldn't have to pretend to not be intrested to get him to like you.
Ask her how she feels. That's the only way you'll know for sure.
I know that leggings and short denim skirts have been a trend and probably are still a trend for some people. I wear leggings whenever I wear a short skirt because they're just more comfortable. I don't have to worry about my skirt lifting up when I wear leggings. But... is this look still in style? I saw a whole bunch of people wearing it at my school and this year at my school, but ever since my friend said it looked tacky I've been noticing less people wearing it these days. I still wear it. I just don't want to look like an unfashionable weirdo. Is this look still "in" at your school? Tell me what you think.
No, this look isn't "in" at my school. However, some people do still wear them, and it's not really "Out". It's just not all the rage anymore.
Forget your friend, wear the leggings if you like. Seriously, you won't look unfashionable. Go for it.
how much will it hurt to get my nose pierced?
and about how much will it cost?
and this might sound akward but i dont know how else to say it.. is there anything i can to to "prepare" myself for it? like if i pinch my nose will that be hoe much it will hurt?
It doesn't really hurt! You have a needle going through your body, so yes, you will feel some pressure, but it really doesn't hurt very bad at all. Everyone has different pain tolerance. While I'm not a COMPLETE baby, I'm definitely not a suck-it-up, feel-no-pain kind of person. They didn't freeze it for me, but she told me when she was going to do it, it hurt for about 2-3 seconds while the needle was actually going through, then I just felt it throbbing a bit afterward. My left eye watered because I got my left nostril pierced, but that's your body's reaction. It wasn't because I was crying. I'd rather get that done again than go to the doctors office and get my finger pricked.
My best friend has it done too, and she didn't think it hurt either.
For me, the piercing cost 30 dollars, and I spent an additional 9 dollars on the aftercare spray to keep it clean.
You can't really prepare yourself for it. It's not something you really need preparation for. It's nothing you can't handle, I promise.
Normally, i am a really outgoing and funny person. but whenever i get around the guy i like, i get really shy and nervous. i want him to like me back, and people are always saying to flirt and make him laugh. but i get afraid that i will say something stupid. how can i get over this?
You just need to work on your confidence. You can't be afraid of what MIGHT happen. Chances are, you won't say something stupid, and if you do, he probably won't even think twice about it. If you act too shy around him, he might think you're stuck up or that you don't like him, and we definitely don't want that. So really, you've just gotta make yourself be outgoing. If nothing else, fake it at first. Even if you're freaking out inside, make yourself talk and appear confident. In time, once you see that you really won't say something stupid, it will come naturally. You don't have to go from being super shy to super flirty, start out slow. Everything will fall into place eventually.
Good luck =)
what's a good straightener that works really well? ****PLEASE**** do not say *CHI*, *SOLIA*, OR ANY STRAIGHTENER OVER $45. sorry if i'm sounding overly-dramatic, but i really have like no money and i need a straightener badly and never in my life will i spend more than 45 or 50 bucks, (not even 50) on a straightener. thanks so much!
Okay. I have had many, many flat irons, all ranging in price. Now. I HATE Wet2Straight. It didn't leave my hair very smooth and flat. The best brand of hair straighteners that is in your price range that I have tried is Conair. I got one for 40 bucks at Sally's Beauty Supply, and it is the best straightener that I've had in your price range.
That being said, you are going to get what you pay for. A lot of people think that a 20 dollar straightener will do the same thing as a 90 dollar chi. That is NOT TRUE. Go use a wet2straight, then use a chi, and you will see the difference. Not only do higher quality flat irons straighten your hair better, they help prevent damage to your hair, they help keep out friz, and they drastically cut down the time it takes to straighten your hair. PLUS, they are less likely to break, and some come with a guarantee. I used to buy cheaper flat irons, 30-40 bucks, and they always either sucked or broke, so I ended up spending way more money then I should have. Then, I spent 100 dollars on a straightener, and I've had it for 2 years and it's amazing. Now I'm not trying to talk you into a chi or any other expensive straightener, but I do want you to make a wise investment. So think about what you're buying before you go and spend your money.
Good luck =)
ok well yesterday i graduate middle school. and my best friend and i are going to different high schools. people all assume we're a couple because we're practically glued at the hip but he told me he didnt like me like that but ive always liked him. problem with him is he gives a lot of mixed signals. so i was talking to him on msn and he had to go. i said "wow im not gonna see you at school tomorrow anymore. its so weird.." then he said "i know...i love you" and i said "i love you too". the he said "we sure say a lot for not a couple...some major questioning is to be done." what does that mean? i really have no idea what he meant. and i told him i dont like him anymore. so he doesnt think i still do. and i know its time to move on and just be friends but what did he mean by that? thanx
You know, I don't know your best friend, I don't know you, and I don't know the details of your situation, so I can't tell you what he meant by that. But I do want to tell you something else. You need to tell him how you feel. I'm in a similar situation right now, so I feel the need to say some things to you. I'm not the kind of person to tell someone when I like them, and I don't like to talk about my feelings. But I liked one of my best friends a lot, and my mother is the one the convinced me to tell him. I told him how I felt, and it turns out he felt the same way too, but I waited too long to tell him. He (sort of) rejected me, but he didn't make me feel stupid about it at all. If this guy is really your best friend, even if he doesn't feel the same way about you, he won't feel any differently about you after you tell him. I felt so so soooo much better after I told my friend (& I'll spare you the details, but the story has a happy ending!) and you will too. You can't keep things bottled up inside, just tell him. Good luck =)
im 14 and ok im kind of a prude and believe no sex before marriage and you should wait for someone special before going out with them... especially when you're young... and my best friend is turning into a hoe. she got her first boyfriend, and i was reaally happy for her, but then on their first date they made out, and other people were around. they werent even going out for a week, and they didnt even kiss normally before that. then she wanted me to grind with her at the last dance, and i was like NOOO. i would only grind with a guyyy and if i had been going out with him for a while.
i know this is how like old people think, but i want a guy who cares about me, not just a guy that wants to do stuff with my body. and i dont care if i wait for that. but my friend is alwayss bringing up her bf and its soo annoying. she hasnt been a good friend for the past year either, although she says im her bff... shes been ditching me for her other group of friends a lot, but hangs out with me mostly in schol.
i am really sick of her and im afraid shes going to do something that she regrets... should i keep being friends with her, try to help her, or ignore those problems?
Let me start off by saying that your friend is not a hoe. Making out with your boyfriend is not slutty behavior at all. It's perfectly okay. And for you to call her a hoe because she wanted to dance with you and made out with her boyfriend is unfair. I think people these days throw around the word "Slut" and "Hoe" way too much. Your friend is not a hoe (from what you've said anyways) and to call her that might give her a bad reputation, so I wouldn't do it from now on.
Now, I totally respect you for having the morals that you do. But just because someone is not quite as strict as you in this area, does not mean that they are a bad person. Now, if you friend starts having sex with lots of guys, or doing sexual acts with lots of guys that she's not dating, then I would start to be concerned. But you guys are growing up. A lot of your friends are going to become more interested in the physical aspect of their relationships. If you don't want to hear about it, tell them. And if you really think she is on the downward spiral, then all you can do is talk to her about it. Otherwise, there's not much you can do other than be there for her.
Good Luck =)
im intrested in reading alot of sarah dessens books this summer. but which one is the best, or can you tell me which is the best from greatest to least? thank you so much
Sarah Dessen is my FAVORITE author. Her books are amazing! Here's how I would rank them-
The Truth About Forever & This Lullaby are tied for first. I really can't decide which is better, they are both so, sooooo good.
In second, I'd probably choose Just Listen.
Third is Dreamland.
Fourth is Keeping the Moon.
And That Summer & Someone Like You are tied for last.
But they're all good! Good luck and have fun reading!
Alright, i dont no how to ask this question but please just tell me everything you know and experienced in going to a new school. Give me tips, and ect.
I have to go to this private school next year and im going into the 9th grade and im so frickin nervous i wont find friends or something like that. im already kinda shy, but just tell me everything like what would be good, and whats it like!! thanks
I went to a new school my freshman year too! I was sooooo nervous, I could barely eat for 2 weeks before it started. But I decided that it was my chance to start over. I told myself there's no time to be shy or have self esteem issues. I was really scared, but I made myself be outgoing. On the first day, I made sure and introduced myself to everyone, I looked people in the eye and made sure to always have a smile on my face. I met a couple of nice people and asked to sit with them at lunch. Then I sat with new people the next day, and so on. In all of my classes, I made sure to speak loudly and make it look like I was super confident, even though I was freaking out inside. I talked to everyone, whether they seemed Cool/popular or not. Soon I stopped having to try to be outgoing, it just became natural. And you know what? Within the first couple of weeks, everyone knew my name, and I had tons of friends. My social life was thriving. To this day, I'm known as super confident, outgoing, and friendly, and I don't have a single enemy at my school (which has about 1500 people at it). I think if I had gone in there with my chin down and second guessing myself, no one would have given me a second thought. If I had allowed myself to be shy, I wouldn't have half the friends I do today. So seriously, even if you're scared, make yourself go talk to people. Don't be scared to flirt with the cute guy or talk to the popular girl. But also, don't forget about the nice guy who sits next to you in science or the girl who showed you where the bathroom was on the first day, because they deserve attention too. & that's really important. Most of all, let yourself have fun! A lot of people would kill for a chance to start over, a chance to become the person they want to be with no one there to know their past.
Good luck =)
Is there any good book you recomened? I love sad books, and I'm 13, any ideas?
Sarah Dessen is a wonderful author who writes great books for teenage girls (I don't know what gender you are, sorry) and she is always my most reccomended. Most of her books aren't really sad, but there are sad situations in a lot of them, like Dreamland, a book about abuse. My favorites by her are This Lullaby and The Truth About Forever.
My Sister's Keeper by Jodi Picoult is definitely a tearjerker. You should check that one out.
Also, you can try Go Ask Alice. It's the diary of a girl who gets into drug abuse.
Second Star to the Right by Deborah Hautzig
is about a girl with an eating disorder.
Hope you find some you like =)
Ok well its summer and all and i want to try to do a airbrush tan and the one where someone does it for you. it takes me a while to get tan and when i do it goes away after like a week....okay so i was wondering does it really work? or does it turn you orange?
I think that spray tans almost always look bad. Even when you get them done professionally. They make you look orange, or at the very best, they make you look dirty in some spots if it's not completely even (which is a problem even when someone does it for you). I would stay away from an airbrush tan, but if you know someone who gets it done, and theirs looks good, then go for it. But don't just randomly go to some salon where you've never seen their work, because that could turn out bad. The cost depends on where you go. Around here, they're about 30 bucks, give or take a few.
Good Luck =)
Ok. I really need help. How do you get mutual friends on facebook? I tried editing the details and confirming and I already have 116 friends, with no mutual friends. How do you get them I'm talking serious here!!! This is insane. Everyone has it. :(
That's because you can't have mutual friends with yourself.
When you go to your friends' pages, and you see "Mutual Friends", those are the people that you and that person BOTH have confirmed as a friend. When your friends go to your page, they see the Mutual Friends box. But you can't see your own, because it would just list every single friend you have, so you can't have mutual friends with yourself.
So yeah, you have it, it's just something you can't see.
*Yeah, and they change for everyone. It's just the friends you have in common, that you both have on your friend lists
which grade in high school is it usually required to read Great Expectations by Charles Dickens?
It depends on what level of English you are in. I had to read it in English 3-4, which I took when I was a freshman. Some people at my school, though, don't take that until they are a sophomore.
so ive made out before, but always with somewhat unexperienced guys. now this guy whose scored 53498936 girls wants to hook up with me
whats a way to practice kissing... like i heard you can like "kiss" ice cream or something
is there any other ways like that you could do
ive also heard about practicing on your pillow
Actually, I would say don't practice like that. You don't want to be too rehearsed when you make out with someone. It really is something that comes natural, and if you practice and think about it too much, then you're not going to listen to your natural instinct. You will do fine, and everything will come to you within the first minute.
So skip practicing on ice cream or pillows. Get plenty of practice with the guy instead =)
do you think itd be slutty for a 15 year old to take a belly dancing class at a gym? what would you think of it?
Having Sex with multiple partners while involving no emotion? That is slutty.
Taking a belly dancing class at a gym? Not at all. It's a great and fun way to stay in shape! Go for it! I'd love to do something like that myself, actually.
okay like 3 nights ago me and my bf broke up, and i found out yesturday he made out with this chick. it makes me think he never ever really liked me because he said he still cared for me after we broke up.and i'm really depressed,it sucks. i just need help,i need advice,how do i feel better?
Don't worry, 3 days is a really short period of time, it's normal to feel like this. It sounds like he is just looking for a rebound girl, and chances are it meant nothing. It doesn't mean that he never really liked you. Most guys don't give themselves time to heal after a relationship. They think the best thing to do is to hurry up and get other girls (I just read an article about this in a magazine, actually!). But that doesn't take away from their feelings about you. So don't let that get you down. Is it inconsiderate of your feelings? Absolutely! But you can't let yourself dwell on it.
Now, on feeling better... Everyone has their different methods to get over heartbreak. Some girls like to watch chick flicks and eat an entire carton of their favorite ice cream. Some like to go do something like window chalk their exboyfriends car. Some like to go pamper themselves and get a manicure or pedicure or something like that. Me? I turn to music. I find a song or a certain mix of songs and I just listen to them on repeat. I also write a lot. I may write poetry, or I may just write a big long blog rant, but it always makes me feel better. I also like having a girls night with my best friends. They're always there to make me laugh and trash talk HIS new girl with me, and it always helps a lot.
Good luck, things WILL get better soon =)
my friend is really pretty and likes to flirt with guys. once she was over my house and the guy that i liked was on so she gave him a link to her myspace and asked him what do you think of me. he wouldn't answer since he had a girlfriend. and she goes i can't wait till he breaks up with his girlfriend so he can tell me what he thought. then she put together this lunch so i could meet up with him but she started flirting with him and he asked her to be his girlfriend. she knew i liked him so she asked me what should say. i told her to say yes regardless my feelings and the next day after she said yes she bragged about getting him is she really a true friend?
Well it depends. Is this a consistant problem? Does she truly like this guy, or does she just want him to have him? Now, it seems considerate of her to ask you before she became this guy's girlfriend. However, that might not be the case. I think it sounds like this girl just likes male attention. If this is a consistant problem, or you think it might be in the future, then I would just forget about her. Don't tell her who you like anymore, that way she won't try to "steal" them away from you. There is nothing saying you can't still be friends with her, just know that she might not be the true friend you once though she was.
Now, if she really liked this guy, and this was just a one time thing, then maybe don't write her off just yet. Stuff happens, and no one can control their feelings, so if this wasn't intentional, try not to hold it against her. However, from the way you worded this, I don't think that was the case.
Good Luck =)
14/f
is it okay for a 17 year old guy (just turned 17) and a 14 (turning 15 soon) year old girl to go out?
i dont want to get him in trouble
Legally, it is completely fine to date him, no one can do anything about it. Now, there is a legal age of consent that varies by state, and if he's over it, and you're under it, than he could possibly get in trouble if you two have sex. That doesn't happen too often though. Just search google for your state's age of consent.
I really want to know because everyone else has already lost it and I'm 14 and I havent!
Woah woah woah. Everyone else hasn't lost it already, I promise. Almost all of my friends are still virgins. & they're all older than you by a few years.
There is no rush you lose your virginity. It's not something that should be taken lightly. Do it only when you're ready and in love. You will hate yourself when you're older if you don't treat this with the seriousness it deserves.
There is no right age to have sex. In my opinion, 14 is waaaay too young. But that is just my opinion. No one can give you a definite answer on this, because we don't know you. Only you will know when the time is right.